Opening Up: A biased view of monogamy.

Contributor: Elaira Elaira
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Does anyone else see that this book is incredibly biased? I've always agreed with the concepts of non-monogamy and polyamory, but I feel that monogamy can also be an educated choice. Every time I pick this book up and start reading it again, I'm offended by the way the book presents monogamy as something that's a total myth and that people are brainwashed into it by society.

Overall, it's got some good information, but I really think it's more geared to those who have already made the decision to be non-monogamous.

Does anyone else think this way?
08/19/2011
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Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
I've not read it, but I'd just like to say one thing: If you're offended every time you read it, then stop!
08/20/2011
Contributor: Elaira Elaira
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Originally posted by Errant Venture
I've not read it, but I'd just like to say one thing: If you're offended every time you read it, then stop!
I know, I know. This topic has come up in my relationship, so I'm trying to get more information on it. I mean, I agree with the point that they're making and everything and I'm a non-monogamy advocate, but this book drives me nuts.

I'm reading it to hopefully figure out why I'm so opposed to the idea in my current relationship.
08/22/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Elaira
I know, I know. This topic has come up in my relationship, so I'm trying to get more information on it. I mean, I agree with the point that they're making and everything and I'm a non-monogamy advocate, but this book drives me nuts. ... more
Why don't you try reading The Ethical Slut, instead? That should be a much better resource for you.
08/22/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Elaira
Does anyone else see that this book is incredibly biased? I've always agreed with the concepts of non-monogamy and polyamory, but I feel that monogamy can also be an educated choice. Every time I pick this book up and start reading it again, ... more
I didn't find it biased but I will say that if you find that you are offended whenever you try to read the book then it's not the resource you should be reading!!
I know I've stated this many many times but it bears repeating: Monogamy is a CHOICE, it is neither more enlightened nor less enlightened than the choice to be polyamorous or whatever permutation your relationship works best as! Any successful lovestyle takes commitment, work and lots of patience that's where the enlightenment come into play....when a tentative decision becomes a CHOICE.
When two people are content with each other and don't desire to look outside their relationship then they have made a valid, wonderful and loving choice. There is no brain washing when two people make this decision, likewise, when a couple becomes a triple (or more). When the choice is freely made it is an enlightened choice.
I think the problem comes in when reader's feel threatened by the information presented...or the author perceives the threat. Truly though, beyond pointing out the obvious (we are HAPPY this way) there doesn't need to be any justification.
10/31/2011
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
I didn't find ii biased at all, and since someone recommend the Ethical Slut I wouldn't recommend it because ,while i liked the book I did find that one to be biased. Indeed Opening up is the book I recommend to people who find the ethical slut to be to biased.
10/31/2011
Contributor: lexical lexical
I plan on reading this very soon. Although I am monogamous, I learned a lot from the Ethical Slut. I'll certainly post my thoughts here when I finish reading!
10/31/2011
Contributor: Girly Girl Girly Girl
no i have not read it
10/31/2011