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Do you believe in revenge sex in the case of a cheating partner?

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Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
Another question based on a porn genre I've seen...videos of girls having sex with other people beside their partner to get revenge on their cheating partner.

So the question is...if you are cheated on, would you or have you got revenge by cheating on them?

If yes, did you keep it a secret or rub their nose in it?

I'm honestly expecting the majority of answers to say no, they would simply leave their partner, but I'm interested in your answers none the less.
03/28/2013
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Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
No, I wouldn't because I have more respect for myself.
03/28/2013
Contributor: butts butts
I wouldn't "cheat" (however you may define that) just because my partner did, but unfortunately I've experienced this. It's definitely a real thing, but I sure wish it wasn't.
03/28/2013
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Martiniman
Another question based on a porn genre I've seen...videos of girls having sex with other people beside their partner to get revenge on their cheating partner.

So the question is...if you are cheated on, would you or have you got revenge ... more
I've come very close.
03/28/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
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Originally posted by Martiniman
Another question based on a porn genre I've seen...videos of girls having sex with other people beside their partner to get revenge on their cheating partner.

So the question is...if you are cheated on, would you or have you got revenge ... more
no, not for me
03/28/2013
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
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Originally posted by Zombirella
No, I wouldn't because I have more respect for myself.
This. Even if I could and might think about it, I wouldn't ultimately do it. It might make you feel good in the heat of the moment, but after you're left with what you did. Not worth it.

The best revenge is success and happiness
03/28/2013
Contributor: mpfm mpfm
No, I think integrity is more important than revenge. I also agree with Mwar that the best revenge is success and happiness.
03/28/2013
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
Absolutely not. It doesn't fix the problem. It just escalates it.
03/28/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I would be beyond brokenhearted if my husband cheated on me. The last thing on my mind would be payback. Not only that, but even if he did something like that to me, I would never want him to go through that same pain of me betraying him in the same way. I would leave him, and move on with my life.
03/28/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
No. If we were going to try and work past the cheating (yeah I said it), it would be another huge obstacle to overcome. I cheated 5 months ago, and we worked through it. If he were to cheat, I don't know if I could handle it. Plus, with having a kid, if we were to break up, it would cause more tension between us. Nothing worse than a custody battle where both parties cheated. I grew up with that, and it sucks.
03/28/2013
Contributor: hillys hillys
Not if it was in a relationship, but I've considered it for other occasions. (still angry at an ex per say, and the roommate is available), but I end up holding myself together and not going through with it because I shouldn't hurt someone emotionally even if they are an ex.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I think if you want to try and salvage the relationship, then trying to get "revenge" is about the worst thing you can do. If you don't think you can salvage the relationship, then why cheat? Why not just end the relationship and move on?
03/28/2013
Contributor: rosythorn rosythorn
NO!, if I was that mad, I would break up. I don`t like cheating. In movies I usually get so mad when people cheat, some exceptions, like The Waitress.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Hazeleyes2012 Hazeleyes2012
No.. It would only add more grief to an already has situation...
03/28/2013
Contributor: underHim underHim
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Originally posted by Zombirella
No, I wouldn't because I have more respect for myself.
Hit the nail on the head with that one. Now hire a nasty prostitute who I know has a disease to sleep with him, maybe.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I cannot imagine being able to perform when filled with hurt, anger, betrayal, and disgust. There's simply no room for me to think of sex in all that.

Of course, my idea of revenge would be throwing their shit out on the lawn with a sign reading "Cheater's Crap - FREE for pick up!" Public humiliation makes more sense to me than screwing the first loser I can find. (You never where where that loser's been! It might be carrying something!)
03/28/2013
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
Another question based on a porn genre I've seen...videos of girls having sex with other people beside their partner to get revenge on their cheating partner.

So the question is...if you are cheated on, would you or have you got revenge ... more
No I would not and did not cheat on my partner after learning that he had cheated on me. Two wrongs can't make it right and I knew that hurting him wouldn't make me feel better nor would I want to be the one someone cheated with for revenge. Sex should be with someone you are attracted to and actually care about!

Learning that your partner has stepped out or broken your trust is a horrible and demeaning situation, compounding it by acting childish doesn't make it easier to deal with.

I chose to stick with my partner and work on the issues that lead to his lying and sneaking around behavior and I am VERY glad that I did. Our life is much better now and our relationship is more mature and fulfilling. It wouldn't have come to this point as easy as it did (and nothing about this process was easy!) if I had stepped out just to hurt him.

Besides what are you proving? That you are just as sneaky and capable of cheating as your partner was?
03/28/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
no, I don't see how that would make me feel better about the situation. even if it did help me feel better, I doubt that I'd do it. oh hell, I'm not perfect - I just might.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
no, not for me either.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
I'd end the relationship & then I would sleep with whomever I wanted.

So what's the appeal of staying, but cheating, too? If I'm going to stay, then I want at least a fighting chance to make it work & my cheating would hamper that.

I suppose the idea is that you hurt the other person like they did you? Well wouldn't it be more shaming for them to know they are the only one who damaged the relationship? I think they might find solace in the fact that you are as "bad" as they, should you also cheat.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
I'd end the relationship & then I would sleep with whomever I wanted.

So what's the appeal of staying, but cheating, too? If I'm going to stay, then I want at least a fighting chance to make it work & my cheating would ... more
Exactly, that's another aspect - they won't be hurt, because you doing is just condoning the behavior and makes it "okay". "Must be all right - you're doing it, too."

All rather juvenile, really. I'm glad I left high school.
03/28/2013
Contributor: srexom srexom
absolutly not.
03/28/2013
Contributor: KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
I don't know. I think this is one of those situations where I wouldn't know unless I had it happen. It would be easy to say no, but I can't say for sure how I would feel if it did happen to me.
03/28/2013
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
No. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
03/28/2013
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
No, for the reasons already stated.
03/28/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
Another question based on a porn genre I've seen...videos of girls having sex with other people beside their partner to get revenge on their cheating partner.

So the question is...if you are cheated on, would you or have you got revenge ... more
Nooo way. I haven't ever done it and definitely would not want to go there. I can understand feeling betrayed and getting upset, and even having the urge for revenge, but in the end, I doubt it'd make me feel any better. I think I'd just feel as low as the person who cheated on me. I'd try to "rise above," ya know?
03/29/2013
Contributor: The Vixen The Vixen
Nope, I would be incredibly hurt and betrayed, but I wouldn't stoop to the same level.
03/29/2013
Contributor: peachmarie peachmarie
I would do it, I would bone some dude and maybe a girl tell him and leave.
03/29/2013
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
I have done it and yes I rubbed it in his nose. And I LOVED EVERY MINUTE OF IT!!! HE CAN GO TO HELL......
03/30/2013
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by underHim
Hit the nail on the head with that one. Now hire a nasty prostitute who I know has a disease to sleep with him, maybe.
LOL, there ya go! I'm not gonna lie, I'd probably picture in my head, me beating the hell out of both of them, won't go into details though!
03/30/2013