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How did you come out the closet to your parents?

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Contributor: SolasAingeal SolasAingeal
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Originally posted by ReesaAndBrandon
I still haven't and would welcome anyone with advice on the subject.
I actually traveled hundreds of miles away to visit a cousin and told my parents through e-mail. They were rather upset that I came out. They had guessed but couldn't figure out why I would want to come out. For a couple years my mother seemed supportive, but it turns out both my parents hated it and thought it was a phase. After my last birthday, I haven't really spoken with them.
12/04/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
I just came out right and said it, "Mum, I'm gay." Better to bite the bullet and be comfortable with yourself rather than hiding in shame all your life.

Although, not a lot of people have understanding parents, and that totally blows.
12/04/2011
Contributor: Jroc Jroc
Still haven't told them, never will. Whole family is a bunch of homophobes.
12/10/2011
Contributor: deae04 deae04
My parents freaked out, and life sucked for a few years. They are Catholic, and I was 15. Recently, they've been trying to be more accepting and acknowledges my girlfriend who is allowed to visit their house with me on occasion.
12/11/2011
Contributor: In the Sheets In the Sheets
I was lucky in the sense that I never questioned my parents love and support of me. I simply had a conversation with them both separately explaining to them that I was not attracted to men, but women and that I would be dating women from now on.

The best advice I can give you is to not explain it to them as a "possibility". I wouldn't tell them that you're "thinking" you might be gay. Tell them what you feel without going into too many details (most adults don't like that no matter the orientation) and without hesitating. If you are confident and comfortable about your sexuality it will be MUCH easier for them to be comfortable with you.

Good luck!
12/30/2011
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
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Originally posted by ReesaAndBrandon
I still haven't and would welcome anyone with advice on the subject.
I still haven't told mine yet
01/11/2012
Contributor: ehue1992 ehue1992
I came out to my parents less than a year ago. My mom was completely understanding and supportive, but somehow it felt like my relationship with her changed. And as far as my Dad goes. Jeez, I haven't spoken to him since I told him. He did text me a month afterwards and tell me that he wasn't disappointed, but he just couldn't accept it at the time. Said he needed "time to process." Almost a year later and he's still processing. I think he needs to upgrade his drivers because that computer is WAYYYY too slow.
02/08/2012
Contributor: PirateofPenance PirateofPenance
I asked my mom at age six if I could marry a female friend. She said yes.

My father figured it out on his own. When I eventually told him and he didn't act surprised, I asked him why he hadn't brought it up with me. "I just wanted to let you tell me when you were ready," he said.

My parents = mad chill.
02/08/2012
Contributor: woofcub woofcub
haven't told mine probably never will, although I think that they already have a good idea.
02/13/2012
Contributor: vampyroteuthidae vampyroteuthidae
There was a lot of screaming involved. Didn't go well.
02/13/2012
Contributor: callsignhusker callsignhusker
parents can be pretty closed minded
02/14/2012
Contributor: thebest thebest
accepted me
02/14/2012
Contributor: marshmallow marshmallow
my mom knew before i did
05/31/2012
Contributor: funcouple funcouple
I sent my mom an email, and that was many many months ago. Still awaiting her beginning to accept everything. Hopefully she comes around.
05/31/2012
Contributor: Why Not? Why Not?
I was 20 and it was over brunch in a nice restaurant with my whole family... on Mother's Day. The restaurant wasn't a bad idea. I know my family isn't the type to make a scene so I knew that however they felt there would be no shouting/tears/blame in public. They took it really well though. Pops was a champ when he just responded by asking who the luck guy is. In hindsight maybe it wasn't the best idea to do it on Mother's Day but we so rarely get the whole family together and I didn't want to have to do that multiple times. Oh well, I'm sure it gave the other patrons something to talk about during their Mother's Day Brunch. hehehe
05/31/2012
Contributor: Robert Paulson Robert Paulson
I haven't told either of my parents that I'm bisexual. I am a 23 year old male and have only been with my first boyfriend for a month so far. I'm still gauging the longevity of this relationship before I decide to tell my parents. My cousin and I are very close and he knows but my sister doesn't know either. My cousin took it very well and I figured he would because he's always been very good with my gay friends.
02/01/2013
Contributor: FlightyBroad FlightyBroad
I told my mom late at night, admittedly with really poor timing. She was surprised and didn't handle it well at first, but is completely accepting now. I told my dad years later and by then my mom had prepped him so he responded well. My family is at least accepting at this point.
02/07/2013
Contributor: aluminummm aluminummm
My parents are a pair of old Cubans and they're super Catholic. It did not go well at all.
02/08/2013
Contributor: LittleHouse LittleHouse
Quote:
Originally posted by ReesaAndBrandon
I still haven't and would welcome anyone with advice on the subject.
Ok, wellll I still have not come out directly to my Parents.. BUT my Sister knows and I think she told them.. it might be one of those things that is just not talked about - background: I come from an LDS Family LOL
02/25/2013
Contributor: LoganAshlee. LoganAshlee.
I came out as trans not gay but I guess I can relate. Most people took it well but I didn't really care what they thought.
02/25/2013
Contributor: doowop doowop
Kicked me out, got rid of my pets without my knowledge, blamed each other, then my mom eventually accepted me. It was sad, but I wasn't surprised. My dad recently started accepting me. He's still weird about it and kinda makes me feel like shit, but he's trying. He hated my ex with a seething passion so that made things very awkward, but he's been supportive of me and my new GF.
02/28/2013
Contributor: smlove smlove
Quote:
Originally posted by ReesaAndBrandon
I still haven't and would welcome anyone with advice on the subject.
I told my parents when I was 21. Then I met my first girlfriend.
03/06/2013
Contributor: bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by ReesaAndBrandon
I still haven't and would welcome anyone with advice on the subject.
My mom said she knew already!
03/06/2013
Contributor: Bittenflame Bittenflame
ny mother reacted quite horribly
03/08/2013
Contributor: FrustratedFemme FrustratedFemme
It took a while for my parents to accept me, but now they're very supportive. I initially came out to my dad as bisexual when I was 14, but later I realized I was a lesbian and I came out to both my parents as gay when I was 16.
03/24/2013
Contributor: JDear JDear
Other.
My mom already knew when I told her, haha. She is very supportive and awesome about it.
04/15/2013
Contributor: J Peach J Peach
My parents said they just wanted me to be happy.
04/15/2013
Contributor: lovelyzombie lovelyzombie
Havent yet..
04/16/2013
Contributor: jwell jwell
Quote:
Originally posted by ReesaAndBrandon
I still haven't and would welcome anyone with advice on the subject.
My parents took it very well. I was very fortunate to have such a supportive family.
05/24/2013
Contributor: JinxPinx JinxPinx
When I wanted help with some gender confusion I had, I gave a letter to my mum right before she left for the whole weekend. So there was some time to absorb it and calm down about it before reacting to it. Then when we actually discussed some things it was in public so she had to stay calm and quiet
06/04/2013