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Do you dream of yourself as your preferred gender?

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Contributor: pestilence pestilence
When you are dreaming as yourself (as opposed to being a fictional character or someone else who isn't you), are you the gender you identify as? I don't mean that you necessarily have a cis person's genitals, but that you identify/present as that gender within the dream. If you didn't always identify as trans, did your dreamself's gender change when you figured out your gender?

I personally still dream of myself as my assigned gender sometimes even though I'm comfortable with my preferred gender, and I'm curious what dreaming is like for other non-cis people.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I'm always the gender I identify as
17
I'm always my assigned gender
11
My gender is different depending on the dream
41
I used to dream as my assigned gender, but started dreaming as my identified gender when I figured it out
8
I've always dreamt of myself as my identified gender
12
My dreamself's gender has no correlation to me figuring out my identified gender
12
Other
18
Total votes: 119 (92 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Aries Aries
I'm normally myself but changed somehow. So sometimes I'm male, sometimes I'm female. The female part seems to be more of the "changed" part since I've come to identify as male.
03/17/2012
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
I almost never am physically-identifiabl e as "me" in dreams.

I've had trans*-related dream story-lines, but they're still not usually a physically-identifiabl e "me".
03/17/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Depends on the dream. Usually I'm just... Me, so I'm my gender. Sometimes I'm a cis man in dreams.
03/17/2012
Contributor: lukas24 lukas24
I don't think I really dream of me, but I'm either completely genderless or male in both my dreams and daydreams and always have been.
03/17/2012
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
It totally depends on the dream for me, sometimes I'm male, sometimes female, and I would say pretty frequently I don't even necessarily have a really clearly identified gender in a dream.

Also, I was a frog once.
03/17/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
I'm always my assigned sex, even when I'm a creature and not a human.
03/17/2012
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
In my dreams, I am both male and female.
03/17/2012
Contributor: pinkcupcakes pinkcupcakes
Always female.
03/17/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
I never have a gender in my dreams. It isn't something which usually comes up.
03/17/2012
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I am genderless in my dreams. (I'm cis-gendered when I'm awake, though.) They're always first-person so I don't see myself.

Whenever my brother is in my dreams, though, he is always a girl. Huh. That's kind of bizarre.
03/17/2012
Contributor: MasonJ MasonJ
Honestly never gave much thought to it until this poll...interesting!
03/17/2012
Contributor: xxjoel xxjoel
I'm FTM and I have these horrible nightmares where I'm a man in drag and I feel awesome and then I realize my dick feels funny... because it's just a sock. Recurring. Wake up very confused. :/
03/18/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
I dreamed I had a penis last night and I blame this thread.
Unfortunately I also had erectile dysfunction so it wasn't very fun.
03/18/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
It depends
03/18/2012
Contributor: DiamondKoala DiamondKoala
Never really had an alternative gender dream, but it does sound interesting.
03/18/2012
Contributor: norkftw norkftw
Quote:
Originally posted by pestilence
When you are dreaming as yourself (as opposed to being a fictional character or someone else who isn't you), are you the gender you identify as? I don't mean that you necessarily have a cis person's genitals, but that you identify/present ... more
once or twice in middle school I had vivid sex dreams as the assigned gender I am but nine times out of ten I had dreams where I was the gender I identify as
03/18/2012
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
For me it depends on the dream.
03/18/2012
Contributor: hatman hatman
In my dreams I'm always in a sexless body, and have a male identity
If that makes sense
03/18/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
Quote:
Originally posted by Antipova
I am genderless in my dreams. (I'm cis-gendered when I'm awake, though.) They're always first-person so I don't see myself.

Whenever my brother is in my dreams, though, he is always a girl. Huh. That's kind of bizarre.
Haha that is quite bizarre.
03/18/2012
Contributor: Schattenstern Schattenstern
I usually see myself as I appear in real life, which kind of sucks. :/ I have semi-livid dreams though so that's cool.
03/18/2012
Contributor: butts butts
Half the time in my dreams I'm male, half the time I'm still FtM, mid or early transition. But, I'm always guy-identified in the dreams, so I voted I'm always the gender I identify as. I think you're confusing sex (physical) and gender (mental) a little bit.
03/19/2012
Contributor: blixa blixa
My gender's not really present in my dreams -- I've been dreaming a lot lately of being men who aren't myself, which is pretty nice, but I'm never mindful of my gender or how I'm presenting in my dreams unless it's a dream about a specific scenario (having to buy myself a dress, etc.)
03/19/2012
Contributor: jesseftm jesseftm
I've always been male in my dreams, even when I was young and in love with Leo DiCaprio, he was just gay for me.
03/19/2012
Contributor: Caus Caus
I don't have a preferred gender but my dreams fluctuate between both!
03/19/2012
Contributor: u u
Quote:
Originally posted by pestilence
When you are dreaming as yourself (as opposed to being a fictional character or someone else who isn't you), are you the gender you identify as? I don't mean that you necessarily have a cis person's genitals, but that you identify/present ... more
I've always dreamed of myself as the gender I identify as, but I didn't realize it until I was 14 and had a dream with a test of which the rules I did not know where I had to hang out with a small child for a few hours in a park filled with trucks I was allowed to drive, and at the end my history teacher stood next to a big grandfather clock and pointed at 11 o'clock and told me very excitedly and kindly that I almost passed, but there was still something missing in myself. At that point in the dream I kept having flash backs to the person playing with the child and realized I was not a girl. That's how I started to actively explore gender.
03/19/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by pestilence
When you are dreaming as yourself (as opposed to being a fictional character or someone else who isn't you), are you the gender you identify as? I don't mean that you necessarily have a cis person's genitals, but that you identify/present ... more
Neither of us has ever dreamed of ourselves as the "other" gender.
03/19/2012
Contributor: pestilence pestilence
Quote:
Originally posted by butts
Half the time in my dreams I'm male, half the time I'm still FtM, mid or early transition. But, I'm always guy-identified in the dreams, so I voted I'm always the gender I identify as. I think you're confusing sex (physical) and ... more
That's why I mentioned that I wasn't talking about whether one had a cis person's genitals or not - I was wondering about one's gender while dreaming, not one's sex.
03/19/2012
Contributor: tom fay tom fay
Sometimes my body is cis male, and sometimes its a trans mans body, but im usally 'read' as male/feel male
03/21/2012
Contributor: Alx Alx
I dreamt of myself as my identified gender even before I knew what being trans* was. Though, nowadays I'm more prone to have dreams where I'm trans* as well, mostly dreams handling dysphoria and fun stuff like that.
03/21/2012