Stereotype discussion: Threesomes

Contributor: pix pix
I would have a threesome, and my boyfriend and I have talked about it, but I wouldn't know who to invite and I'm not going out of my way to find a third.
03/02/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I am not curious about them. I don't like sharing.
03/06/2012
Contributor: Teddixox Teddixox
I always say I am heterosexual but I am really sexually attracted to girls as well, not as much as men but still. I would never call myself bisexual though because I think it's misleading. It's a naughty thing. Purely pleasure, I would never have an emotional or committed relationship with another woman. It's just hard to find the right girl to join in with us.
03/06/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
i think it could be fun... if me and my man were not the couple..
03/12/2012
Contributor: pinkLFant pinkLFant
The more the merrier!
03/16/2012
Contributor: Khanner Khanner
I can't see myself enjoying a threesome. I need lots of trust and emotional intimacy before I can make a move on someone, and am monogamous.
03/16/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
I would be curious to try but I feel like I am too jealous to be able to do that. I am too private.
03/16/2012
Contributor: Caus Caus
I agree with you, I think it would be kind of boring since the main focus is just on getting others off instead of it being about connecting with someone. I suppose it'd depend on who was partaking in the threesome.
03/29/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
I am a heterosexual female and as a belated wedding present to my husband I set up a threesome with another heterosexual female. I don't think it was a true threesome because there wasn't much action between me and the other female, but it was fun, and all three of us enjoyed ourselves.
03/29/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I'm curious, it's just I don't want to ruin the relationship I have with my current partner. Or risk it. Selfishly I am curious to try and FMM threesome, but doing that would make me feel the need to reciprocate with a FMF threesome. Thus, we are at an impasse. But it is not important.
03/30/2012
Contributor: xxjoel xxjoel
Threesomes can be awkward physically, but I still like them.
03/30/2012
Contributor: vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
I am a heterosexual woman who has never had a threesome, but is curious. My fantasy, in particular, involves two bi guys and me, because it's just so hot...
03/30/2012
Contributor: DiamondKoala DiamondKoala
I was always interested in threesomes but I honestly just don't know enough people I would be comfortable enough to go into something like that with.
03/30/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
Threesomes seem complicated. I get confused when it is just the two of us. Adding a third would get weird.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Snozzberries Snozzberries
It helps when two (or three) of the people are good friends.
I've done MMF and MFF and they all worked out just fine for me. You do have to be really at ease with things though, and be frank with each other. That's hard for a lot of people, especially in that kind of situation.
04/22/2012
Contributor: Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
I am curious, but in a fantasy sense. It is not something I am actually interested in trying. I am homosexual and female.
04/23/2012
Contributor: badk1tty badk1tty
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Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ... more
I don't see how being bisexual means you suddenly want to share. I'm bi, female, married to a male, and have no desire to ever share him in a threesome.
04/23/2012
Contributor: sleepyjeanne sleepyjeanne
I'm female and bisexual, and I've never tried one, but I'm also pretty much completely uninterested in one. I get propositioned for them, but it just doesn't appeal to me. Sounds like too much social anxiety. I'd much rather focus entirely on one person and have one person focus entirely on me. There are plenty of threesome-having bis in this world, but I have to admit that I find it irritating that it's assumed I'd be into that.
04/26/2012
Contributor: MaeGal MaeGal
Other, bisexual, female.

I've attempted to have two threesomes before with my boyfriend.
The first one was going well (despite me not being into the girl at all, he had actually slept with her prior to the start of our relationship), but it was at a college party and his door didn't have a lock so we kept getting interrupted and the girl eventually opted for another time.
The second time neither of us were really into it, which was surprising mainly because we'd both had crushes on this second girl in the past. Though that wasn't so much a threesome as much as us three making out and messing around.
My boyfriend and I concluded that we're going to stop really trying to have threesomes. If it happens spontaneously, then why not give it a try. Otherwise, we'll just stick with each other. =)
04/29/2012
Contributor: TransMarc TransMarc
If I ever have the occasion, why not!
04/29/2012
Contributor: Passion plum Passion plum
The fantasy of it is fun but would never go through with it.
05/02/2012
Contributor: Chami Chami
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Originally posted by buttmunch
I am curious just because I think it would be interesting to try, but also I do think sex is much more special if you're with someone you care deeply about and not just for the pleasure of it, so I don't think I'd actually ever try it ... more
i agree fully with this you put it perfect...i like the thought of a threesome but i have only ever been with one man and that is all i want to be with i also don't want some other girl touching on my man and well his ass belongs to me plus all the stuff you said about being special and such
05/13/2012
Contributor: 31 Flavors 31 Flavors
Hetero male. I have fantacized about being with two women, but I doubt I would ever do it because I also prefer a more intimate encounter with one women whom I love.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ... more
Never tried, but would like to try.
05/18/2012
Contributor: Jake'n'bake Jake'n'bake
Never tried, other, other. I really want to try one but I think it would be difficult to find someone that my partner and I both liked enough to allow into our bangin' it times. To be honest, though, it would have to be a one-night-stand type of thing to work ( at least for me )...
05/18/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
We talk about this a lot. I want one, but I don't want a girl who wants anything to do with either of us emotionally. I don't really want to talk to her ever again either. However, we worry about diseases, so we want a trusting person. I'm not sure what we are going to do. But we WILL have one one day.

Honestly, yesterday we were talking about checking out the Bunny ranch or the mustang ranch. Because one of those girls would fit the criteria. And we'd be able to do it again if we want.
05/18/2012
Contributor: lecanis lecanis
Quote:
Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ... more
I enjoy threesomes, but the idea of them as some sort of pinnacle of bisexual sex drives me crazy. Group sex can be a fun thing if everyone involved is willing to laugh at the awkwardness of it, and everyone is coming in with the same expectations. But it definitely IS awkward in most cases, and doesn't really (for me) take the place of one-on-one interactions with a partner.

I also don't necessarily want both a male and a female partner at the same time, over two male partners or two female partners, so my favorite threesomes aren't really the bisexual stereotype either. In fact, my personal favorite threesomes are the ones where I'm kind of the third wheel and mostly focusing on the other two.
06/26/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
I'd rather watch. I've done it, with friends, and only because it was friends, and wouldn't seek it out again. I feel like people being so focused on "threesome!" comes from such a heteronormative, extra-woman-as-a-sex-t oy place. I like my friends, but I hate the assumption that somebody's into it just by nature of their sexual orientation, I hate unicorn hunters (couples looking for the perfect girl for both of them), and I hate running into unicorn-hunting couples when I have no interest in doing random dudes just because their girlfriend is pretty.

I think it goes right along with the assumption that a woman who likes sex is down for everything, all the time. It is such bullshit.
06/27/2012
Contributor: Girly Juice Girly Juice
I'm a bi cis female and have little interest in threesomes. It's just not something I've ever particularly yearned to do. But I could see myself being in one if the situation was just right, and I was attracted enough to the people involved.
06/28/2012
Contributor: Jenyana Jenyana
Hm, I'd be willing to try it if there was a couple I was close to who wanted some help spicing up their bedroom activities, but I wouldn't want to share one of *my* committed partners... I guess I'm really insecure and would worry that my beau would show a bit too much enthusiasm for this other person and leave me for them.... :/
06/29/2012