Dating outside your race..

Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
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Originally posted by joja
White woman here. I've dated black men, Asian men, and white men. Currently with an Asian man.
HA, This is funny! As soon as I read this, I thought yummy! I have a secret thing for Asian men. I've always wanted to date one, maybe one day! My fiance asked me "would I date a Asian man". With out thinking twice I said "HELL YEA!!!". He was kinda shocked, I guess most girls he asked in the past said "No".
06/11/2012
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
Quote:
Originally posted by joja
White woman here. I've dated black men, Asian men, and white men. Currently with an Asian man.
HA, This is funny! As soon as I read this, I thought yummy! I have a secret thing for Asian men. I've always wanted to date one, maybe one day! My fiance asked me "would I date a Asian man". With out thinking twice I said "HELL YEA!!!". He was kinda shocked, I guess most girls he asked in the past said "No".
06/11/2012
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
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Originally posted by LadyDarknezz
I've only dated outside of my race, too and it caused lots of problems on his side. My parents don't care since our family is mixed with lots of different races.

I was even told the exact same thing that your friend was told, ... more
Same here. I'm glad it hasn't ever been a problem on my side, but it makes it a little harder to empathize with them because I just don't get it.

UGH! That's so terrible! I'm so sorry you have to deal with those ignorant jerks D:< they're definitely missing out, and you deserve better anyway!
06/11/2012
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
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Originally posted by Ansley
I think there is a very fine line between racism and personal preference when it comes down to it.
I'd have to agree with you.
06/11/2012
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
HA! I'm with you. I've only ever dated out of my race. Where I grew up, most of the black males were high school dropouts. With 2-3 baby-mama's and some selling drugs and it turned me off black men somewhat. I would very much date a black ... more
Lol! Almost all of the white guys in my high school were racist potheads who never went to class and dated multiple girls at once. People would ask me if I had a "race fetish" all the time. I just wanted a smart, faithful guy, and none of the white boys fit that description. Oh well!

That is completely disgusting. How could someone reach adulthood with that attitude, let alone with the belief that it was acceptable to tell someone that to their face?! I don't know how you managed to deal with her
06/11/2012
Contributor: Benzedrine Benzedrine
I'm not attracted to skin colour as much as I am bone structure... and I like a more sleek, slender, feminine structure. It seems generally easier to find the kind of facial structure I find attractive in my own race... but this one dude I dated with THE MOST PERFECT FACE I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY ENTIRE LIFE was black/white bi-racial. GOD that boy was gorgeous. Ugh.
06/11/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
So I've obviously been watching too much Star Trek because when I first saw this poll I instantly thought other races as in Klingons, Cardassians, and Vulcans and things not part of the human race rather than Asians, Native Americans, etc. lol

I'm white and I have been on dates with guys who weren't white, but never dated any of them for more than a month or so. I'm not opposed to the idea of it though.
06/11/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
Great question. I don't really care who I date as long as it's someone good and worthy.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
For me it's not about race, i just have a thing for pale skin.
06/12/2012
Contributor: EdenUser EdenUser
My parents are against me dating outside my race but I don't really care.
06/12/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
i have dated out side on my race in my younger days
06/12/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I honestly don't care about race and find people from all different races attractive. I did have a crush on a boy that was half black in high school and my mom told me about how some of the older people on my dad's side are all "no you don't do that" and it upset me. I have cousins that are half black and some people on that side of the family didn't talk to my aunt for many, many years. Then when everyone made up and one of my cousins started dating a black guy they wouldn't let her bring him around. It was BS. When I was younger I cared what my family thought but now I really wouldn't.
I briefly dated a guy that was half Mexican in high school and looked it. No one seemed to have a problem with that. It's weird how they are okay with some and not with others.
I really don't care and don't even look twice when I see different race couples. Skin color has nothing to do with who a person really is inside and they shouldn't be treated any differently because of it.
When it comes down to it I don't think there really is a "pure" race left anymore. Everyone is made up of small or large parts of several different races/ethnicities.
I was taught to not care about race and not to discriminate growing up. My parents wouldn't have had a problem with it but they were just worried about how I would be treated by the one side by certain people.
06/12/2012
Contributor: VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
I'm completely fine with other people dating different races. It doesn't bother me to see it. I'm not racist at all but I just feel more attracted to my own race. I have no idea why but that's just how I am.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Life's Little Secrets Life's Little Secrets
I voted that I am currently in an interracial relationship and it doesn't bother me. Being a dark skinned Hispanic (I am half Hispanic and half German but I am very dark skinned) in the South, it's hard to date girls from a different race. Just the other week I was at the grocery store where my gf works and seen a white male with a nazi symbols tattooed all over him and it made me very nervous. Since my gf is very white we commonly get starred at but it doesn't bother either of us.
06/12/2012
Contributor: lisasharrer lisasharrer
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
I was wondering how people feel about interracial relationships?

I know some people are cool with it, and some just don’t agree with it at all. I know some who don't because their family would just about disown them.

Growing up, my ... more
i think if u like then it dont matter
06/12/2012
Contributor: Sir Sir
I'm not attracted or unattracted. I honestly don't think about it. I have been with people outside of my race and I've been with people who are of similar race to me. I do not feel attraction to people based on any physical traits, race being one of them, so to say that I am specifically attracted to people of differing race would be a fallacy; in fact, it would be a fallacy to say that I am attracted to people of similar race. I'm not.

Nothing wrong with people being with others who are of differing race. Again, not something that I think about. It's perfectly fine.
06/12/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
I am very physically attracted to people outside of my race, not any specific races necessarily. But, what it really down to is how a person treats me.
06/12/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
I was wondering how people feel about interracial relationships?

I know some people are cool with it, and some just don’t agree with it at all. I know some who don't because their family would just about disown them.

Growing up, my ... more
It's not something that bothers me at all. Just like with abortion and other things, if I don't like them, I simply won't do them, but I ain't gonna complain or try and take away other's rights to do so. I'm not against dating outside your race. That is just really insane to me and I don't understand where the idea that it's wrong came from? Does anyone else know? Anyways, I haven't ever found myself attracted to someone of another race besides mine, but no big deal if I did happen to. I'm pretty positive I won't be dating anyone else or be attracted to anyone else besides my partner, but I really think there are more important things that worrying about who dates what race.
06/12/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
HA! I'm with you. I've only ever dated out of my race. Where I grew up, most of the black males were high school dropouts. With 2-3 baby-mama's and some selling drugs and it turned me off black men somewhat. I would very much date a black ... more
AW! How horrible that someone told you that you'd burn in hell. Screw her! You are not going to burn in hell because of that. I'm a firm believer in God and I read my bible--the "explained" version thank you, but I still read! LOL. I simply cannot interpret the bible without the explanation below every sentence. Sad, I know, but I really wanted to understand it so I invested in a good bible KJV, that explains for me. Now, what I'm getting to is, nowehere in my bible have I EVER seen anything say that it is a sin to date outside your race. No siree. Miss Nessa, you date whoever you please. The person who told you that should be ashamed of her OWN SELF for giving you false, nasty information. That is horrible and she is the type of person who give all Christians a bad name.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
Dark hair and warm brown eyes are most attractive to me. Every ethnic group on this planet has people that fit that, though I do have a preference for black women. Yes, I'm open to it and have before.

On the other hand, it can bring up issues that are difficult to deal with in the long term. Internalized racism on some people's parts. Plain ole' racism too. It's very complex. So, I can see why most people marry within their own group whether they find other people attractive or not. Love should conquer all, but life is often more complicated than that. Both people need to be fully invested to get through any awkward or subconsciously hurtful racial dynamics in my experience.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
I could care less about race
06/12/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I tend to be more attracted to those outside my race because I was raised not to favor men in my own race (yes, bad, I know, but it's hard unlearning this stuff).
06/12/2012
Contributor: Envy Envy
I really don't like saying 'race' as I prefer to say 'ethnicity.'

That said, I'm more attracted to those who are Caucasian, but I HAVE dated guys who were mixed races, mostly Asian and Mexican, and while they did have Caucasian in them, they looked more Asian and/or Mexican.

To me it's all about personality, but those relationships never lasted mostly due to meddling by family, me getting cheated on, and/or habits/quirks about the people I just didn't like. (Such as alcoholism.)

My dad was NOT pleased. Family believes in staying with your own 'race.'
06/12/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I don't think it's wrong to date outside of your own race. I have personally never dated outside of my race but mostly because I grew up in a mostly white small town. There were less than a handful of non white people in my high school. I think there is a fine line between personal preference and racism when it comes to dating.

Should I have dated outside of my race, some of my family wouldn't understand or worse. However, I blame their upbringing. Growing up in the South in the 1950's to parents who grow up at even earlier times, you are brainwashed with hatred. And then you pass that hatred, until finally it stops or gets worse.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
I was wondering how people feel about interracial relationships?

I know some people are cool with it, and some just don’t agree with it at all. I know some who don't because their family would just about disown them.

Growing up, my ... more
Nationality is CHANCE. "Color" is CHANCE and goes about 1/18th of an inch (Under that, believe me, you couldn't tell the most pale Norwegian from the darkest skinned African, the Reddest Native American from the most yellow Asian....so getting hung up on 1/18th of an inch seems really stupid.
Religion tends to be where you were born, more then anything else....so the bottom line, to me? It is THE INDIVIDUAL and who THEY are, that matters.
06/12/2012
Contributor: joja joja
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
HA, This is funny! As soon as I read this, I thought yummy! I have a secret thing for Asian men. I've always wanted to date one, maybe one day! My fiance asked me "would I date a Asian man". With out thinking twice I said "HELL ... more
Agreed!

Overall, though, I've noticed I tend to find people of mixed race most attractive. One of the hottest men I've ever met was half black, half Asian. Hot damn was he fine.
06/12/2012
Contributor: ghalik ghalik
I don't care about race. I care about intelligence, personality, body type, etc. That said, I think my family (parts) would be a little uncomfortable if I were serious about someone of another race. Probably not in a racist way because I don't think any of them are racist, but in an "oh boy I don't know how to act around this person" sort of way.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Envy
I really don't like saying 'race' as I prefer to say 'ethnicity.'

That said, I'm more attracted to those who are Caucasian, but I HAVE dated guys who were mixed races, mostly Asian and Mexican, and while they did have ... more
The truth is, however, that there are very few pure "lines" of ethnicity anyway!!!! If you look genetically, we are ALL "mutt's" and as time goes on, we will ALL have more mixing going on. I think the one race we should ALL belong to...and CHERISH, is the HUMAN RACE. (Although my hubby did date a girl once, who I am sure was part bulldog, but THAT is another story)!
06/12/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
I was wondering how people feel about interracial relationships?

I know some people are cool with it, and some just don’t agree with it at all. I know some who don't because their family would just about disown them.

Growing up, my ... more
Ha, Ha...leave it to my hubby. He walks in, looks at this question and says "I think, SPRINTERS SHOULD ONLY DATE SPRINTERS, and MARATHONERS SHOULD JUST DATE MARATHONERS...and that's THAT" "It's those darn MIDDLE DISTANCE RUNNERS that cannot make up their minds" "If everyone starts marrying outside their "RACE", all we will have is HALF MILERS. What kind of Olympics would THAT leave????!!!!

I love the guy. See's humor EVERYWHERE.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I don't care about race, it's more about personality and how someone treats you, etc.
06/12/2012