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How often do toys feature in your sex life?

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Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
Not including masturbation, how often do you use toys during partnered? While anyone can answer, of course, I'm primarily curious about the gay and lesbian contingent. Feel free to elaborate. If you'd like to, also answer the following:
Do you wish you and your partner used toys more or less than you do?
In general, do you prefer sex that involves toys or organic, toyless sex?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Every time I have sex.
Gunsmoke , MooRawr , Chief , Neotigress , Beautiful-Disaster
5
Most of the time.
bayosgirl , Breas , biancajames , garychutchcouple , BobbiJay , Subbi , Liz2 , js250 , callsignhusker , Rossie , Sammi , lcl169 , RonLee , nori , bilovers79 , xGOLDx , SomeMonster , Youssii , Gone (LD29) , freud13 , aliceinthehole , theavocadopit , ginainohio , HannahPanda , Rey , rockblenny , britanny0620 , sexykiss , Missmarc , vanillaSpice , Asher , collegecouple , katat , Eugler , Rainbows , Pumpk1nPatch
36
About half the time.
Teacookie , toxie m , Rileyy , Why Not? , pootpootpoot , NarcissisticLust , CutiePatootie , Gracie , Tess , Bittenflame , funcouple , 19WolfMan51 , britanny0620 , thisisadeletedaccount , Jenyana , PrincessYagami , tequilafish , Asher , Sweet-n-Playful , UnknownGirl , KrissyNovacaine , LoneOokami
22
Sometimes.
Kitka , FemmeFlo , Kissy , LAndJ , angel142stx , Mirachaya , lzbncrckhead , megan1987 , sexxxkitten , elli , Undecided , TransMarc , PropertyOfPotter , britanny0620 , marshmallow , Lioncub , TheProfessors , TransGuy14 , Martiniman , lovelyzombie
20
Once in a rare while.
duff , Ryuson , MsRigby , Love Obsessed
4
I've used toys frequently before, but don't anymore.
nori
1
I've used toys sporadically in the past but haven't recently.
vitriolicvertigo
1
I've never used toys but want to.
laceypanties
1
I've never used toys and don't want to.
Total votes: 90 (86 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I LOVE using a butt plug as a warm-up to sex and even during intercourse. There's nothing that makes me wetter than going down on my man with my butt plug in me. Less often, I will warm up with my rabbit vibe and I find that it reduces the risk of pain (my man is pretty large..for me.) Oh and the cock ring is a must for helping him with staying power... So yeah, I would say that toys are a major part of our sex life!
02/14/2012
Contributor: Breas Breas
We usually use something!
02/14/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Sorry - straight here, but my wife has learned to love the toy driven orgasms. It works for me because as a mono-orgasmic man trying to please his multi-orgasmic wife - I couldn't do it without the help.

Also as we got older sex became more recreation than romance so the toys fit right in.
02/14/2012
Contributor: duff duff
Rarely but I dont thing hub likes it. Which kinda blows cuz it helps me cum faster
02/14/2012
Contributor: biancajames biancajames
Quote:
Originally posted by charletnarouh
Not including masturbation, how often do you use toys during partnered? While anyone can answer, of course, I'm primarily curious about the gay and lesbian contingent. Feel free to elaborate. If you'd like to, also answer the following:
Do ... more
I usually need my vibe to get over the edge...
02/14/2012
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I only use my sex toys when I'm masturbating. I don't use them when I'm having partner sex.
02/14/2012
Contributor: FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
I like to use toys during sex. The most common would be a clit vibe while I'm being penetrated, or some restraints.
02/14/2012
Contributor: Kissy Kissy
Sometimes I love it, sometimes I don't want to clean them!
02/14/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
Not always but sometimes is nice. Mostly we like to use the bdsm stuff and sex isn't always included in that lol.
02/14/2012
Contributor: BobbiJay BobbiJay
I use them most of the time when in a relationship. I am currently single so I use them almost all the time.
02/14/2012
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Almost always during partner sex. My boyfriend, who was not initially a fan of sex toys, now loves them as he says they so help him satisfy his multi-orgasmic girlfriend.
In sex with a girlfriend, toys are always part of our play.
02/14/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
We use them 90% of the time. Since our kids moved out on their own, sex has become a great hobby and recreational activity for us. We love the added enhancement, visuals and fun of toys. i am very multi-orgasmic and my husband is pretty good for four to five of them, if spaced out a slight bit. So, pretty much most of the time!!
02/14/2012
Contributor: callsignhusker callsignhusker
butt plugs feature very frequently
02/14/2012
Contributor: MsRigby MsRigby
We own a few, but rarely use them. They are novelty items for special occasions.
02/14/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I use toys during foreplay 98% of the time, only reason why I might skip toys is because my husband wanted to perform his wonderful finger skills on me!
02/14/2012
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
My partner and I only use them sometimes. Usually it's a clitoral vibrator to bring me to orgasm as he thrusts.
02/14/2012
Contributor: lcl169 lcl169
i use toys a lot as a queer lady who enjoys penetrating/being penetrated with something bigger than fingers
02/15/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Well let's see. Cock ring, Plug, vibe and or dildo for warm up before anal.
02/15/2012
Contributor: nori nori
While I was seeing a female-bodied individual, toys were always used on me, but not for him. So about half the time
02/15/2012
Contributor: xGOLDx xGOLDx
Once in a while I really crave just plain sex, no toys, no frills, just me and a partner. But like 95% bring on the toys. Doesn't matter if I'm with a male or female, they still get used a lot. Anything to make it more fun and interesting.
02/25/2012
Contributor: SomeMonster SomeMonster
Speaking as a female-bodied lesbian here, and generally we do - well, ever since we bought some awesome ones on Eden, that is, haha. I don't need any at all, while she has trouble without a little 'kick'.
03/05/2012
Contributor: Rileyy Rileyy
Toys aren't used very often but it's always fun when they are.
03/05/2012
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
Quote:
Originally posted by charletnarouh
Not including masturbation, how often do you use toys during partnered? While anyone can answer, of course, I'm primarily curious about the gay and lesbian contingent. Feel free to elaborate. If you'd like to, also answer the following:
Do ... more
My partner and use toys pretty frequently during sex but they are mandatory if we plan on having anal sex. I really enjoy when we use toys because I am more likely to orgasm, which is both good for me and him.
05/25/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Some of the time.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Youssii Youssii
I like using vibes to keep forcing (consenting) people to cum after my fingers get too tired....
05/25/2012
Contributor: Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I've had toys used on be twice.I'm not with anyone but,I prefer toyless sex.
05/26/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by charletnarouh
Not including masturbation, how often do you use toys during partnered? While anyone can answer, of course, I'm primarily curious about the gay and lesbian contingent. Feel free to elaborate. If you'd like to, also answer the following:
Do ... more
pretty much every time i have sex, unless it's just a quickie out somewhere where i don't have my toys, i'll use several. at least some lube will be involved and a vibrator for my clit, if nothing else.
05/26/2012
Contributor: theavocadopit theavocadopit
Quote:
Originally posted by callsignhusker
butt plugs feature very frequently
Same!
05/28/2012
Contributor: vitriolicvertigo vitriolicvertigo
I dated a girl who always wanted to start without toys but end with them. She didn't do a good job integrating them into the experience, though, so it was kind of disappointing on the whole.
05/31/2012