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Contributor: js250 js250
Everyone deals with emotional pain in different ways. I thought it may be enlightening to compare the feelings and means of dealing with hurt, to see just how others cope and compare it to how you cope.

--Multiple choice answers.
--Private poll.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Angry.
19
Depressed.
20
Violent.
Emotional.
18
Moody
15
Withdrawn.
30
Bitter.
15
Vengeful.
3
Suicidal.
3
Reckless.
5
Drunk/drugged.
6
Lost & alone.
13
Other--please let us know.
6
Total votes: 153 (38 voters)
Poll is closed
05/16/2013
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Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I get awesome!
05/16/2013
Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Most of them except violent, vengeful, suicidal, reckless, or drunk/drugged.
05/16/2013
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Everyone deals with emotional pain in different ways. I thought it may be enlightening to compare the feelings and means of dealing with hurt, to see just how others cope and compare it to how you cope.

--Multiple choice answers.
--Private poll.
Angry, depressed, withdrawn, and bitter. I don't cope well, but should you really have to cope well when individuals betray you?
05/16/2013
Contributor: Allstars316 Allstars316
I get angry and emotional. But I normally get over it after a while or when I talk to someone about it.
05/16/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I'm a deeply feeling person and experience a broad range of emotions; anger, depression, bitterness, etc. I become withdrawn and feel extremely lost, especially when it's someone really close to me.
05/16/2013
Contributor: pixiedustVixen pixiedustVixen
yeah my feelings are off the charts i manic depression runs in my family so when i cry i MONSOON and its like i cry at almost all the sad little things i think about during the day even though i take medicine for it still being hurt sucks!
05/16/2013
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I get sad and withdrawn and I cry a lot. Very rarely do I get angry
05/16/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
I get moody, withdrawn and feel alone. Unable to deal with conflicts directly I pull in on myself until I'm in a better frame of mind, usually 2 days until I figure a rational way to deal with it passively.
05/16/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I'm not very good with dealing with being hurt. I get extremely depressed. I tend to lock myself away from everyone for a while. I end up feeling like I'm alone and will always be alone.
05/16/2013
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
I get confused.

I don't understand why people do the things they do, so I spend lots of time talking about situations and trying to get answers. It annoys the crap out of people who have to listen to me though. But since I have to listen to them... It's pretty fair in my eyes!
05/16/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I mostly withdraw and regroup. In most cases I find that resurrecting the old will never happen - so I take time to let my self grieve and heal, then move forward. To me the grieving and healing have to be done more or less in private - and not complicated by new relationships.
05/16/2013
Contributor: wicked48 wicked48
Definitely emotional, moody & withdrawn.
05/16/2013
Contributor: KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
It depends on the person and what was done. My main ones are emotional, moody, and withdrawn though.
05/16/2013
Contributor: Real or memorex Real or memorex
I feel sad and withdrawn.
05/16/2013
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
I either get grumpy or just walk away because it's not worth it
05/16/2013
Contributor: surreptitious surreptitious
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Quote:
Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
I get awesome!
05/16/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
I dont really stop to think about it when someone hurts me. I guess it does not bother me very much.
05/16/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Quote:
Originally posted by surreptitious
Very nice!
05/17/2013
Contributor: butts butts
Depends on the situation, every occasion is different for me. Usually when I'm upset in general, I want to be alone for a while, then I get a weird spike of desperately wanting social interaction. If I don't get both, I unintentionally end up sulking longer.
05/17/2013
Contributor: RaspberryRogue RaspberryRogue
It depends what happened and how bad it was or how hurt I am. When it's really bad I usually go through stages like I'll be sad, then confused, then mad, then sad again, then withdrawn, then mad, then drunk, then sad, then drunk, and so on lol. Eventually I get better, but I haven't been that hurt in a few years. Last time it was an almost endless cycle for about six months...my ex is an asshole... *rolls eyes*
05/17/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
I default to anger pretty quickly, as well as outrage, one, at them for being despicable, & two, at myself for not seeing it coming/avoiding it/letting it happen, etc. I withdraw from them, but not other people, I process better talking about it. In general, I have set up strong barriers over the years to avoid being hurt, because I have had to, I'm very sensitive. So, not much hurts me, nor do people know how to really hurt me. But, when it does happen, I always try to learn from it; I like to understand why/how it happened & thus prevent a similar thing happening in the future, or at least know how to deal with it if it does.
05/17/2013
Contributor: gwenevieve gwenevieve
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Everyone deals with emotional pain in different ways. I thought it may be enlightening to compare the feelings and means of dealing with hurt, to see just how others cope and compare it to how you cope.

--Multiple choice answers.
--Private poll.
i have really bad anxiety so i mostly just get really anxious/depressed/bitt er/angry at myself all at once and kind of suicidal but not really like, i wouldnt try to kill myself (again) but the thought is usually in my head simply because im pissed and anxious
05/17/2013
Contributor: Sera26 Sera26
too many of those to just choose a few, I've been dealing with rejection for so long I thought I'd get a bit more used to it, but I don't
05/17/2013