No, that would be a huge change for him and change his identity.
Would you stay with a partner if they decided to go through with a gender changing surgery?
01/21/2012
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I'd remain a good friend, and be very supportive. However, if he go through gender reassignment, he'd have female appearances. I am not really sexually attracted to females, it might be hard to maintain a relationship.
Originally posted by
lzbncrckhead
i was just wondering how many people could handle the changes
02/12/2012
I'm sure someone else has said this, but you can't get a surgery to change your GENDER. You can get surgery to change your SEX though. Gender is your personal identity, it's a mental thing, sex is your physical genitals.
And I'm very much only attracted to males, but if the person I love felt that they were a woman, and wanted to get surgery to be physically female, I'd have no problem with it. Love is love.
And I'm very much only attracted to males, but if the person I love felt that they were a woman, and wanted to get surgery to be physically female, I'd have no problem with it. Love is love.
02/22/2012
If I felt that they were "the one", then I would.
02/29/2012
Of course. It's gonna be a change for both people, but in the end it's the love between the two that matter. not the genitals.
03/01/2012
Definitely, and it wouldn't matter if they were "the one" like some people have been saying. Though supporting someone through a transition is typically kind of a big deal emotionally.
03/02/2012
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I voted wrong, meant no.
Originally posted by
lzbncrckhead
i was just wondering how many people could handle the changes
03/02/2012
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Thank God I know this won't happen because I know he's the one and I love him to death. But though I think women are beautiful and their bodies are nice to admire, I'm just not sexually attracted to them. I could not be happy with him growing female like breasts and having a vagina instead of a penis even if there are strap on toys and other gender toys which are great for bisexual and homosexual people. I love the intimacy involved with having sex with a man that I care for and love. It just wouldn't be the same. I couldn't deal. I'd still love him no doubt but I'd have to move on and look for a male to satisfy my heterosexual needs.
Originally posted by
lzbncrckhead
i was just wondering how many people could handle the changes
03/02/2012
I'd have no say no. For me, it would defeat the whole struggle that gay people go through, if I just ended up settling for a person with the outward appearance of a gender which I have no attraction to.
03/02/2012
jamthieves
A sex change isn't what determines gender, it's the person beneath. So why should ANYONE be really upset about it if it's still the same person, just with different parts?
I'd stick with someone until they got old and died if they were right for me, regardless of gender.
I'd stick with someone until they got old and died if they were right for me, regardless of gender.
03/02/2012
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I would stay, but I'm the one wanting it, not my partner...
Originally posted by
lzbncrckhead
i was just wondering how many people could handle the changes
03/02/2012
I would stay. If I'm in love with a trans person, I'd want them to be the most comfortable with their anatomy.
03/03/2012
I didn't see anyone say, but you can't really have gender change surgery. Gender is a thing of presentation rather then your genitals. You're thinking sex change surgery.
But personally I think that I would be fine staying with them, depending if they stayed the same personality-wise.
But personally I think that I would be fine staying with them, depending if they stayed the same personality-wise.
03/03/2012
My fiance is always going to be the person I love, no matter what they would want to do to their body.
03/03/2012
Did! Or rather, am.
03/04/2012
I would always accept my partner. There is no second thought about it. Both my partner and I are transgenders and we've made it clear time and time again that we love each other regardless of surgeries, lack of surgeries, genitalia, etc. etc. etc. It's all irrelevant; we're in love.
03/06/2012
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No.
Originally posted by
lzbncrckhead
i was just wondering how many people could handle the changes
03/06/2012
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<3 Indeed.
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plaidvulva
I would always accept my partner. There is no second thought about it. Both my partner and I are transgenders and we've made it clear time and time again that we love each other regardless of surgeries, lack of surgeries, genitalia, etc. etc.
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I would always accept my partner. There is no second thought about it. Both my partner and I are transgenders and we've made it clear time and time again that we love each other regardless of surgeries, lack of surgeries, genitalia, etc. etc. etc. It's all irrelevant; we're in love.
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03/06/2012
I don't see why I wouldn't. Gender isn't a thing to me.
03/06/2012
I would like to say I would in most cases.
But honestly it depends on the situation, and how much I liked them, and they way they told me, and a bunch of other factors.
I would be as accepting as I possibly could and I certainly wouldn't leave them on the basis of their gender, but that sort of thing just doesn't happen in a vacuum, and so many other things might or might not be going on surrounding that that I can't say with 100% certainty what I would do.
But honestly it depends on the situation, and how much I liked them, and they way they told me, and a bunch of other factors.
I would be as accepting as I possibly could and I certainly wouldn't leave them on the basis of their gender, but that sort of thing just doesn't happen in a vacuum, and so many other things might or might not be going on surrounding that that I can't say with 100% certainty what I would do.
03/09/2012
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Honestly, I found out shortly after we got together that my very Dominant, very masculine boyfriend actually had genderqueer/femme tendencies. He likes to dress up, and has actually thought about getting top surgery at some point. So, yeah, not only would I stay, but I'd have a blast. Fortunately for him tho, I'm pansexual, so I'm much less worried about his gender than I am about who he is as a person.
Originally posted by
lzbncrckhead
i was just wondering how many people could handle the changes
03/09/2012
Yes, but I am attracted to both genders so it wouldn't matter so much to me.
03/10/2012
I don't know. It'd never come up in my life before. So I am going to try to answer this without experience in the matter.
I don't know for certain but this is how I think it would go.
If I was living with a him that became a her, a part of our relationship would be gone. And as much as I may love him and love his personality, for me, sex does make up part of my relationships. If there is no chemistry in the bedroom, we won't make it as partners in a relationship, and if that happens, chances are we'd not make it as friends either.
I'd be honest about it with him. I'd give it a solid effort, but there'd be no more sex, women are nice to look at, but I do not get aroused or excited looking at women's bodies.
It would be like having your ex as a roommate. It rarely works.
I'd love to say I be a good person and be able to carry on the relationship, but for me, it be a sexless relationship. And then, what would be the point of living together as a couple, when even I don't live with my best friend?
I don't know for certain but this is how I think it would go.
If I was living with a him that became a her, a part of our relationship would be gone. And as much as I may love him and love his personality, for me, sex does make up part of my relationships. If there is no chemistry in the bedroom, we won't make it as partners in a relationship, and if that happens, chances are we'd not make it as friends either.
I'd be honest about it with him. I'd give it a solid effort, but there'd be no more sex, women are nice to look at, but I do not get aroused or excited looking at women's bodies.
It would be like having your ex as a roommate. It rarely works.
I'd love to say I be a good person and be able to carry on the relationship, but for me, it be a sexless relationship. And then, what would be the point of living together as a couple, when even I don't live with my best friend?
03/13/2012
I don't know how I'd respond.
03/13/2012
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Peggi, if it happened more than once, I assume at least one of the relationships didn't work out. You don't think the transition had anything to do with it? I think people are saying, "I'd stay with him/her no matter what." Yet, if one of the relationships ended, then "no matter what" didn't happen.
Originally posted by
Peggi
Been there, done that TWICE, and all I can say is as long as they are open and honest with me I am 100% there! I understand the questioning so of course they may not come right out with it to me but once they know I had better be one of the first to
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Been there, done that TWICE, and all I can say is as long as they are open and honest with me I am 100% there! I understand the questioning so of course they may not come right out with it to me but once they know I had better be one of the first to know, and I want full honesty!
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I think a lot of younger people say "It doesn't matter." But once they are in the situation, my guess is it really usually does.
I asked before (and no one wanted to answer) (and this isn't directed at you Peggi, but at the "gender doesn't matter ever" people) "What if you are gay or lesbian, not "pansexual" and your partner decided to transition to the opposite sex. This would now leave you, a gay man or a lesbian woman, in a heterosexual relationship with heterosexual sex as your only choice if you stay." Is it different for a GL couples? If so, why?
(Basically, I'm asking this because I got slammed and humiliated by a few people for being honest about my sexual orientation: Heterosexual. I am not attracted to women. It doesn't work for me. I didn't appreciate being attacked for saying I couldn't stay with my partner, as a lover, if he transed into a woman, and some people took offense and then went on the offense about that. So, I wanted to know, "What IF one member of a gay or lesbian couple wants to transition into the opposite sex making the relationship sex then heterosexual?? What then?
03/13/2012
I really don't know. It would depend on the friend and how close I was. I think then I could answer
03/13/2012
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Absolutely. I am trans* (though not intending to have any surgeries), as are my dearest friends and my longterm partner. They do intend to have various surgeries, and it has absolutely no effect on our relationships. I am worried at the amount of cissexism in this category!
Originally posted by
lzbncrckhead
i was just wondering how many people could handle the changes
03/13/2012
Tough. But at the very least I would support them and be there for them as they recover and change. I would always be their friend.
03/13/2012
It might or it might not really affect me since I'm attracted to people for their gender, not their genitals.
03/14/2012
I mean, I'm transgender & pansexual myself, so I don't really care.
03/15/2012