Did you spend a lot of time confused?

Contributor: T E S K I ℉ T E S K I ℉
Before you realized you were bisexual? What made you realize you were infact, bisexual, and not just confused? I know many people believe bisexuals are just confused, and I know there are some confused people who identify as bisexual, sometimes until they come to a conclusion. What about you?
11/04/2011
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Contributor: chicken12 chicken12
Not confused really - I did think about it for a very long time though, several months. It really opened my eyes up to my preconceived notions about sexuality.
11/04/2011
Contributor: PassionCpl PassionCpl
I don't recall being confused. I started feeling an attraction towards other girls but it didn't confuse me. Hubby says he was the same with guys.
11/05/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I'm Pan, but it's the same general ballpark. I'm attracted to all genders, and I think I was definitely confused for a while, since I was raised with a Christian mindset, but I got better.
11/05/2011
Contributor: Tangerine Tangerine
I wasnt confused... I was just waiting for someone else to make the 1st move
12/05/2011
Contributor: darkkitty darkkitty
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Originally posted by T E S K I ℉
Before you realized you were bisexual? What made you realize you were infact, bisexual, and not just confused? I know many people believe bisexuals are just confused, and I know there are some confused people who identify as bisexual, sometimes ... more
I was never confused. I think the media is so sexualized now days that is is easy to come out as bi.
12/07/2011
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Yes and no, for me it was mostly about not wanting to accept myself as bi-sexual for a while because I was always told god hates gay people (by friends and other adults, never my family though).
I had my first real crush on a girl back in high school, but even before that I was checking other women out.
12/12/2011
Contributor: midnightcaresses midnightcaresses
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Originally posted by T E S K I ℉
Before you realized you were bisexual? What made you realize you were infact, bisexual, and not just confused? I know many people believe bisexuals are just confused, and I know there are some confused people who identify as bisexual, sometimes ... more
I started thinking more about women touching me and I liked the idea of it more than I thought I would.
02/16/2012
Contributor: oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
Never confused at all. It made perfect sense to me. What I find confusing is that for most people whether or not they can love someone is based on something so arbitrary.
02/16/2012
Contributor: FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
Nope. But I spent a long time in denial.
02/16/2012
Contributor: kittychilla kittychilla
hell, i still feel confused.
02/16/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Nope, I knew I was bisexual and as soon as I had my first experience with a girl I known for sure.
02/16/2012
Contributor: zecookiepuss zecookiepuss
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Originally posted by darkkitty
I was never confused. I think the media is so sexualized now days that is is easy to come out as bi.
Agreed... although when I came out 20 years ago it was a lot harder. The media has actually made it much easier for people to come out.
02/17/2012
Contributor: zecookiepuss zecookiepuss
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Originally posted by kittychilla
hell, i still feel confused.
Understandable!
02/17/2012
Contributor: zecookiepuss zecookiepuss
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Originally posted by FemmeFlo
Nope. But I spent a long time in denial.
Sometimes it takes a lot of time to come to those conclusions. I was brought up Catholic and that screwed with my head for a while before accepting who I really was.
02/17/2012
Contributor: nori nori
I was confused on how to tell my family. But other than that, i was pretty much ok with liking all genders.
02/18/2012
Contributor: zeebot zeebot
Sort of....my sexuality tends to flop around a lot, which was really weird till I got used to it.
02/18/2012
Contributor: pix pix
When I was a young teen I was a bit confused about why other girls didn't find breasts/female anatomy as "fascinating" as I did. In my first semester of college I had my first crush on another female and I kind of just avoided thinking about it because I was already stressed out and didn't want to have to deal with a sexuality crisis. Then for two years the number of crushes I had on females grew and by my senior year I finally admitted to myself I was bisexual but it wasn't the crisis I thought it was going to be.
03/06/2012
Contributor: Sam I Am Sam I Am
I'm not sure I would use the term confused for me, but I definitely thought about it for a couple years before coming out to make sure I was actually bisexual and not just bicurious. I've now figured out I'm just pan and don't care what gender my special someone is ^_^
03/20/2012
Contributor: highlifegirl highlifegirl
Anyone in a relationship who is not confused at some point deserves an award.
03/20/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
I was only confused when I realized that others saw differences.
03/21/2012
Contributor: tigertiger tigertiger
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Originally posted by kittychilla
hell, i still feel confused.
same; i think i'm just perpetually confused.
03/25/2012
Contributor: SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
I didn't feel confused about it... I was in denial of it for a while (even when I started dating my girlfriend). I was straight and she was the exception to my rule. And then one day, I realized I was actually attracted to women... and it was okay. So yeah, not confused... just a late bloomer.
05/31/2012
Contributor: vitriolicvertigo vitriolicvertigo
So. much. confusion.
06/01/2012
Contributor: hall5885 hall5885
I never was confused. I always knew and didn't have a problem with it until I was a teen. And it wasn't me being pan that I had a problem with, it was being ok to tell me that I had a problem with. But not anymore. I figure if they don't like it they can go shove it where the sun don't shine.
06/02/2012
Contributor: CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
I can get confused sometimes, especially when there's someone really messing with my head with tons of "what if?" questions. I recently had an experience with a third that I couldn't handle the pressure she was putting on me and it ended up feeling like she was pulling me away from my husband so we had to break it off.
06/04/2012
Contributor: britanny0620 britanny0620
I started off liking women, and thinking I was a lesbian. I became confused when I started being attracted to men. Backwards, much?? Haha, anyways, I went a very long time flopping between believing I was lesbian and believing I was bi, and then when I started being attracted to trans* people I started identifying as Pansexual. I do still have a preference for women.
06/04/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
Not really, it just sorta made sense for me, what confuses me is how people can view an ENTIRE gender and not be attracted to anyone...
06/04/2012
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
Actually, no. As a child, I always related just as well to boys as I did to girls, and I just as interested in "playing doctor" with both.
By the time I reached middle school, I identified as "bi", but it wasn't until I reached college that I learned more about sexualities and realized that I was actually pansexual.
Essentially, I was never really confused about my sexuality. It was just a matter of finding the proper name for it.
06/04/2012
Contributor: britanny0620 britanny0620
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Originally posted by (k)InkyIvy
Actually, no. As a child, I always related just as well to boys as I did to girls, and I just as interested in "playing doctor" with both.
By the time I reached middle school, I identified as "bi", but it wasn't until I ... more
I don't know exactly how to respond to this, except to tell you that when I read it, it made me smile.
06/04/2012