Comfort Each Other

Contributor: SecretToyLover2 SecretToyLover2
This is not a game, so I did not post it in the game section. We're all going through hard times and I thought it would be nice to just have a post where we can write our problems, seek advice, and be comforted by one another. Whether it's in a private message (just say "message me") or right here on the post, which is encouraged. Post what you're going through, and let's comfort each other.

I'll start.

My husband has been in the hospital for two weeks now with a kidney infection. It's really bad. He's slowly getting better but it worried me terribly to see him in pain that way.

This may sound weird as well, but I'm starting to induce lactation. Not exactly for sexual reasons (although it's a turn on with my partner) but more of a comfort thing. It's not any sort of infantilism or incest fetish (I always have to clear this up because people get it all wrong). Anyhow, I told my best friend. We tell each other everything since we were girls. She told me I was a freak and messed up in the head. I don't see how this is bad? I'm not messed up in the head, doing anything sinful, or hurting anyone. I'm just inducing lactation because my husband really enjoys it and so do I. He's always sucked my breasts and fallen asleep throughout our relationship. Not to act like a baby, but just because he feels comfort. Why not take it all the way?

Anyhow. That's what's literally stressing me out to the max this week. Your turn! No judgement, just let it all out!
03/30/2012
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Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by SecretToyLover2
This is not a game, so I did not post it in the game section. We're all going through hard times and I thought it would be nice to just have a post where we can write our problems, seek advice, and be comforted by one another. Whether it's in ... more
YOu have the right to do with your body as you see fit. Three are studies that show lactation is actually good for the breasts, at the very least I've never heard about it being harmful. This is something that appeals to you and to your man, don't be ashamed or allow yourself to be shamed. Your friend has some issues and it's a shame she cannot accept you fetishes and all.

I do hope your guy feels better soon, kidney infections are painful and nasty...been there and done that! Love to you both, and hopefully your hard work will pay off. I tried to successfully breastfeed three times and I dried up within the first three months.
03/30/2012
Contributor: SecretToyLover2 SecretToyLover2
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
YOu have the right to do with your body as you see fit. Three are studies that show lactation is actually good for the breasts, at the very least I've never heard about it being harmful. This is something that appeals to you and to your man, ... more
Oh no! Well I've been talking to a friend (no idea she did it, but thank God she told me because I obviously no longer have a supportive best friend...) and she said that nipples/breasts apparently create a butter like substance naturally and store it for post-lactation to help them stop. And if you don't get the stuff out, it will clog you up and cause your lactation to stop! She sent me the link to Land of Milk and Honey and on the "Articles of Interest" page you can find a link to "New Couples Advice" and it talks about it. She said that she had breastfed about... Two times I believe. And she said she had dried up as well. But she found this website, got the stuff out (husband thought it was delicious and my husband licked his lips at this lmao) and she has lactated with a constant flow after that. Doesn't even have to pump on time each day.

What were your methods?
03/30/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I have never heard of this before.
How exactly does that happen? I thought you only develop milk in the breasts when you are with child....? I'm curious.
I hope I don't sound ignorant but I don't if you're pregnant or not so was just wondering...
03/30/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
Have fun with it. It sucks when you tell a friend something thinking they will be supportive but are not. Sorry to hear.

My son has cochlear implants and there was a recall. One has already failed and had to be replaced (incase someone doesn't know a cochlear implant is a surgically implanted device for those who cannot hear who hearing aids don't help). I am terrified the other one may fail as well he is 2 1/2 and has already had 3 separate surgeries. One craniosynostosis repair. One bilateral cochlear implantation. One surgery to replace the failed recalled device.
03/30/2012
Contributor: wildorchid wildorchid
First of all, kidney infection suck and are nothing to sneeze at. I hope you're man gets better soon.

Hugs because your friend is so close minded. You body is yours to do with what you will and you are not hurting anyone; in fact, I believe you're doing just the opposite. I too am curious as to how someone initiates this without being pregnant. The idea has always been a turn on for myself. Good luck, I hope you succeed.

@underHim: I'm so sorry to hear about your son's implants, the same thing recently happened to my friend and the surgery is not fun. Hugs again because it's the only thing I can offer.

Does anyone have tips on way to tell my guy that I use Eden? I would love to involve him a little more. So far his involvement is that I ask him weird and random questions from time to time that I have come across on the forum (so that I can accurately tell his side of the story too). I just want him to be okay with me being on Eden. My fear is probably groundless and he is absolutely wonderful when it comes to everything, including sex. Anywhozzle, any advice would be great.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by wildorchid
First of all, kidney infection suck and are nothing to sneeze at. I hope you're man gets better soon.

Hugs because your friend is so close minded. You body is yours to do with what you will and you are not hurting anyone; in fact, I ... more
"Hey honey, you know those awesome new beads I got and that girl I talk about all the time who is so super helpful, yeah well all of that is because of a website called Edenfantasys. It's a unique commercial site that is both resourceful and full of seriously kickass people and anyway, I do reviews for them. I don't like reveal personal information in a way that's going to hurt us, but yeah...so what do you think? Wanna check it out with me?"
03/30/2012
Contributor: wildorchid wildorchid
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Originally posted by Ansley
"Hey honey, you know those awesome new beads I got and that girl I talk about all the time who is so super helpful, yeah well all of that is because of a website called Edenfantasys. It's a unique commercial site that is both resourceful and ... more
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03/30/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
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Originally posted by SecretToyLover2
This is not a game, so I did not post it in the game section. We're all going through hard times and I thought it would be nice to just have a post where we can write our problems, seek advice, and be comforted by one another. Whether it's in ... more
Sending hugs and offering support. I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's kidney issues! I hope he is better soon! When a loved one is in the hospital I find it totally meeses with my perception of time and what is going on in the outside world! I hope you are taking care of yourself too during this stressful time! And talk about bad timing! I'm sorry about the bad reaction of your friend! It sounds like she doesn't get it. I hope this doesn't sound trite, but you might as well know now that she isn't on your side now so that you can begin investing in more supportive relationships! I want to reiterate what Airen said. Whatever you and your husband find mutually satifying is a good thing! No one has the right to say it is not! In fact no one else's opinion matters at all. It is about what works for you and your husband!

I am home from work today with a bad cold.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
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Originally posted by SecretToyLover2
This is not a game, so I did not post it in the game section. We're all going through hard times and I thought it would be nice to just have a post where we can write our problems, seek advice, and be comforted by one another. Whether it's in ... more
I am sorry to hear of your husband and I sincerely hope he continues to get better until he is back at 100%.

I'm not into the lactation thing, but do you girlie. It's your body and it doesn't hurt anyone for you and him to bond in this way..
My question for you is... HOW IN THE WORLD DOES ONE INDUCE LACTATION??
I honestly didn't know that was possible, I thought only pregnant women and new mommy's got that.
I really do want to know, out of curiosity, but in case your busy, I want to tell you that's a really sweet thing to be doing for him. Going out of your way to make milk come out your boobies just to make him feel a bit better, what a sweet girlfriend/wifey.
03/30/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Secret: I am sorry to hear about your husband and relieved he is responding to the treatment!! I wish you both the best for a speedy recovery and him getting back home to you. As for your "friend", with friends like this who needs enemies? Sometimes there are areas that friends do not understand, and that will weaken the friendship if they or you are judgmental. I have some of those friends and we are just not close with anything overly personal. They are 'low dose' friends. Just ones that are there for non-personal times. I am glad you found a friend to share your experiences. (I had lactation with a pituitary tumor a few years ago...scared the hell out of me!! It was only about 16 years too late for breastfeeding my daughter, which I could not do at the time since I dried up right away!)

Under Him: I am truly sorry to hear about your son and you are in my thoughts!!! I know this must be tearing you up inside watching him get through this and I pray for better days for the two of you! My heart is with you guys!

Wildorchid: Ask him if he wants to try some free toys with you and review them? Then show him the site and let him see that it is a fun, harmless and supportive place. Maybe ask him if he wants to join as well.


--I went home last night and my 17 year old cat was sleeping, not waking up like normal. I went to pet her and let her know I was home. She was already dead. I was so heartbroken, we rescued her from the side of the road when she was just a baby. She was my Maine Coon and was so in love with me....I miss her kisses and swats so much.
03/30/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
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Originally posted by js250
Secret: I am sorry to hear about your husband and relieved he is responding to the treatment!! I wish you both the best for a speedy recovery and him getting back home to you. As for your "friend", with friends like this who needs enemies? ... more
I am so so sorry to heat about this. My kitty is turning 17 on Sunday. We know she is getting up there too : (
03/30/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by underHim
I am so so sorry to heat about this. My kitty is turning 17 on Sunday. We know she is getting up there too : (
Thank you...this is going to be a bad year for me I think.. Had to put our Shitzu to sleep last month. Have an old basset hound (16 years) that is not doing so good anymore, a 15 yr. old and 13 yr. old cats, and a mutt that is 19 yrs. I hate that our critters are mostly getting old and we will probably lose them soon. It just breaks my heart, but at least we had them as long as we do. They are such a comfort. On the flip side, our Pom is only 4 and my daughter's cat is only 5.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
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Originally posted by js250
Thank you...this is going to be a bad year for me I think.. Had to put our Shitzu to sleep last month. Have an old basset hound (16 years) that is not doing so good anymore, a 15 yr. old and 13 yr. old cats, and a mutt that is 19 yrs. I hate that our ... more
js, I am so sorry about your cat! And your shitzu too! It's amazing how those guys become beloved family members! Sending many hugs!
03/30/2012