Sometimes sexual experience can help give people a better Idea of what kind of gender preferences they have, but it's most definitely not necessary. I knew I was attracted to more than one gender before I'd even non-platonically held hands with anyone. Now I've had sex with people of quite a variety of genders, but those experiences didn't make my orientation suddenly realer or truer - I was queer already, sex wasn't necessary to "prove" it.
If someone has only ever been with the opposite sex, do you think they can call themselves Bi?
05/18/2012
Bi means that you are attracted to both sexes.I don't think it's about who you've had sex with.
05/18/2012
Bi or Bi-curious. But, isn't that really up for you to figure out?
I call myself Bi, but I'm in a LTR with a man and I've had a few long relationships with women and a trans girl.
I call myself Bi, but I'm in a LTR with a man and I've had a few long relationships with women and a trans girl.
05/19/2012
I think it still counts. With that reasoning, you could say a straight person who's never been with the opposite sex might not be straight, or a bi person who's only been with the same gender would be considered gay.
Slippery slope!
Slippery slope!
05/19/2012
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GONE!
Of course it counts. If it didn't, then people would have to start disputing the sexualities of virgins of all sexualities, no matter how adamant they are about theirs.
05/19/2012
No one may discount anyone else's sexual identity on the basis of observation.
The fact is, you don't know what anyone else's actual sexual orientation is, because you are not them, and you have not felt what they feel. So you MUST accept the orientation they tell you they are. Anything else is offensively arrogant and presumptive.
So if a person says they're bi, but they haven't explored sex/romance with both sexes yet, arguing with them about their identity isn't going to do anything except probably depress or anger them.
We bi folks get enough flack about our identities already, from straight people and gay people; it's shitty when even our own people want to take us down.
The fact is, you don't know what anyone else's actual sexual orientation is, because you are not them, and you have not felt what they feel. So you MUST accept the orientation they tell you they are. Anything else is offensively arrogant and presumptive.
So if a person says they're bi, but they haven't explored sex/romance with both sexes yet, arguing with them about their identity isn't going to do anything except probably depress or anger them.
We bi folks get enough flack about our identities already, from straight people and gay people; it's shitty when even our own people want to take us down.
05/19/2012
yes, definitely.
05/19/2012
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If you are sexually attracted to both sexes then you are bi, it doesn't matter if you have been with both
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kittenfacery
I myself consider myself Bi, and while i've never gotten further than kissing a girl, i've had sex with a guy and have gone out with guys. I still think i'm Bi as i look at pretty womens and make slurpy noises. but i'm just wondering
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I myself consider myself Bi, and while i've never gotten further than kissing a girl, i've had sex with a guy and have gone out with guys. I still think i'm Bi as i look at pretty womens and make slurpy noises. but i'm just wondering what you guys think.
please answer the poll, then post a lil' comment saying what you think less
please answer the poll, then post a lil' comment saying what you think less
05/19/2012
I am bi, but I've only been with men. But I know I'm bi as the attraction and desire is there. It's only a matter of time until I'm with a woman in my mind.
05/23/2012
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CollegeFun2014
There are many reasons why someone who is bi hasn't been with someone of their own sex. Say social stigmas or maybe they fell in love with someone before they had the chance to be with someone of the same sex. So yes, if you are bi but
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There are many reasons why someone who is bi hasn't been with someone of their own sex. Say social stigmas or maybe they fell in love with someone before they had the chance to be with someone of the same sex. So yes, if you are bi but haven't been with someone of the opposite sex, you are still bi.
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05/28/2012
Just cause you haven't done X doesn't mean you "don't count."
I identify as queer even though everyone I've dated identified as a girl when I dated them.
I identify as queer even though everyone I've dated identified as a girl when I dated them.
05/29/2012
If they are attracted to both sexes, then yes.
05/29/2012
Sexuality is about emotional, physical, and sexual attraction. It is only expressed with sex and relationships.
05/29/2012
Your identity is yours and only yours. You can date men and a woman for every full moon and call your orientation 'unicorn' for all I care. No one else can define it.
05/30/2012
Simply put, sexuality is as much an emotional/mental thing as it is physical.
Therefore, yes. I considered myself bisexual when I had only ever been with a girl and never a guy.
Therefore, yes. I considered myself bisexual when I had only ever been with a girl and never a guy.
05/30/2012
I dunno that being bi means you have to be willing to commit to that person for more than sex? I think it really means are you attracted to them/would you have sex with them? I don't know if anyone else feels this way but it just feels like when a young woman says she's bi or fools around with men and women she's not taken as seriously about being bi, more bi curious or just being young. Whereas if a man is predominantly in relationships with women but enjoys fooling around with guys he's unmistakably bi? I think if you are attracted to both no matter what level of intimacy you've established with either or you can still be considered bi. I've only ever been with men but I'm attracted to women as well. Given the chance i would do stuff with women.
06/06/2012
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I am the same way. I have never done more than kissed a girl and I've been in a relationship with a man for a long time, but I do find myself attracted to women I just haven't found one I've connected with.
Originally posted by
kittenfacery
I myself consider myself Bi, and while i've never gotten further than kissing a girl, i've had sex with a guy and have gone out with guys. I still think i'm Bi as i look at pretty womens and make slurpy noises. but i'm just wondering
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I myself consider myself Bi, and while i've never gotten further than kissing a girl, i've had sex with a guy and have gone out with guys. I still think i'm Bi as i look at pretty womens and make slurpy noises. but i'm just wondering what you guys think.
please answer the poll, then post a lil' comment saying what you think less
please answer the poll, then post a lil' comment saying what you think less
06/16/2012
You are what you are. If you consider yourself bi then you are. It would create problems for virgins if you need to have experience to determine you sexual orientation. XD
06/16/2012
I believe you are bi if you are sexually attracted to both genders whether you sleep with them both or not.
06/17/2012
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I don't really think anyone has a right to police the label you assign yourself. Obviously if you have an attraction to both sexes, calling yourself bisexual is perfectly fine, even if you haven't acted on that attraction as of yet.
Originally posted by
kittenfacery
I myself consider myself Bi, and while i've never gotten further than kissing a girl, i've had sex with a guy and have gone out with guys. I still think i'm Bi as i look at pretty womens and make slurpy noises. but i'm just wondering
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more
I myself consider myself Bi, and while i've never gotten further than kissing a girl, i've had sex with a guy and have gone out with guys. I still think i'm Bi as i look at pretty womens and make slurpy noises. but i'm just wondering what you guys think.
please answer the poll, then post a lil' comment saying what you think less
please answer the poll, then post a lil' comment saying what you think less
06/19/2012
I think it makes you bi.
06/19/2012
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Sexual action is different from sexual attraction/orientation . You can totally be bi without having done [insert action here].
Originally posted by
kittenfacery
I myself consider myself Bi, and while i've never gotten further than kissing a girl, i've had sex with a guy and have gone out with guys. I still think i'm Bi as i look at pretty womens and make slurpy noises. but i'm just wondering
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more
I myself consider myself Bi, and while i've never gotten further than kissing a girl, i've had sex with a guy and have gone out with guys. I still think i'm Bi as i look at pretty womens and make slurpy noises. but i'm just wondering what you guys think.
please answer the poll, then post a lil' comment saying what you think less
please answer the poll, then post a lil' comment saying what you think less
06/20/2012
You should be able to self-identify however you want, no matter who you've technically been with!
It's funny how no one says you can't call yourself straight until you have sex with the opposite gender. It's just taken as a given.
It's funny how no one says you can't call yourself straight until you have sex with the opposite gender. It's just taken as a given.
06/25/2012
Identity is personal. Identity policing is BS. And yeah, you don't have to "prove" straightness.
And anyway we live in a culture where sexual activity between women is called "experimenting" but woman-on-dude is just hooking up, and dude-on-dude is totally gay, obvs. Being a woman who's in touch with and honest about her sexuality is often an uphill battle, so trying to "prove" anything is a lost cause. Haters gonna hate, and all that, but I'd like to think that decent humans can outnumber them.
And anyway we live in a culture where sexual activity between women is called "experimenting" but woman-on-dude is just hooking up, and dude-on-dude is totally gay, obvs. Being a woman who's in touch with and honest about her sexuality is often an uphill battle, so trying to "prove" anything is a lost cause. Haters gonna hate, and all that, but I'd like to think that decent humans can outnumber them.
06/27/2012
I think whomever considers themselves bi, is bi. For you personally, although you don't have as much experience with one as the other, i think it's kind of the nature of.. 'it's the thought that counts'
06/27/2012
Orientation is determined by attraction, not behavior.
09/10/2012
If you are sexually attracted to both sexes then yes by all means you call yourself bi if you choose to.
09/10/2012
I think it counts as well, it what you're attracted to.
09/11/2012
You determine your own identity, not your history or what other people say. Saying that people who haven't slept with one gender or the other aren't really bi is just another example of bisexual erasure.
09/24/2012
Your sexuality is yours and yours alone to define. There are no "requirements"
09/25/2012