I can see your point with this. I don't think coming out is part of heteronormativity. It's part of discovering yourself, and putting yourself out there, instead of being stowed away in a closet somewhere. It's just a growing experiance. Heterosexuals don't have this spiritual experiance, and therefor lack one of the most transforming things that can happen in one's life.

It all depends on the person. Everyone is different. Everyone's priorities are different.

As of now, I don't intend to come out to my family as trigender/pansexual or whatever. Even though my sexuality and gender expression are huge parts of me, they wouldn't understand, and some things are just better left unsaid. I don't mind telling my friends if the subject comes up, though. I choose my friends, but I can't choose my family. I love them and they love me, but I'm not going to pretend that my coming out wouldn't cause a rift between us. Likewise, if they knew I was pro-choice, pro gay marriage, or in an open marriage, they would flip.

i don't feel as if it should really be an issue... it's not really anyone's business what a person's sexuality is unless that person wants them to know.

If I were In a relationship I would share, but w/ just me solo, eh, at this point only a few people know. When I was married to a man I didn't talk about my heterosexualness either. I do talk about me being sexual because I hope others learn about their own bodies & the treasure we have!!

I want to clarify that my orientation is no secret. I'm very open. I meant more the idea of an event, or rather a reaction to the assumption. I;m sorry, I'm not articulating well.

I think that coming out opens doors. But when it comes to safety and security then I wouldnt want to force anyone.

It depends on the person. If a person is comfortable with coming out and views it as something they want to make a big deal out of, then go for it. If a person doesn't view it as such a huge thing and would rather bring up their queerness casually, then that's fine too.