I suppose the things on this list could go towards any woman of the home that you might be dropping in on, but at least one is specifically from a mother in law. I can definitely see where these might be a bit insulting, but a few of them wouldn't bother me personally. What about you, would any (or all) of these be offensive to you? Can you think of anything else that should be this list? How about some for the son-in-law?
6 things never to say to your daughter in law
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I read this yesterday, I wondered if you were going to post it.
I don't think I'd have to worry about any of those things on the list. His mother is very receptive to me and I earned a few brownie points the first time I met her by solving a couple of precarious situations involving steaming, hot liquids. Kids aren't in our future, so she'd have no reason to go there and I don't think he'd want me to cook if she were in town. In any event, they're a live and let live kind of family.
I don't think I'd have to worry about any of those things on the list. His mother is very receptive to me and I earned a few brownie points the first time I met her by solving a couple of precarious situations involving steaming, hot liquids. Kids aren't in our future, so she'd have no reason to go there and I don't think he'd want me to cook if she were in town. In any event, they're a live and let live kind of family.
08/15/2011
"When am I going to be a grandmother?"
That was my ex-MIL's faux pas.
That was my ex-MIL's faux pas.
08/15/2011
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"When you're ready to raise it and care for it." It was always my stock response to my mother's questions.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
"When am I going to be a grandmother?"
That was my ex-MIL's faux pas.
That was my ex-MIL's faux pas.
08/15/2011
I have a sister-in-law who always heavily criticizes and complains about my mother-in-law's housekeeping; she causes a huge scene over it every single time she visits the in-laws. This same sister-in-law also critiques my MIL's and SIL's weights. She also critiques everyone's parenting skills (she has lots of children, so she obviously knows better than anyone how children should be raised; everyone else "just doesn't know"). She also debates just about any light-hearted comment anyone makes to keep a pleasant conversation going during family get-togethers. (I received a scalding reprimand in front of a huge table full of extended family members for responding to her seven-year-old daughter's inquiry of what I would do if I had a baby by simply saying that I'd be happy. What the heck is wrong with responding in a simple, positive way to an innocent young child's simple little question?) She also apparently considers herself more knowledgeable than anyone else in just about any subject (scratch the "just about" and make that "every single subject"). Oh, and any opinion you have is just wrong, even if it's what type of food you prefer or what height you find your bicycle seat to be the most comfortable.
08/15/2011
I have been lucky. My MIL realizes just how many annoying habits that her son has and I think shes glad that said habits are my problem now lol. The only thing that would bother me would be her questioning my parental skills, but she doesn't so I just consider myself lucky
08/15/2011
Appearance is one for me. When I found out that my mother-in-law was discussing my weight behind my back, I was mortified. It would've been equally inappropriate to address it to my face, but it's really none of her concern.
08/15/2011
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I'm glad I don't have to worry about it. My mother in law loves me. And would never say those things to anyone, as its in bad taste. Guess Im lucky.
Originally posted by
Jul!a
I suppose the things on this list could go towards any woman of the home that you might be dropping in on, but at least one is specifically from a mother in law. I can definitely see where these might be a bit insulting, but a few of them
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I suppose the things on this list could go towards any woman of the home that you might be dropping in on, but at least one is specifically from a mother in law. I can definitely see where these might be a bit insulting, but a few of them wouldn't bother me personally. What about you, would any (or all) of these be offensive to you? Can you think of anything else that should be this list? How about some for the son-in-law?
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08/15/2011
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My husband is going to be 25 next week and is the youngest of 4, I know my MIL is itching for grandkids. Fortunately she hasn't started asking me when she's going to get them yet.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
"When am I going to be a grandmother?"
That was my ex-MIL's faux pas.
That was my ex-MIL's faux pas.
08/15/2011
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You sound like you could use a *BIG HUG*
Originally posted by
Selective Sensualist
I have a sister-in-law who always heavily criticizes and complains about my mother-in-law's housekeeping; she causes a huge scene over it every single time she visits the in-laws. This same sister-in-law also critiques my MIL's and SIL's
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I have a sister-in-law who always heavily criticizes and complains about my mother-in-law's housekeeping; she causes a huge scene over it every single time she visits the in-laws. This same sister-in-law also critiques my MIL's and SIL's weights. She also critiques everyone's parenting skills (she has lots of children, so she obviously knows better than anyone how children should be raised; everyone else "just doesn't know"). She also debates just about any light-hearted comment anyone makes to keep a pleasant conversation going during family get-togethers. (I received a scalding reprimand in front of a huge table full of extended family members for responding to her seven-year-old daughter's inquiry of what I would do if I had a baby by simply saying that I'd be happy. What the heck is wrong with responding in a simple, positive way to an innocent young child's simple little question?) She also apparently considers herself more knowledgeable than anyone else in just about any subject (scratch the "just about" and make that "every single subject"). Oh, and any opinion you have is just wrong, even if it's what type of food you prefer or what height you find your bicycle seat to be the most comfortable.
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08/15/2011
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The worst past about it was that she already had two granddaughters from her oldest son (I had married her youngest - the middle one is a confirmed bachelor), so it wasn't like she was lost without grandbabies around.
Originally posted by
Jul!a
My husband is going to be 25 next week and is the youngest of 4, I know my MIL is itching for grandkids. Fortunately she hasn't started asking me when she's going to get them yet.
But, otherwise, we had a good relationship - the only time we ever met was at the wedding.
08/15/2011
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No no, that's bogus if she already had some and was on your case about it. *BIG HUGS* for you too, even tho she's way in your past, lol.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
The worst past about it was that she already had two granddaughters from her oldest son (I had married her youngest - the middle one is a confirmed bachelor), so it wasn't like she was lost without grandbabies around.
But, otherwise, we ... more
But, otherwise, we ... more
The worst past about it was that she already had two granddaughters from her oldest son (I had married her youngest - the middle one is a confirmed bachelor), so it wasn't like she was lost without grandbabies around.
But, otherwise, we had a good relationship - the only time we ever met was at the wedding. less
But, otherwise, we had a good relationship - the only time we ever met was at the wedding. less
08/16/2011
i understand things like constructive criticism or offering to help clean, cook, anything else; those things are thoughtful and straight up helpful. but yeah, i could see myself getting pissed if my future mom in law told me "your house is a mess", "you're not raising your kids right" or "it's your job to feed my son and you're not doing well at that". i don't think i would get upset about the baby not crying, that's just silly
08/16/2011
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jesus, what a horrible little nightmare. my heart goes out to you :/
Originally posted by
Selective Sensualist
I have a sister-in-law who always heavily criticizes and complains about my mother-in-law's housekeeping; she causes a huge scene over it every single time she visits the in-laws. This same sister-in-law also critiques my MIL's and SIL's
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more
I have a sister-in-law who always heavily criticizes and complains about my mother-in-law's housekeeping; she causes a huge scene over it every single time she visits the in-laws. This same sister-in-law also critiques my MIL's and SIL's weights. She also critiques everyone's parenting skills (she has lots of children, so she obviously knows better than anyone how children should be raised; everyone else "just doesn't know"). She also debates just about any light-hearted comment anyone makes to keep a pleasant conversation going during family get-togethers. (I received a scalding reprimand in front of a huge table full of extended family members for responding to her seven-year-old daughter's inquiry of what I would do if I had a baby by simply saying that I'd be happy. What the heck is wrong with responding in a simple, positive way to an innocent young child's simple little question?) She also apparently considers herself more knowledgeable than anyone else in just about any subject (scratch the "just about" and make that "every single subject"). Oh, and any opinion you have is just wrong, even if it's what type of food you prefer or what height you find your bicycle seat to be the most comfortable.
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08/16/2011
interesting list
08/16/2011
good list
08/16/2011
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