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Contributor: xgreatlovex xgreatlovex
Is it weird that I usually buy the presents in my relationship? He pays for them and i pick them out, his and mine (as well as for both our familys come holidays) He helps and its usually just things we've been talking about wanting for some time and just not splurged on (we dont have deep pockets and we stick to budgets)

Does anyone else do this or just think either I'm a control freak or he's lazy?
01/13/2011
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Contributor: *HisMrs* *HisMrs*
My Hubby & I are the same way. When we first started dating we did the whole surprising each other. Now I buy his gifts but we go to the stores together to get mine.
01/13/2011
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
I don't think that's weird at all, I think it's practical.
01/13/2011
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
I don't think it's weird, as you put it, but it's not particularly thoughtful.
01/13/2011
Contributor: xgreatlovex xgreatlovex
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Originally posted by *HisMrs*
My Hubby & I are the same way. When we first started dating we did the whole surprising each other. Now I buy his gifts but we go to the stores together to get mine.
:c)
01/15/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
I don't think that's weird at all, I think it's practical.
I agree.
01/16/2011
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
I've never been in a relationship like that. My girlfriend and I buy each other gifts without the other knowing, and when we buy joint gifts, we shop together. Maybe it has to do with the gender dynamic?
01/16/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
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Originally posted by xgreatlovex
Is it weird that I usually buy the presents in my relationship? He pays for them and i pick them out, his and mine (as well as for both our familys come holidays) He helps and its usually just things we've been talking about wanting for some time ... more
I think that's great. You get exactly what you really want.
I don't think most guys are big on buying gifts. Half of it may be because they are concerned they may not pick something that you will like...

This way, there's no money wastage in useless gifts.
Win-win!
01/16/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by xgreatlovex
Is it weird that I usually buy the presents in my relationship? He pays for them and i pick them out, his and mine (as well as for both our familys come holidays) He helps and its usually just things we've been talking about wanting for some time ... more
We do this very thing. We have for probably the last 15 yrs of our marriage. Really when it comes to buying presents for him, I know what I would like him to have. Usually he would not purchase those things for himself because he does not think he NEEDS them. My presents tend to be that of the pamper-yourself type and he just isn't into doing that by himself without me helping along the way. However, if he is wanting or longing for tools, then that is not really "present" material in my mind. He needs to go with me and pick out exactly what it is he wants and I will go to the register and pay.

When it comes to Christmas or my B-day it is really hard for me to tell someone what I want because truly, I have everything I NEED and if I WANT something (lately toys are the only thing on my wishlist on EF or otherwise!) I usually go get it myself or we shop for those things together since they are really for the two of us anyway. However, this past Christmas, JCPenny was having an awesome sale on sweaters which I desperately need more of, living in the Last Frontier. He went with me to pick out several. That way he was able to say, "I don't like that color on you (even though I did) and this is from me, so put it back."

You are not a freak. When you live within your means and on a budget you can't afford not to be practical!
01/16/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Currently, I ask him what he wants and usually he wants me to cook for him, or wear a dress for him so it's pretty simple. He usually gets most things (materialistically)

I usually want Oreos or Twizzlers and to play a sparkly video game and steal one of his shirts. He also makes me origami frogs that we name together.
I know it sounds kinda lame, but.. lol
So, I ask him what he wants and try to get him things he'd really like.

He gets me gifts usually without asking, I'm not hard to please.
01/18/2011
Contributor: Beaners Beaners
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
I don't think that's weird at all, I think it's practical.
I also agree.
01/20/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
I do too and it kind of drives me crazy but if I left gifting to him, everyone would end up with giftcards bought the day of.
01/20/2011
Contributor: Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
No it's not weird at all. Doing it that way ensures you get something you LIKE/WANT.

Hubby finally just gives me a price range and turns me loose in the jewelry store. He got tired of picking out pieces that just didn't work.
01/20/2011
Contributor: mama2007 mama2007
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Originally posted by xgreatlovex
Is it weird that I usually buy the presents in my relationship? He pays for them and i pick them out, his and mine (as well as for both our familys come holidays) He helps and its usually just things we've been talking about wanting for some time ... more
we buy each other things we'll both use long term = sheets, movies, etc.
01/21/2011
Contributor: Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
I buy my gifts for him and all the family, he has only one person to shop for: me!!
01/21/2011