My mom just sent me an email FREAKING OUT, because I have acne. She wants me to stop being on T, as if that's gonna change anything. I mean, I haven't lived with them in years, and live about a thousand miles away. Any ideas of how to get her to just leave me alone?!
Stopping T, re: my mom.
05/17/2012
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It's obvious that she's just grasping at anything in the hopes that you'll stop your hormonal transition.
You have to have some hard conversations. Discussing that, no you will not stop your hormone treatments and that if she wants to be in your life, she has to accept that. Assure her that you've done the research and that you're aware of all the changes, risks, and side effects and that you're making an informed decision.
If she still won't stop, just don't reply.
You have to have some hard conversations. Discussing that, no you will not stop your hormone treatments and that if she wants to be in your life, she has to accept that. Assure her that you've done the research and that you're aware of all the changes, risks, and side effects and that you're making an informed decision.
If she still won't stop, just don't reply.
05/17/2012
With my mum I've just had to stop talking transition with her. :/
Just reply that your skin will clear up within a year or so, as most teenage male skin does after puberty. She'll likely bring up another issue, but if you're going to say anything, combating it with logic until you reach her real problem is the way to go.
Just reply that your skin will clear up within a year or so, as most teenage male skin does after puberty. She'll likely bring up another issue, but if you're going to say anything, combating it with logic until you reach her real problem is the way to go.
05/18/2012
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Might be best to not discuss the transition with her at all by this point.
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TakeHimAway
My mom just sent me an email FREAKING OUT, because I have acne. She wants me to stop being on T, as if that's gonna change anything. I mean, I haven't lived with them in years, and live about a thousand miles away. Any ideas of how to get her
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My mom just sent me an email FREAKING OUT, because I have acne. She wants me to stop being on T, as if that's gonna change anything. I mean, I haven't lived with them in years, and live about a thousand miles away. Any ideas of how to get her to just leave me alone?!
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05/19/2012
The acne is just a temporary thing. It took my mom a while to get used to my transition, and nearly a year in, now she gets excited for me about different things (arm hair, more noticeable facial hair). It really just takes time.
06/09/2012
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I'd suggest sending her some information on T and telling her that you will be safe. (My mom freaked out because she thought I was supposed to inject T intravenously, and she didn't want me using dirty needles.) A little information can go a long way. But if she keeps bothering you too much, just tell her you will not discuss it with her any more.
Originally posted by
TakeHimAway
My mom just sent me an email FREAKING OUT, because I have acne. She wants me to stop being on T, as if that's gonna change anything. I mean, I haven't lived with them in years, and live about a thousand miles away. Any ideas of how to get her
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My mom just sent me an email FREAKING OUT, because I have acne. She wants me to stop being on T, as if that's gonna change anything. I mean, I haven't lived with them in years, and live about a thousand miles away. Any ideas of how to get her to just leave me alone?!
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07/29/2012
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That's really awesome! I'm 1.5 years on T as of today and my parents STILL haven't come around. I went the "not talking about transition" route so maybe this is why I've gotten this outcome.
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radioboy
The acne is just a temporary thing. It took my mom a while to get used to my transition, and nearly a year in, now she gets excited for me about different things (arm hair, more noticeable facial hair). It really just takes time.
Although, I've sent many emails with information and talking about transition THERE, it's not spoken of in person unfortunately.
08/09/2012
Don't talk to her about it anymore.
Ignore e-mails and change the subject when she tries to bring it up.
Ignore e-mails and change the subject when she tries to bring it up.
08/11/2012
I wouldn't bother with her. If the acne is really that big of an issue, try going to a dermatologist.
Avoiding the topic will get her to leave you alone, but you really will never get past the issue that way. I think that so long as you sound like you are listening to your mothers concerns, you will help her as best you can.
Avoiding the topic will get her to leave you alone, but you really will never get past the issue that way. I think that so long as you sound like you are listening to your mothers concerns, you will help her as best you can.
08/13/2012
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