Dealing with dysphoria when masturbating (MTF/male-assigned at birth individuals and partners only)

Contributor: guro guro
One of my partners is MTF (non-op, can't currently transition in any way) and lives far away from me right now. She's very dysphoric about her body and can't bring herself to masturbate often which causes her a lot of discomfort and shame...it's important for her to get over this and she's asked for advice from me but I don't know where to start!

I'm a female-assigned genderqueer and I'm personally very comfortable with my body and my genitals, I don't know what body dysphoria is like especially coming from a person with "male" parts who doesn't identify with them.

If you're MTF woman or an AMAB genderless etc person, what helped you get over dysphoria during your self-love time?

If you're a partner of an MTF woman or AMAB genderqueer person, were you able to help them with their dysphoria somehow?

General tips on dealing with dysphoria are appreciated as well, of course. I think I'm somewhat helpful to her when it comes to self-image/presenting/ etc, but I'm not perfect and as such could always use some pointers.

Thanks!
03/20/2012
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Contributor: catsin catsin
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Originally posted by guro
One of my partners is MTF (non-op, can't currently transition in any way) and lives far away from me right now. She's very dysphoric about her body and can't bring herself to masturbate often which causes her a lot of discomfort and ... more
I'm AFAB genderqueer, but through my experience dating a MTF I would suggest masturbation by dry humping... that's what my x did sometimes and it works for her pretty decently. She was uncut, so I'm not sure if it will work the same...

Also, possibly using lube on the head to massage JUST that (like a clit) might work. Again, being uncircumcised has its advantages in that regard.

I hope this helps or sparks some ideas!
Good luck to her!
03/26/2012
Contributor: guro guro
Quote:
Originally posted by catsin
I'm AFAB genderqueer, but through my experience dating a MTF I would suggest masturbation by dry humping... that's what my x did sometimes and it works for her pretty decently. She was uncut, so I'm not sure if it will work the same... ... more
thank you so much for the recommendations! i'll pass those on, she hasn't tried either before so they could certainly yield results!

(ps i'm an afab genderqueer myself! rad!)
03/26/2012