Do You Ever Feel Excluded?

Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Do you feel excluded in certain groups on the internet or in life in general? Why do you think you feel this way? (Explain in comments.)
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I want to be part of the 'in' crowd
8  (11%)
No, it's just the internet it doesn't bother me
14  (19%)
Sometimes, but I usually get over it
51  (70%)
Total votes: 73
Poll is closed
07/10/2011
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Contributor: Wild Orchid Wild Orchid
I don't fit in with most crowds. On the Internet I have much easier time connecting. I suppose it's because I was pretty sheltered before I started going to school.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
I don't necessarily feel excluded, but I have friends who are in some areas that have a lot more things to do and get involved in and I hear about those things, I get a case of "wish I could be there".
07/10/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
I don't fit in with most crowds online or in real life. I have learned to accept the fact and it doesn't really bother me.
07/10/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
As an extreme introvert, I almost always feel not necessarily excluded, but on the fringe of group activities. I'm much more open when I'm with good friends, but on average, I'm that lingering person on the edge who can spend hours with people and never really know any of them.
07/10/2011
Contributor: CAKES CAKES
I think I have social anxiety. I often feel out of place, especially around people I don't know.
07/10/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
Do you feel excluded in certain groups on the internet or in life in general? Why do you think you feel this way? (Explain in comments.)
I am somewhat shy and read a lot, I tend to stay by myself until I can make an actual contribution to the conversation or whatever format is going on.
07/10/2011
Contributor: JessCee JessCee
I do feel that way sometimes online or in life in general... And not to sound like a shrink or anything, but I think its because my parents were.... well... not very accepting... when I was a little kid I remember feeling like everything I did was wrong, so I'm always second guessing myself and the people around me... but I think I deal with it alright.
07/10/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
I don't fit in either in the real world or on the internet. It does bother me but I have come to accept that its not going to change so whatever Im naturally an introvert and have social anxiety and panic for many reasons so I guess its for the good that I don't fit in but it'd be nice to have a friend or two lol
07/10/2011
Contributor: kittychilla kittychilla
all the time..i feel so horrible when i'm trying to talk and people just ignore me..
07/10/2011
Contributor: Gingy Gingy
I don't feel like I fit in anywhere and it has been bothering me for some time now. I just don't seem to beable to make human connections outside of the internet.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by Gingy
I don't feel like I fit in anywhere and it has been bothering me for some time now. I just don't seem to beable to make human connections outside of the internet.
I can't even seem to make them in real life or the internet. I'm glad you followed me on Eden, though. I followed you back.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Spoken Pandora Spoken Pandora
I consider myself a walking oxymoron and find that when I am in a crowd of other misfits I fit right in.
07/10/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
No, doesn't bother me
07/10/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
I'm pretty sure everyone feels left out at some time or another.
07/10/2011
Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
I don't. I cherish my individuality & doing my own thing & being my own leader way more than following some crowd.
07/10/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I have felt excluded before, but I just move on.
07/10/2011
Contributor: GravyCakes GravyCakes
i feel left out of my bf's group of friends a lot of the time. it's mostly b/c they are big into video games & it's pretty much all they talk about. it doesn't bother me most of the time, but sometimes, they'll all make jokes about something, & i feel left out of the loop.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Acorn Acorn
I've never felt excluded before, maybe because I'm an outgoing person. I also have always believed that if a certain group of people doesn't want me around, then I don't really want to be with them anyway.
07/11/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
all the time, but it does not bother me too much. I have my friends and family.
07/11/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
In real life, I like to be alone - in a crowd. Online I've not really had a problem. Actually, now that I think about it, I have, once or twice. I don't know why, but when I tried joining a few forums, I just didn't feel a connection to it and its members, yet with others I feel right at home. Weird.
07/11/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I don't feel excluded. Online, I've never come across a group that didn't really welcome me in. And for those who are too stuck up themselves to see the sun shine, I wouldn't want to hang out with a bunch of s.o.b's anyway.

In person, I prefer to be on my own, feeling free to do as I please. Things are often on my terms, so keeping to myself works out best for me.
But when I have wanted to interact with a group, I haven't had much trouble. But then, I don't want to socialise with people who think they above others.
07/11/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
It happens quite a bit in real life but I don't mind so much. On the internet, I think I just get frustrated when I feel excluded for no apparent reason. I guess it's because I tend to envy those who seem well-liked and I never get feedback on what I'm doing wrong. Meh.
07/14/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
I do not mind being excluded. This has happened to me my whole life. I am used to it. I do not fit in with many people. I am truly unique and like being this way!
09/09/2011
Contributor: PussyPurr PussyPurr
Wish there was an "other"...I feel like a misfit 24/7. It's a combination of a past of abuse, low self-esteem as a result, being bipolar and ADHD. I tend to alternate between being super outgoing and involved to withdrawn and hermit-like. It sucks sometimes. I once talked to a friend about it who grew up with abusive, alcoholic parents...he said his upbringing had a lot to do with him constantly feeling like a misfit.
09/09/2011