I have had a number of comments and some messages about the (apparently)unique "Friday Night Dinner Group". In short, we have between two and now 15 couples that get together at a different local eatery every Friday night for dinner. We always have very OPEN discussions about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. Great, fun group. After dinner we retire to someone's home for desert (some times a few couples share in making them) and the discussions may turn very ANIMATED (politics), or BAWDY (sex)...no holds barred.
The group is all "older" (over 30), and well educated, professionals. We run the gamut of careers however, and the ENTIRE span of politics. We are all heterosexual, happily married and monogamous.
While folks have come and gone from our group, and others brought in, we now have a really stable amazing group.
Last night was a bit sad, however, as we had our first "widow" there. The first loss of someone in our group happened last month as someone died in a car wreck. We all, as good friends, helped out our female friend who had lost her dear husband of MANY years.
However, having something there in grief (first Friday she has joined us since her hubby past), sure changed the group dynamic. It seems very....morose, but the topics all night (driven by her, strangely) , were about burial verses cremation, and cemetery plots, the cost of funerals, and "work" as it relates to moving on...paying bills, etc.
It was obvious our usual "range" of topics was NOT on tap for last evening so most folks bailed on desert and a few of us kept our widow friend company for the evening.
She, however, is a very SMART woman and now realizes that our "get together" really are a couples thing. Discussing sex with someone who just lost their long, LONG term spouse just does not happen. She has arranged for different couples in our group to "meet her for dinner" other nights of the week, here or there, and she is going to "excuse herself" from the Friday night dinners "to go have dinners with her son's family and their new child".......SO...come next week, we should be back on our usual
"list of topics".
During this "off" and "quiet" week, I got to thinking that if ANY of you, out there in EF land, had any questions you would like to ask..or have us ask... our dinner group next week, go ahead and share.
I am opening up our group of probably 12 couples next week to any question the greater EF family might have.
I realize you can post questions here, but if I bring something to our GROUP, I can post back comments based on real, long, deep heartfelt and thought out DISCUSSIONS, something that is NOT happening here.
Any questions?
Have a GREAT week.
The group is all "older" (over 30), and well educated, professionals. We run the gamut of careers however, and the ENTIRE span of politics. We are all heterosexual, happily married and monogamous.
While folks have come and gone from our group, and others brought in, we now have a really stable amazing group.
Last night was a bit sad, however, as we had our first "widow" there. The first loss of someone in our group happened last month as someone died in a car wreck. We all, as good friends, helped out our female friend who had lost her dear husband of MANY years.
However, having something there in grief (first Friday she has joined us since her hubby past), sure changed the group dynamic. It seems very....morose, but the topics all night (driven by her, strangely) , were about burial verses cremation, and cemetery plots, the cost of funerals, and "work" as it relates to moving on...paying bills, etc.
It was obvious our usual "range" of topics was NOT on tap for last evening so most folks bailed on desert and a few of us kept our widow friend company for the evening.
She, however, is a very SMART woman and now realizes that our "get together" really are a couples thing. Discussing sex with someone who just lost their long, LONG term spouse just does not happen. She has arranged for different couples in our group to "meet her for dinner" other nights of the week, here or there, and she is going to "excuse herself" from the Friday night dinners "to go have dinners with her son's family and their new child".......SO...come next week, we should be back on our usual
"list of topics".
During this "off" and "quiet" week, I got to thinking that if ANY of you, out there in EF land, had any questions you would like to ask..or have us ask... our dinner group next week, go ahead and share.
I am opening up our group of probably 12 couples next week to any question the greater EF family might have.
I realize you can post questions here, but if I bring something to our GROUP, I can post back comments based on real, long, deep heartfelt and thought out DISCUSSIONS, something that is NOT happening here.
Any questions?
Have a GREAT week.
