Lesbians and strap-ons

Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
When you're the one WEARING a strap on, is size important to you? Does your strap on have to be large and in charge? What other features about the look of the dildo are important to you as the wearer? Do you prefer realistic styling and/or color?
02/14/2012
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Useful topic breakdown on Dildo harness:

tenga+strap-on?
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Double strap on that vibrates
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Hey, I was wondering if you guys had any favorite toys you use with your partner. Anytime my girlfriend and I use anything besides our hands, it's a..
02/14/2012
Contributor: lcl169 lcl169
Quote:
Originally posted by charletnarouh
When you're the one WEARING a strap on, is size important to you? Does your strap on have to be large and in charge? What other features about the look of the dildo are important to you as the wearer? Do you prefer realistic styling and/or color?
it depends on the partner and her preferences... i dont care how large it is, but i personally prefer it not to look realistic.
02/15/2012
Contributor: nori nori
I prefer the more pretty colored. but I'm female bodied, and female identified. So It's a toy, not /me/.
02/15/2012
Contributor: PirateofPenance PirateofPenance
I don't like 'em too realistic--no veins, definitely.
02/16/2012
Contributor: Gingy Gingy
Don't like realistic at all! and as for size I just find the length important the longer it is usually the easier it is to try different positions.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
We don't like ours to be realistic. Ewe. I'm also not looking to be 'wreaked' so we have to make sure the length/width is something my body can handle comfortably.
02/17/2012
Contributor: xGOLDx xGOLDx
I'd rather they not be too realistic, mainly just because penises are ugly. As for size, obviously has to be comfortable to use, but there is something about having a big toy that just makes you feel powerful and dominating.
02/18/2012
Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
This is interesting as multiple past partners of mine were insulted by the size of what I wanted them to use (around 5" length and less than 1.5" diameter). I'm small and can't take very much. But they were too embarrassed to wear a small dildo in the harness.
02/19/2012
Contributor: xGOLDx xGOLDx
For toys on me they need to be really slim, since I'm quite small, but I've never had a partner complain about wearing a small toy. I think you've got some lame ex's is all
02/19/2012
Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
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Originally posted by xGOLDx
For toys on me they need to be really slim, since I'm quite small, but I've never had a partner complain about wearing a small toy. I think you've got some lame ex's is all
That I've had some shitty exes cannot be doubted. Some were pretty awful. I was just curious how typical or atypical they were in regards to this particular preference since I've encountered it numerous times.
02/20/2012
Contributor: CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
I prefer not realistic looking and size is whatever is comfotable for all parties. I do kinda think larger is hot for aesthetics, but not necessary!
02/22/2012
Contributor: Drapetomaniacal Drapetomaniacal
I think of the dildo as an accessory (not an extension of myself) so I like them to be a crazy color and I search high and low for ones I like. As for size, I could care less... which ever pleases my partner pleases me, however I tend to have partners who are experienced, lets say, and so i usually have a nice sized dildo, probably like 7 inches.
02/23/2012
Contributor: PirateofPenance PirateofPenance
I like unrealistic.
02/24/2012
Contributor: LilyLloyd LilyLloyd
I, too, prefer unrealistic ones; my past favorites are the Fun Factory Magnum (a kind of sleek, modernistic marbled thing) and the Tantus Vamp, which I call my "disco cock," -- it's purple and spangly! I draw the line at simulated balls, basically.

I wish companies like Tantus would make more "nonrealistic" harness-compatible toys; I find the "realistic" ones aren't really all that realistic anyway -- it's not like I'm ever going to find one that actually matches my skin tone.
02/24/2012
Contributor: Bzz Bzz
I refuse to get any that are too realistic and realistic colors. and no balls, ever!
02/24/2012
Contributor: LadyM LadyM
Quote:
Originally posted by charletnarouh
When you're the one WEARING a strap on, is size important to you? Does your strap on have to be large and in charge? What other features about the look of the dildo are important to you as the wearer? Do you prefer realistic styling and/or color?
I'm really surprised that most people like unrealistic looking ones. If I'm going to be fucked by someone, or if I'm going to fuck someone, I want the thing being inserted to look like a real dick. Fake plastic colorful dildos, for me, are only okay for masturbation. If I'm fucking or being fucked, I want the object to look like it could possibly be part of their body or my body, not like it's just a toy. In general, I don't see the point in playing around with a toy when there's a real live person who's body I could be playing with.
02/25/2012
Contributor: lzbncrckhead lzbncrckhead
Quote:
Originally posted by charletnarouh
When you're the one WEARING a strap on, is size important to you? Does your strap on have to be large and in charge? What other features about the look of the dildo are important to you as the wearer? Do you prefer realistic styling and/or color?
i just want it to be what she likes
02/28/2012
Contributor: LeeBee LeeBee
I don't like ones that look realistic and neither does my girlfriend. We both think penises are kind of... gross. But as far as size goes, I really only care about her preference. I want her to feel amazing.
03/01/2012
Contributor: Caus Caus
I'm not really pressed for size. I just one something stylish and comfortable. I'm not for realistic looking ones.
03/16/2012
Contributor: Mia.The.Wonder.Slut Mia.The.Wonder.Slut
Quote:
Originally posted by charletnarouh
When you're the one WEARING a strap on, is size important to you? Does your strap on have to be large and in charge? What other features about the look of the dildo are important to you as the wearer? Do you prefer realistic styling and/or color?
I like to have a variety to choose from, it keeps things from getting monotonous. I especially love dildos with vibes in them, though.
03/17/2012
Contributor: Caus Caus
Quote:
Originally posted by charletnarouh
When you're the one WEARING a strap on, is size important to you? Does your strap on have to be large and in charge? What other features about the look of the dildo are important to you as the wearer? Do you prefer realistic styling and/or color?
Woops! I wasn't aware of the fact that I had already answered this a few weeks ago lmfao. My memory is so shit.
03/29/2012
Contributor: asyouwsh asyouwsh
I do NOT like them to be realistic, and the smaller the better. Penises gross me out a bit, so anything realistic looking makes me feel weird. I do prefer a bit of a curve.
04/01/2012
Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
No preference. Whatever the receiver enjoys.
04/09/2012
Contributor: SummerICE SummerICE
Quote:
Originally posted by charletnarouh
When you're the one WEARING a strap on, is size important to you? Does your strap on have to be large and in charge? What other features about the look of the dildo are important to you as the wearer? Do you prefer realistic styling and/or color?
Anything goes pretty much, size is up to whoever is receiving or whatever we both decide on
04/09/2012
Contributor: TexasBrat TexasBrat
Hmmm, very interesting responses.
12/28/2012
Contributor: Bittenflame Bittenflame
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
Hmmm, very interesting responses.
Well I usually prefer to be hung lol that started out just to upscale my ex's ex boyfriends, but then I ended up just really liking to be larger. Realistic can be nice for the wearer, but since i'm not the one taking it usually, it's more about what my partner is comfortable with
12/30/2012
Contributor: jessi2 jessi2
Quote:
Originally posted by charletnarouh
When you're the one WEARING a strap on, is size important to you? Does your strap on have to be large and in charge? What other features about the look of the dildo are important to you as the wearer? Do you prefer realistic styling and/or color?
As it has been already stated, I choose based off of my fiance. She likes a different size than I do. Neither of us like realistic though. I have cut the balls off of a dildo before because it was weird to have them there.

I prefer longer and thinner, my partner prefers shorter with more girth. I generally try to choose color based on our favorite colors or which ever looks the most unrealistic.
01/02/2013
Contributor: unoriginalgirlyid unoriginalgirlyid
I only want the size to be large because it gives my partner more pleasure, not because I feel like if I am wearing a member it needs to be large. Then again I also do not feel like a man, nor want to identify as such anytime (although i've been told I turn into one when I strap on haha). I do not like anything realistic, it kind of creeps me out.
01/10/2013
Contributor: katat katat
i dont have a preference whether its realistic or not. no balls though.
01/22/2013