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Contributor: Stellar Stellar
My lovely contributors! So, the spring must have turned you a bit more sexy and a bit more alive by now. At least I hope so

Actually, now I have the most interesting topic to propose to you. I've been bringing on pretty general discussion, ignoring the fact how experienced all of you are. So here' s a tricky question for you, people of great sexperience

It is now open for discussion, do you think THIS to be true, false or plausible?

Sex turns out MUCH better when both partners are almost equally experienced.

I'm having mixed feelings about it. On the one hand, it's common knowledge that when two professionals do something, it turns out more successful then when two newbies or one newbie and one professional get their hands on the matter. On the other hand, it's truly ambiguous when it comes to lovemaking - some inexperienced partners can be sex-geniuses, while professionals may turn out to be complete amateurs. My personal knowledge of the matter cannot be applicable, 'cause I have nothing to compare to, sadly So it's up to you to decide this!

Let the discussion begin!
What would be your verdict?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Inquisitor , CAKES , Kat Vanir , Soundside46
4  (11%)
Cinnyree , Lvstoplay , 20yearstogether
3  (8%)
DancerKittyKat , sXeVegan90 , RockDoc , OH&W, Lovebears , Peg , Andykh , wvangel , *Spank-me* , realhairynyc , unfulfilled , cheekyx , 9ers girl , nota , OneofakindBeauty , BrittaniMaree , C&K0143 , hoser69 , RobbieVibrates , AshMegJo8295 , JulesRhyn , Evoluchun , TS Julie , Princess-Kayla ♥ , SexyScorpio69 , RonLee , Gunsmoke , TheToyGuy , poetprincess , Devz , Chey
30  (81%)
Total votes: 37
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04/11/2016
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Contributor: DancerKittyKat DancerKittyKat
Quote:
Originally posted by Stellar
My lovely contributors! So, the spring must have turned you a bit more sexy and a bit more alive by now. At least I hope so

Actually, now I have the most interesting topic to propose to you. I've been bringing on pretty general ... more
The greatness of a sexperience relies on the people. Even the most "experienced" people, without communication and a mutual understanding of the expectations, could be in for a bad experience. Typically, with sexual experience comes an understanding that communication is key. However, there will always be those who have had sex many times but never mastered how to interact in a positive, open way. There is also the possibility that someone who has never had sex before is very good at voicing his or her needs, wants, and expectations. With a lack of experience sometimes comes embarrassment, perpetuated by society's inclination to associate shame and sex.

Tl;dr It depends on the people.
04/11/2016
Contributor: RockDoc RockDoc
I agree with DKK. Communication is key. Many have been sheltered and shamed into thinking sex was so private that it is never discussed. Those may have a hard time voicing what they want. Experienced people may be better at this, but even with experience, you have to be open and communicate.
04/11/2016
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
I think this is true, but only if as others have said, the couple of individuals communicate their wants, needs and desires before, during and after. This way everyone is on the same page and they can all work towards a common satisfactory outcome.
04/11/2016
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Physical sex may or may not be better with an experienced person. With me it's more about the loving, cuddling, emotional aspect of sex. Of course all of were virgins at one time or another. Although we were inexperienced and it was short, it was very very good.

Am I off target here ?
04/11/2016
Contributor: Peg Peg
Both DKK and RockDoc in our opinion are spot on spot on in regards to communication. When starting any relationship be it platonic or sexual in the beginning both parties are in experienced with each other. One of the best ways to gain experience is to communicate; what you do and do not like, your expectations, what feels good and if and when you are in the moment, telling your partner what is working or how you want it On our about me page we have had the following since we became members on Eden, Communication is KEY before, during, and after sex which is why our sex life keeps getting better all the time.
04/11/2016
Contributor: Chey Chey
Quote:
Originally posted by Stellar
My lovely contributors! So, the spring must have turned you a bit more sexy and a bit more alive by now. At least I hope so

Actually, now I have the most interesting topic to propose to you. I've been bringing on pretty general ... more
It depends, they may not have learned to do it "right" or the "right" way for you. That doesn't mean he isn't "good" either, just that you both like it differently.

I think if you're with someone w/a little knowledge, basic skills and wants to learn!!! AWESOME!!! But He has to teach me too!!! Our IMAGINATION thrown in too!!!! Wow
04/11/2016
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I agree with the consensus. Communication is 100% the key in the situation regardless of experience. How each of you communicate your likes, dislikes, needs, wants, desires, pleasure, pain it all comes down to communication.
04/19/2016
Contributor: Stellar Stellar
Wow! This result is actually pretty surprising to me
Not that I've been expecting all of you to say that it's okay when both partners are complete newbies and don't even know what to put and where, I though you'll be okay if one is experienced and the other teaches him. But I understand your point, and I admire it. It's nice to know that so many people still believe sex can be great just because both partners know each other well and understand each others' desires - special techniques are not so important.

I call this one plausible and kindly invite you to the next discussion - I hope you will amaze me again!
04/25/2016
Contributor: RobbieVibrates RobbieVibrates
Quote:
Originally posted by Stellar
My lovely contributors! So, the spring must have turned you a bit more sexy and a bit more alive by now. At least I hope so

Actually, now I have the most interesting topic to propose to you. I've been bringing on pretty general ... more
yes, mostly true.. unless ur new at something & are little shy
05/14/2016
Contributor: Evoluchun Evoluchun
Quote:
Originally posted by Stellar
My lovely contributors! So, the spring must have turned you a bit more sexy and a bit more alive by now. At least I hope so

Actually, now I have the most interesting topic to propose to you. I've been bringing on pretty general ... more
i think it helps but def one partner needs to be somethin
07/21/2016
Contributor: Cinnyree Cinnyree
I, personally, don't think experience is the important component. I think willingness and understanding is more important. I would rather have sex with someone who knows basically nothing than someone who thinks he/she is the best and not willing to change or experiment at all.
10/19/2016
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
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Originally posted by Cinnyree
I, personally, don't think experience is the important component. I think willingness and understanding is more important. I would rather have sex with someone who knows basically nothing than someone who thinks he/she is the best and not willing ... more
Completely agree with you here! However, sometimes the lack of experience is matched with shyness. What to do in that case then?
10/20/2016
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
Quote:
Originally posted by Stellar
My lovely contributors! So, the spring must have turned you a bit more sexy and a bit more alive by now. At least I hope so

Actually, now I have the most interesting topic to propose to you. I've been bringing on pretty general ... more
I think sex is successful if both parties are enjoying it, it does not matter who is more experienced.
01/20/2017
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
I reconnected with one of my buddies from a few decades ago. He remembered one of the things I'd said back in my youth concerning experienced vs virgin partners. "Captain Kirk can go where no man has gone, not me." That had been in reference to a discussion with another fellow who had a thing for being the first to be with virgin women. Not what I really want.
03/08/2017
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
Just because one partner is inexperienced doesn't mean they can't learn, and sometimes the experimentation is half the fun. I think the real concern is how you feel about them and not how experienced they are in bed compared to you.
03/18/2017