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Hey everyone
Um, I've been sort of questioning my sexuality- yet again haha- from being pan/bi to maybe being gay. Recognizing that sexuality is fluid and all that I've been trying not to get caught up in labeling myself so much, but
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Hey everyone
Um, I've been sort of questioning my sexuality- yet again haha- from being pan/bi to maybe being gay. Recognizing that sexuality is fluid and all that I've been trying not to get caught up in labeling myself so much, but it's still really bugging me.. So I was wondering if yall could share your experiences with it? And if you're gay or lesbian, how was it coming to terms with it? Do you find it hard navigating the partner (dating or sexual) pool?
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This is a great question, and interesting as well.
For years, I thought of myself as straight. Until my first marriage failed, then, I was bi-curious.
Foolishly, I got remarried (to a man), and that lasted 12 yrs. I have a beautiful daughter to show for it, and I wouldn't have changed my situation, because if I did, I wouldn't have her.
AFter several failed dating attempts, and one screw-over, I rethought everything about my romantic relationships. I came to the conclusion that, I was single, why not try for a girl? After all, I am free to do pretty much what I want (other than being a responsible parent). So, on one of the dating sites, I changed my preferences to Seeking Woman. I had a hit less than a week later.
For the first few months of us seeing each other, I thought of myself as Pan. But, the more I'm with her, the more I think that my sexual fluidity is now rippling towards being gay. She's been out for 25 yrs, and is very comfortable saying she's gay. We've been together 8 months. My situation is a bit trickier, since I live in a small minded town, and I have to be very careful, since here in Texas, they can still fire you for being gay if they don't like it. Plus, my daughter is a major concern for me. She caught us kissing, and I have told her that I'm seeing this woman. But I think that my daughter is in a bit of denial with it. To maintain peace, my GF and I don't show affection infront of my daughter. It's a lot to take in, and I understand that. I'm still trying to figure it out.
But, she's taken me to a few gay bars, and I've been very comfortable at them. Also, she took me to the Gay Pride Parade here last weekend, which was a lot of fun. I'm not uncomfortable hanging around with her friends, and the few people on my side that I've told, have been very ok with it. It's a process. I'm still trying to figure it out. But i do know that I feel more complete in this relationship than I have with anyone else.