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Contributor: Lif3sambiguity Lif3sambiguity 11/04/2010

I need help picking out a harness, it will be my second purchase of one and I am interested in one that lasts long, is sturdy when being warn, is easy to clean and maintain... which of these is best and why?

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Contributor: Lif3sambiguity Lif3sambiguity
suggestions on which would be the best harness for me and my gf, we can be rough in bed and love all positions
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Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
The harness I would vote on is the SpareParts Joque Harness, which you did not list. My vote was cast for the Lucid Dream Shape No. 9 because of its low cock hole and stable frontal design. However a jock-style harness is your best bet because they are the most stable, two straps wrapping behind your thighs instead of one strap in your butt crack. Hope that helps!
12/07/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I agree with MeliPixie--double harnesses give better control. I know the Joque has had lots and lots of praise, you may want to check it out.
12/07/2010
Contributor: kermi91 kermi91
I voted the Curve Kit because I'm partial to the curve dildo and prefer that style of harness. I find the double strap is more comfortable.
12/13/2010
Contributor: darkkitty darkkitty
Quote:
Originally posted by Lif3sambiguity
suggestions on which would be the best harness for me and my gf, we can be rough in bed and love all positions
Grrl shorts are comfy but lucid dream looks sexy!
12/20/2010
Contributor: guy4guyz420 guy4guyz420
I like the manbound butt plug harness
01/19/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
I don't have any of them, but the one I'm considering out of the list is the grrl shorts.
02/25/2011
Contributor: Ash&Becca Ash&Becca
If you are looking for sturdy the shorts look like your best option out of your choices.
03/15/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by kermi91
I voted the Curve Kit because I'm partial to the curve dildo and prefer that style of harness. I find the double strap is more comfortable.
I like the way that one looks too.
03/15/2011
Contributor: That Guy That Guy
I've heard that the Grrl shorts aren't as good as they look.
03/15/2011
Contributor: Solar Ray Solar Ray
Spareparts makes some really good quality toys/tools. I'd recommend something from them.
03/24/2011
Contributor: chris PA chris PA
Quote:
Originally posted by Lif3sambiguity
suggestions on which would be the best harness for me and my gf, we can be rough in bed and love all positions
use the feeldoe here and love it.
05/11/2011
Contributor: C-Rae C-Rae
For me the curve.. I do wanna get the Grr but I've heard it's not too good.. Control wise but I love how it looks like my boxers haha
06/10/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
I like the way the shorts look, but i love my spareparts joque harness. So even though it's not on the list, i def recomment it
06/11/2011
Contributor: hyperfemmepony hyperfemmepony
The Grrl shorts are really hot on any sized butt.
06/25/2011
Contributor: big b big b
poke along
06/26/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
Shorts harness
06/26/2011
Contributor: Gingy Gingy
on this list i would go spare parts but think you should also consider the Aslan Jaguar
08/25/2011
Contributor: CherryDyke CherryDyke
Yeah the feeldoe is pretty great.
08/31/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
I like the Joque too.
09/19/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by CherryDyke
Yeah the feeldoe is pretty great.
But for ACTIVE lovemaking? Mine never stayed in that well.
09/19/2011
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
Though I haven't tried this particular harness, I've super-good experiences with SpareParts. I'd also put in a vote for the Bare as you dare harness.
09/22/2011
Contributor: Rawhide Rawhide
Of the ones you listed, I'd go with the Curve kit. Latigo leather and nylon are both very sturdy materials, long lasting and easy to maintain, plus the two strap style gives you good stability and control, and the overall look of it is more appealing in my opinion. But it's out of stock

I like to see as much skin as possible, so the one with shorts or the ones with high waisted pieces in the front were automatically out for me. The spareparts one was also out, because although I know they make a quality product, the big wide belt and the pouch in the front just aren't asthetically pleasing to me. Plus I consider it to be way way way overpriced. For that price, you may as well go for an Aslan Leather Jag
09/22/2011
Contributor: Neurogasm Neurogasm
Gonna have to go with the prevailing opinion and say go with the shorts. Though, I've always had good experiences with SpareParts's work.
09/22/2011
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
I think the Grrl Shorts are cute!
09/22/2011
Contributor: mizzmilla mizzmilla
spareparts. I love them.
09/23/2011
Contributor: TheSlyFox TheSlyFox
The grrl shorts (:
10/25/2011
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by Lif3sambiguity
suggestions on which would be the best harness for me and my gf, we can be rough in bed and love all positions
I would say spare parts- heard great things about them
10/25/2011
Contributor: Girly Girl Girly Girl
purple is cute
10/25/2011
Contributor: Maxx Maxx
Quote:
Originally posted by Lif3sambiguity
suggestions on which would be the best harness for me and my gf, we can be rough in bed and love all positions
Id say the shorts. I have one that goes up my ass. That hurts after a while. Plus the straps itself can sometimes hurt too. I would find the shorts more comfortable.
11/14/2011
Contributor: Kabachu Kabachu
grrrl
01/31/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
grrl shorts looks cute
01/31/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
The Grrl Shorts are the cutest ones, imo.
02/01/2012
Contributor: funinthesun916 funinthesun916
Grrl shorts strap-on harness
03/20/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
The Grrl shorts are quite difficult to get the right size. It can be quite painful if you get it a size to small. We had to cut the elastic to get them to be a little less painful.
03/20/2012
Contributor: tigertiger tigertiger
Quote:
Originally posted by Lif3sambiguity
suggestions on which would be the best harness for me and my gf, we can be rough in bed and love all positions
have fun
03/22/2012
Contributor: Caus Caus
Try the Squareparts one.
03/23/2012
Contributor: Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
they all look fun
03/26/2012
Contributor: P3ngu1n78 P3ngu1n78
Squareparts!
04/18/2012
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I haven't tried the Spareparts Theo but I've been using a SpareParts Joque Harness for some time and I absolutely love it. It's very well made and keeps the dildo very secure and in place. Also it's machine washable which is super convenient.
04/26/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
Curve kit.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Rockasaurus Rockasaurus
Quote:
Originally posted by Lif3sambiguity
suggestions on which would be the best harness for me and my gf, we can be rough in bed and love all positions
The Grrl shorts would be great for a lost of positions without slipping!
05/01/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I love my Flame Kit from Tantus, but I'd also suggest the SpareParts Joque.
05/02/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Lif3sambiguity
suggestions on which would be the best harness for me and my gf, we can be rough in bed and love all positions
I'd try the Grrl shorts strap-on harness (Large).
05/06/2012
Contributor: ButchAndFemme ButchAndFemme
According to my wife, nothing is hotter than seeing a sneak peek of the Joque harness under my pants. As soon as she sees a bit of that thick black band, she's dripping with excitement.

Now I know that doesn't say much about the functionality of the harness, but be sure to get something that looks good too. (=
07/21/2012
Contributor: Lori Gonzales Lori Gonzales
girl shorts
10/10/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
Spare parts
10/10/2012