Please help me. I think I am going crazy here. I am lusting for bisex but not for me, for my husband. Is this normal?

Contributor: LuvMyMan LuvMyMan
Please help me. I think I am going crazy here. I am lusting for bisex but not for me, for my husband. Is this normal? I love him dearly. We have amazing sex. We have been playing more and more with toys, wall toys, suction toys, strap ons all at my direction. I got into cum play and of course wanted my husband to share the experience. Then I got into anal play and wanted my husband to share that. Over time we have opened up to RP with cum and anal which leads me to my crazy desires to share even more with my husband. I love our sex when we share it and now I’d like to share it with other couples – bi couples. I have this crazy unrelenting desire for sex with bimales and me and my husband. I want to perform oral with my husband and share the experience. I also want to share the “real” anal experience with him. His orgasms from anal are amazingly large, multi, and last for the longest time. I know the real deal would be far better than the toys we use and I can’t get it out of my head. How does one get rid of such thoughts? This is not normal for a wife to want such things, any ideas what is going on? I can’t stop thinking about it. Oh my goodness, it is driving goofy. Please help me with honesty nonjudgemental insight. Thanks you all so very much.
10/17/2014
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Contributor: Aesenthia Aesenthia
I think it is normal to have fantasies, of course. I don't think you're crazy at all and it sounds like you and your husband have been trying new things and enjoying them (this doesn't always happen when trying new things). Have you spoke to your husband about it? Don't worry about what's "normal" and worry more about how to make something you want into a reality. If your husband is against the idea, then there's not much else you can do, but if you bring it up to him and he doesn't automatically shoot it down then maybe there is more to explore there. I want to have a three sum with my boyfriend and another guy and he doesn't want to, so that was shut down, but he said he would think about another girl so it is a bit of a compromise there. Just communicate and see what happens.
10/17/2014
Contributor: craftyunicorn craftyunicorn
Sounds fun to me..... don't worry!
10/24/2014
Contributor: JinxPinx JinxPinx
sounds hot... ; ]
12/26/2014
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
First and foremost, talk to him and see what he thinks. If I were you, I'd let him know that you really enjoy your love play time together and think it might be more fun to try what you are thinking about. If he doesn't automatically shoot you down, then suggest the beginning of what you want to happen. Try to set up a scenario where you both are comfortable and see what happens.

You are not Crazy, just determined to share your fantasies. There is nothing wrong with sharing either. Sharing means caring.
12/26/2014
Contributor: Txfuncouple Txfuncouple
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Originally posted by LuvMyMan
Please help me. I think I am going crazy here. I am lusting for bisex but not for me, for my husband. Is this normal? I love him dearly. We have amazing sex. We have been playing more and more with toys, wall toys, suction toys, strap ons all ... more
Herpob,

We understand what you're going through. We also play a lot in the bedroom and enjoy pegging and other aspects of playtime.

I had always considered the possibility of M/M/F being really hot and had a chance with a couple guys prior to meeting my husband, but they were not into touching beyond incidental contact.

Fast forwad to now and my husband is very open. We occasionally play with a strap on or with me just using a toy on him when the mood strikes. I've snowballed with him after going down on him, he will go down on me after cumming inside me and we have even had him roll his legs over his head while I sucked him/played with his ass/stroked him until I aimed his cock towards his mouth and he shot his own load directly in his mouth.

We have discussed M/M/F with me calling the shots or finding a couple where the girls direct the boys to put on a show for them (there are LOTS of girls that think M/M is hot). We often talk when having sex about another cock and I've used our toys on his mouth and ass while we have been having sex also. I get really turned on thinking about him getting it from behind while he's inside me and we've got a favorite position where his ass is exposed and I have used toys on him while he was inside me. I have no doubt I could talk him in to sucking another guy or letting him take him from behind with my encouragement. I'm the jealous type so don't know if it will ever happen, but the fantasy of it is enough for us now.

So no, you are not crazy. You should be thankful you have an open minded partner that enjoys your fantasies as much as you do. The key to this and any other fantasy is open communication with your partner.
02/16/2015
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Herpob, all I can say is that your Hubby is one lucky fellow.
02/16/2015
Contributor: Redpath 48 Redpath 48
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Originally posted by LuvMyMan
Please help me. I think I am going crazy here. I am lusting for bisex but not for me, for my husband. Is this normal? I love him dearly. We have amazing sex. We have been playing more and more with toys, wall toys, suction toys, strap ons all ... more
To begin with, you are not crazy. Full of Adventure maybe, but not crazy. You need to talk this out and be sure there is a match with your feelings. Here is my story...


As an older adult male, I had never considered anything different then being with my wife as a monogamous couple. When I had a prostate cancer scare a couple of years ago my whole life changed. As it turned out, it was just a scare and I am without cancer. That being said, I have had prostate surgery and now able to resume a normal life. Over a two-year period, I have had fingers up my anus along with equipment for two separate biopsies. It seemed like I was the one to practice on because I live near a teaching hospital. About once a month, I would have something put up inside me for sometime short exams or long exams.

I called my Doc Bubal and asked he was getting me ready for prison with all his in and out of my bottom. What was first embarrassing became something I looked forward to. It was always something different, sometimes male sometimes female sometimes students, two or three at a time. I never knew.

Because I was kind of enjoying the experience, I was afraid that maybe I was gay and just never knew it. That is not the case. I finally got up the courage to talk with my wife about what I was feeling and my fears, and she was great.

She now has no trouble putting on her strap on and thrilling me to no end. We have shared our fantasies and enjoy our new found sex lives. I have told her, had known then what I know about myself, I would I would have been happy to have another man’s penis in my mouth and buried deep inside me.

I am past the opportunity time in my life for this to ever happen, but it has provided many a steamy night for my wife and I. I hold no judgment against anyone on the journey in finding out what makes them happy and being able to share that experience with someone who feels the same. Life is too short to let this kind of thing slip away.
09/03/2015
Contributor: Tasha Tasha
I'm right there with you, girl. This is a very old post, so hopefully you've gotten some fulfillment since you posted. I've had fantasies about having sex with Bi men since I was a teenager. My friends thought I was weird because I liked watching men have sex and especially because I wanted to join in, lol. I'm still not sure why, but it's still one of my main fantasies to this day. I haven't gotten exactly what I wanted yet, but I've since experienced sex with a couple of guys who were bi...curious. They had only tried playing around with each other once before they were with me. So I wasn't able to have the full on, crazy, anal train fantasy that goes on in my head, LOL but it was fun nonetheless. I got to take turns giving oral to a guy with another guy, and that was so fun passing it back and forth between us. I got to just sit there and play with myself as they blew each other in a 69. It was so fun, but for the most part they wanted to pay attention to me during that session, which is still cool...I'll take it! And even though they'll both do anal with me, they still haven't gotten to the point where they'll try anal with each other, though. UGH! so close! I'm still working on em...I think I just need to buy them toys.
11/10/2016
Contributor: RogueElement1972 RogueElement1972
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Originally posted by LuvMyMan
Please help me. I think I am going crazy here. I am lusting for bisex but not for me, for my husband. Is this normal? I love him dearly. We have amazing sex. We have been playing more and more with toys, wall toys, suction toys, strap ons all ... more
Wow! Your husband is a lucky man. I wish I was so lucky. I've fantasizes about a girlfriend or wife like you. It sounds to me like if he's open minded enough to enjoy the things y'all do together that he'd probably enjoy living out your fantasies. Just ask him.
12/22/2016
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by LuvMyMan
Please help me. I think I am going crazy here. I am lusting for bisex but not for me, for my husband. Is this normal? I love him dearly. We have amazing sex. We have been playing more and more with toys, wall toys, suction toys, strap ons all ... more
My ex was bi, I loved it, the sex was amazing. We never included other couples, though I did want to. If your man is all for it then do it. Embrace it and enjoy it...
12/25/2016