Do you have a boomerang ex?

Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Do you have an ex that comes back into your life throughout time? Do you have a hard time turning them down? Feel free to explain.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes I do.
15
No I don't.
25
Quite a few.
3
I have a hard time turning him/them down.
7
I don't have a hard time turning them down.
10
Other. Explain.
4
Total votes: 64 (47 voters)
Poll is closed
03/30/2012
  • Upgrade Your Hands-Free Play!
  • Long-distance pleasure set for couples
  • Save Extra 20% On Love Cushion And Toy Set!
  • Complete strap-on set for extra 15% off
  • Save 50% On Shower Nozzle With Enema Set
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I did in the respect that he kept contact, as in "trying to keep a foot in the door" but I wasn't for it.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
I have one of those, I had a hard time turning him down until I got into my current relationship.
I am so smitten with my beau, I completely ignore the boomerang.
03/30/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
No, thank goodness.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
Nope, sure don't.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Elaira Elaira
Oh geez. Over the last week there have been two.

The first one just apologized for things that went down between us that had caused us not to speak for several months.

And then, someone I dated for a couple months about two years ago just popped up out of the blue. When we had gotten together he had a pregnant future baby momma (from a drunken slip-up with a friend) in Florida. We were in Virginia. The whole time he assured me and was adamant that he had no desire to be with her romantically. I was cool with that and understood his responsibilities. No big deal. Then when she found out that I was around he flipped shit on him and started trashing me. Got overly dramatic and guilt tripped him. He ultimately gave in, dumped me in a really messy, and moved back to Florida. We hadn't spoken since.

Well, here it is almost two years later. I randomly got a Facebook message asking me how I've been and saying that he's spent the last couple of years trying to find me so he could apologize because he was sorry and had made a huge mistake. We did some catching up on the phone. It was obvious that we still got along like best friends.

Three days after that first message he make a 14 hour drive up here to stay for a week. Mostly to see me, but family as well. He's even planning on moving back here in a few months. There's nothing romantic in it anymore and we're much like best friends, but it's all strange.

This kind of thing happens EVERY TIME after a break up. Months go by and they pop up out of the blue to apologize and sometimes trying to get things back. I still don't understand it. I guess they just realize what they've missed out on?
03/30/2012
Contributor: Various Various
No, I've pretty much been with the same person forever.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
Not really, no one I've been with before has been close enough to make me want to keep coming back or vice versa.
03/30/2012
Contributor: funluvinmama funluvinmama
Most of my ex's are a part of my life as good friends.
My hubby was an ex that came back into my life 10 years ago.
03/30/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
No, I never had that even when I was on the dating scene. Seems like it could be painful or difficult to deal with. Once I was done dating them, I was just done with them, period.
03/30/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
No, I never had that even when I was on the dating scene. Seems like it could be painful or difficult to deal with. Once I was done dating them, I was just done with them, period.
Same here. Just not into that drama.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Tangles Tangles
I have an ex that will sometimes leave nasty comments on my blogs and videos on YouTube and make response blogs/videos and things like that. It's very annoying.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
When it's over, it's really over!
03/30/2012
Contributor: DiamondKoala DiamondKoala
Nope. I tend to have bad break ups so usually it's way too awkward for either of us to want to talk ever again.
03/30/2012
Contributor: MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
Do you have an ex that comes back into your life throughout time? Do you have a hard time turning them down? Feel free to explain.
Thank god no I don't lol. Only ex I have that is still in my life is my ex husband-only because we have kids together.
03/31/2012
Contributor: catsin catsin
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
Do you have an ex that comes back into your life throughout time? Do you have a hard time turning them down? Feel free to explain.
Clever term--I haven't heard that before "boomerang ex"--I'm gonna start using that. My situation is posted in the Long Term forum under Skyping to Keep it Together. I appreciate advice on the matter!!
03/31/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Elaira
Oh geez. Over the last week there have been two.

The first one just apologized for things that went down between us that had caused us not to speak for several months.

And then, someone I dated for a couple months about two years ago ... more
You don't know what you've got until it's gone, right?
03/31/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Tangles
I have an ex that will sometimes leave nasty comments on my blogs and videos on YouTube and make response blogs/videos and things like that. It's very annoying.
That would make me so mad! Isn't it possible to block him somehow?
03/31/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by catsin
Clever term--I haven't heard that before "boomerang ex"--I'm gonna start using that. My situation is posted in the Long Term forum under Skyping to Keep it Together. I appreciate advice on the matter!!
Yeah...boomerang is the only way I know to describe it, though sometimes I've been known to recycle exes. lol.
03/31/2012
Contributor: Clubbinseals Clubbinseals
No way.
04/01/2012
Contributor: Lizzy Lizzy
Boomerang ex, Nice. No i don't have any problems emotionally. I had a few who thought they could stalk me though.
04/03/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
I only have one ex and I keep him far, far away now. He doesn't know my new address or phone number, specifically because I couldn't turn him down and it'd just be bad news.
04/03/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I have before, but not in the last 6 years.
04/03/2012
Contributor: misskat misskat
AH! I definitely had one but I am through with him for good. Every time either of us found ourselves single throughout college and even a little after, we'd call each other up.
04/03/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
One I'm married, two I never dated much so I don't have anyone that would fit the qualifications. However, if I was single I have a friend for a booty call every now and then when we needed it.
04/03/2012
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
I have an ex that I still care for. I broke up with him terribly and was 19 and foolish. He's a sweet guy, he lives in Nova Scotia so no booty calls here, and we call and chitchat but otherwise, no. I usually get dumped so I don't bother back with them LOL
04/03/2012
Contributor: Elaira Elaira
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
You don't know what you've got until it's gone, right?
Haha. Well, apparently we ended up falling back in love with each other. Damn. It's like all those feelings never went away and only got stronger with time.

True love never dies or something, right?

But . . . he's still got things going on that keep him from me.



Crazy exes.
04/03/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
Do you have an ex that comes back into your life throughout time? Do you have a hard time turning them down? Feel free to explain.
I don't. I am friends with an old ex of mine. We talk from time to time, but neither of us is interested in rekindling anything. We've both grown our own ways, although oddly we're actually more similar than when we dated years ago.

My husband feels no threat from this man (of course, his living about 2 thousand miles away may have something to do with it. He comes back to town fairly frequently (he's a musician, what can I say? He's all over the country.) but we've never even gotten the urge to get together.

It's just an old friend. Very comfortable.

The others? I don't see them, I have no idea where most of them are. I don't really care.
04/03/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I used too. I had to put a stop to that.
04/03/2012
Contributor: xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
I have in the past but I shoved him off quickly. He is the past.
05/02/2012