I have been all over the Internet throughout my years. LiveJournal, MeetMe, Facebook, Myspace, Xanga, etc. Something that I noticed rather prominently on MeetMe is that the gay men primarily seem to assume that all bisexual men are gay and that they must be kept "on the gay side," so to speak.
A bisexual male friend on my friend's list has quite a few gay male friends on his list. He mentioned something about work and someone taking over some of his work load. A friend of his commented on this status that they were sure they had a female co-worker step in to keep him on the "straight and narrow." This person definitely meant that why would his work pair him with another male when he is bisexual, because that would obviously be a travesty.
What gets me, though, is why is it a bad thing for a bisexual male to be paired with a female co-worker? And on the same hand, why would it matter either way if it was a male or female? You aren't at work to fuck your co-workers (okay... not in some situations..), so why make that kind of a comment?
Upon other searching across other sites, I notice that it seems that a lot of gay men seem to be really vigilant about "converting" confused males to being gay. Why? That just seems.. well... wrong.
Personal experience: When I was on the fence about if I liked girls or not, I had a lesbian friend who was very, very pushy in getting me to hit on, kiss, and fuck women. She seemed determined to "make" me a lesbian. And then when I finally did start dating a girl she ostracized me and made fun of me. She treated me horribly and like I was just a poser or something.
So, to conclude my long post, what do you think about people "converting" others. I mainly mean gays or lesbians taking advantage of confused people and telling them that they are not bisexual, they are not straight, that basically the only "answer" for them is being gay/lesbian.
A bisexual male friend on my friend's list has quite a few gay male friends on his list. He mentioned something about work and someone taking over some of his work load. A friend of his commented on this status that they were sure they had a female co-worker step in to keep him on the "straight and narrow." This person definitely meant that why would his work pair him with another male when he is bisexual, because that would obviously be a travesty.
What gets me, though, is why is it a bad thing for a bisexual male to be paired with a female co-worker? And on the same hand, why would it matter either way if it was a male or female? You aren't at work to fuck your co-workers (okay... not in some situations..), so why make that kind of a comment?
Upon other searching across other sites, I notice that it seems that a lot of gay men seem to be really vigilant about "converting" confused males to being gay. Why? That just seems.. well... wrong.
Personal experience: When I was on the fence about if I liked girls or not, I had a lesbian friend who was very, very pushy in getting me to hit on, kiss, and fuck women. She seemed determined to "make" me a lesbian. And then when I finally did start dating a girl she ostracized me and made fun of me. She treated me horribly and like I was just a poser or something.
So, to conclude my long post, what do you think about people "converting" others. I mainly mean gays or lesbians taking advantage of confused people and telling them that they are not bisexual, they are not straight, that basically the only "answer" for them is being gay/lesbian.