Do you call your spouse master or?

Contributor: SimpleTeaser SimpleTeaser
I notice a lot of references to "master" for SO. I don't call my husband master, it would actually go to his head, lol. I just wouldn't feel comfy calling him that anyways.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes I call him master
M.O.'s Girl , LusciousLollypop , Anne
3  (7%)
I call him/her by another name
bratofthekitties , Vanille , AshMegYo , Caitlin1 , Leather & Lace , HippieFeet , sumie
7  (15%)
No, I don't call him master or her?
SimpleTeaser , Peggi , darthkitt3n , Taylor , Gone (LD29) , Beck , Kindred , LoveYouLikeThat , cryinglightning86 , mpfm , MistressDandelion , deltalima , xOhxSoxScandalousx , Karmababe , Gunsmoke , Terri69 , xMila , T&A1987 , brevado , mlmac , kawigrl , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , butts , DeliciousSurprise , Sammi , bayosgirl , Lummox , dv8 , SneakersAndPearls , sexxxkitten , skeeterlynn
31  (67%)
Other
g- , pirata , Talena , Sir , Undecided
5  (11%)
Total votes: 46
Poll is closed
06/23/2012
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Contributor: Peggi Peggi
No, but we don't have that type of relationship either, we only add in some dom and sub situations during play but not as a habit
06/23/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I call him "Sir" or sometimes "Daddy" but I don't really call him Master ever.
06/23/2012
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
No, but we're not much into D/s situations. Every couple (or moresome) likes something different.
06/23/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
No. I don't like the idea of calling him master. But maybe daddy. However he doesn't like it. So it's just hubby.
06/23/2012
Contributor: bratofthekitties bratofthekitties
I call him Daddy, when possible, because that's what he likes. Realistically, I don't get to call him Daddy much out of the bedroom. I think the more accurate label for his role in our relationship would be Owner, but he likes being called Daddy and it's not my place to say otherwise.
06/23/2012
Contributor: cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
I like some D/s situations, and I to tend to be the sub, but I've always resented the idea of calling someone "master" or "sir" or anything like that. I don't like the feeling of ownership to extend that far. I don't want to be anyone's slave, and that's what that would feel like to me. I also wouldn't be comfortable with being referred to as "mistress" or "madam" or anything. I want to be on par with my lover, even if we are playing with submission. To me, it's just play, but to call my boyfriend "master" would make it feel like more than play, if that makes sense.

I call my boyfriend by general affectionate nicknames, like "love," "sweetheart," "baby," so on. It's no different in the bedroom.
06/23/2012
Contributor: MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
I don't call him master, he calls me Mistress (even if I'm male, I prefer the sound of mistress, because master makes me think of Peter Pettigrew and that's very unsexy)
06/23/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
No, but we don't have that type of relationship either, we only add in some dom and sub situations during play but not as a habit
Same here. It's not a lifestyle for us, just something to try.
06/23/2012
Contributor: xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
It would make me laugh too much to ever call my husband "master". LOL.
06/23/2012
Contributor: g- g-
I only call him master sarcastically.
I do however enjoy sir or Mr.(our last name)
06/23/2012
Contributor: M.O.'s Girl M.O.'s Girl
I call Him Master, but in private. Since I live as His slave, it only makes sense.
06/23/2012
Contributor: Karmababe Karmababe
i've never called him master even tho we are in BDSM lifestyle , and i think if i did call him that outside of playtime it would upset him as he wants me to have my own mind and freewill , we dont feel the need to carry it into regular life...
06/23/2012
Contributor: wdanas wdanas
Nope, I call him "dear." But then, we don't have any sort of lifestyle where either of us would need/use that title.
06/23/2012
Contributor: SimpleTeaser SimpleTeaser
I only reference mine as "daddy" or "dad" when it's about our kids.
06/23/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We not in a power-exchange relationship. She's just my Sweetie - she usually calls me Babe.
06/23/2012
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
We don't have a D/s relationship at all. We're equals. I could never call him master or any other dominant name. We're not married yet, but soon. I also refuse to call him a few other names, like hubby, because it just doesn't fit with him.

He's my darling, and that's it. If I'm referring to him to someone else, I call him my significant other, or, when we do get married, my husband or my other half.
06/23/2012
Contributor: AshMegYo AshMegYo
I usually just say his name
06/23/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
LOLLOLLOL!!!! No...never!
06/24/2012
Contributor: xMila xMila
I don't call him master.
06/24/2012
Contributor: T&A1987 T&A1987
I noticed this to, I figured it was a S&M thing. If one or both parties enjoy the hierarchy thing, I get it, but neither of us do, so no.
06/24/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
No. I don't like the idea of calling him master. But maybe daddy. However he doesn't like it. So it's just hubby.
LOL! I think your husband and mine are similar. He doesn't like it when I call him "Daddy." (Even though he's the Daddy of our kids.) I don't call him Master, or Sir unless I'm messing with him. Most of the time, he'll mess right back and say, "That's what I want to hear!" But, in all honestly, I just call him by his name or some silly nick name.
06/24/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by T&A1987
I noticed this to, I figured it was a S&M thing. If one or both parties enjoy the hierarchy thing, I get it, but neither of us do, so no.
I think it's pretty much a Power and Dominance thing. But, not all couples who work within the power dynamic in their relationship use these terms. It depends on the couple or the relationship.

I'm too much of a Brat to ever call him this without goofing around, and I don't think he'd really like it. But, I know of relationships who work their Power Dynamic this way and it works out well for them.
06/24/2012
Contributor: brevado brevado
Not a sub, so not really appropriate
06/24/2012
Contributor: mlmac mlmac
No. That doesn't fly in our relationship.
06/24/2012
Contributor: butts butts
Nooooooooo way. We're equals and don't really like that whole master-slave play, we call each other by name.

"daddy" always creeped me out REALLY badly. augh
06/24/2012
Contributor: Talena Talena
Sometimes if we are roleplaying D/s I will but all other times I call him my dork lol
06/24/2012
Contributor: SimpleTeaser SimpleTeaser
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
We not in a power-exchange relationship. She's just my Sweetie - she usually calls me Babe.
I call him "babe" or "baby" a lot.
06/24/2012
Contributor: SimpleTeaser SimpleTeaser
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
LOL! I think your husband and mine are similar. He doesn't like it when I call him "Daddy." (Even though he's the Daddy of our kids.) I don't call him Master, or Sir unless I'm messing with him. Most of the time, he'll ... more
I know someone whose husband expects her to call him "Sir?" when he calls to her. He told me that I "NEED" to be doing the same for my husband or ANY man who calls for my attention including him. Sorry, not my thing and I let him know this real quick.
06/24/2012
Contributor: SimpleTeaser SimpleTeaser
Quote:
Originally posted by butts
Nooooooooo way. We're equals and don't really like that whole master-slave play, we call each other by name.

"daddy" always creeped me out REALLY badly. augh
It would creep me out in bedroom talk. That's why I'll only reference him as Dad or Daddy when it comes to the kids.
06/24/2012