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Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
What are the outfits that make you feel the most confident and at home in your body? Do you have accessories or items of clothing that you tend to wear to feel better in certain situations? Do you ever make/alter your own clothes so that they reflect your identity better?

Personally, I adore my (TRANS)CEND t-shirt, as you may have noticed from my pic, and I have a hand-stenciled GENDERQUEER t-shirt that I often pull out if I want to feel better about myself. I have plans to make more shirts and patches for myself and friends this summer. I also frequent a lot of thrift stores for men's formal shirts in small sizes so that I don't get suck in dresses or ruffly shirts at formal events.
05/18/2012
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Contributor: Youssii Youssii
I go for a dandyish look and almost always wear a suit.

I also have a T-shirt that I wear that says "Hi, my pronoun is THEY, how about you?" as a name badge type thing on it
05/19/2012
Contributor: MasonM MasonM
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Originally posted by thisisadeletedaccount
What are the outfits that make you feel the most confident and at home in your body? Do you have accessories or items of clothing that you tend to wear to feel better in certain situations? Do you ever make/alter your own clothes so that they reflect ... more
Binder, packer, briefs, black t-shirt tucked into black jeans and a black button up shirt with red 'barbed wire' stitching.

My usual clothes to go out in.
05/19/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
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Originally posted by Youssii
I go for a dandyish look and almost always wear a suit.

I also have a T-shirt that I wear that says "Hi, my pronoun is THEY, how about you?" as a name badge type thing on it
That sounds awesome! Where did you get it/how did you make it?
05/19/2012
Contributor: indiechick indiechick
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Originally posted by thisisadeletedaccount
What are the outfits that make you feel the most confident and at home in your body? Do you have accessories or items of clothing that you tend to wear to feel better in certain situations? Do you ever make/alter your own clothes so that they reflect ... more
I love love love to wear what i apparently called a "yoga" skirt, it is comfy but body hugging and shows of all the curves that i love and covers the ones that i don't. Also a great fitting pair of jeans make me love myself.
05/20/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
I have certain fave t-shirts I wear that make me feel more confident.
05/20/2012
Contributor: butts butts
I don't keep clothes that I don't feel confident in Wearing my binder and packer always help, no matter what outfit I'm wearing. I don't wear them often though, especially if I'm not leaving the house for something more than a grocery run.
05/20/2012
Contributor: RocketBoom RocketBoom
Sweatervests.
06/14/2012
Contributor: cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
It really depends. I feel really confident when I'm dressed in a very feminine way some of the time. Showing off cleavage, wearing maybe a little too much makeup, wearing pretty dresses, so on. I've been exploring what it means to be femme lately, which isn't a usual thing for me. That feels more like I'm cross-dressing than when I dress in men's clothing, frankly.

I have a few items of clothing that I wear that make me feel more masculine, and I like them. One of my favorite outfits includes some v-necks I got from the men's section of H&M, dark blue jeans, my rainbow belt, and combat boots. I also love men's suits, if I can find one that fits me.
07/11/2012
Contributor: FindingJames FindingJames
Binder, packer, underwear (usually athletic trunks), straight leg jeans, band tee. Sometimes I switch the band tee for a button up.

As long as I have my binder and packer I'm ok.
07/11/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
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Originally posted by cryinglightning86
It really depends. I feel really confident when I'm dressed in a very feminine way some of the time. Showing off cleavage, wearing maybe a little too much makeup, wearing pretty dresses, so on. I've been exploring what it means to be femme ... more
Exploring femmeness can be a lot of fun, even when it's not your usual thing. I know what you mean about it feeling far more like cross-dressing than men's clothing. I'm in a street band where a lot of the other band members cross-dress for gigs, so I enjoy wearing my wildest femme clothing on those occasions, I feel like I fit right in.
07/13/2012
Contributor: pestilence pestilence
My binder is a must, and I have some t-shirts with nostalgic value that I make sure to wear when I'm feeling shitty. I have a certain set of clothes (solid black jeans, solid black Converses or combat boots, gray canvas bag, plaid overshirt, webcomic hoodie) that I think of as my "adventure" clothes, and I'll sometimes don them and go explore somewhere or other - I've been meaning to check out some nearby ruins for awhile, but I don't have the guts and so far it's often glorified window shopping, but even so wearing them gives me some extra confidence.

I'd really like to modify & personalize some of my clothing but I'm not sure what exactly I'd want to do with it yet. I love symbols of all kinds but I haven't found many that really resonate with me on a level that I'd want to advertise them to the rest of the world.
07/14/2012
Contributor: Phosphorous Tick Phosphorous Tick
I wear whatever the fuck I want to be honest.
I love fancy clothes- both male and female; but I feel most comfortable in a dress shirt and suit pants, lots of black.
I only wear dress pants- the fit the way I like them too.
BUT that being said I do still wear skirts and corsets and blouses only in combination with eachother.
For instance at the moment I'm wearing a Victorian petticoat and Victorian styled layered skirt, an ruffled blouse and a black overbust lace corset.
Why? because it makes me FEEL good. The only female clothes I FEEL good in- and will remain to be my favorite outfit until I get my Edwardian suit that is. Then it'll be cravats and neck ruffles everywhere. I love high collars and lace and elegance; male or female.
I had someone tell me- I wasn't allowed to wear female clothes if I identified as male. Which to me doesn't make sense. If a MtF can wear jeans and a T-shirt I can wear a goddamn skirt and a blouse.
08/11/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
I really enjoy finding the balance of clothing which will help me pass, yet I feel good in. I have never liked the 'bro' look, with baggy t-shirts, baggy jeans, and baseball caps. But it seems to be the easiest way to pass. AS I have been able to pass more, I have been able to go back to my random nerd style I enjoy more.
08/13/2012