I voted "rarely" but I don't look for people to just "fuck". I look for relationships (though I've become a more sexual person who may be open to a "fuck" now that I'm not a virgin anymore). When I was single, I looked for women but living where I do, I didn't have much luck. I had only one real girlfriend and two kind-of girlfriends. Now that I'm with my boyfriend (who is open to letting me have sex with women whether he's there or not), I've had a little more luck. In the sex department, at least. I was a virgin in all ways before I met him and now I've slept with one man and one woman (the former being my boyfriend and the latter being someone I was drunk with while he watched - lol). And now I've gotten offers from a woman I know who wants to "partake" with me without my boyfriend being anywhere nearby. He's already said I can. I just need to gain the courage!

I've never been with a girl, although I am very attracted to girls and often get incurable crushes. Girls have come on to me before, but I lack the guts to do anything about it. I think I am scared I wouldn't "know what to do".

I am a woman attracted to women who looks more feminine and while I don't tend to label myself, many call a femme. Unfortunately I am a victim of femme invisibility and many lesbians do not approach me because they think I am straight. Therefore I always have to be the more forward one when first getting to know and approaching people. This isn't too hard for me, but it can get tiresome and sometimes makes me feel unattractive or unapproachable. I do get approached by men a decent amount but not so much by the women, Sometimes you just have to go and get what you want. But because I am usually the one who makes the first move it is for someone I am interested in as more than a one night stand so I don't partake in too many of those while I have had several casual sexual relationships I don't like the anonymous sex as much. Luckily I usually don't have too much trouble with the women I do approach because it's almost like when you stun an animal before you attack. Usually they're so surprised that this girl they thought was straight is hitting on them that they just go with it and give up the digits.

Well, I would like to say sorry if I offended anyone by not including the long term intentions, in my case it was always about short things because I didn't want to stay with anyone in those days, of course it doesn't mean that longterm relationships isn't the topic here too...

And it is always useful get to know such things by such fine comments like yours, I am still wondering how life will be as well, a dear little female is extremely interested in me, and W/we haven't taken any steps further only because I don't want any females around for now, God knows, maybe never, but it's better to keep such things in mind anyway, and that's why I personally appreciate so much what you ladies (and guys) write here! ~smiles soft

I never tried to be with the same sex, not interested, thank you.

My preference is for the same sex but I find its a rare occasion that I actually spend the night with a woman, being married might be partly why though

I think it really depends on the area I am looking at. I am not particularly good at 'the pick up.' But it helps being in the same area as people who have there eyes out on the same thing.