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Contributor: Howells Howells
Have you ever told anyone? Are you afraid? Or do you have no problem sharing it with a friend? Mabye everyone knows?!

I'm talking about you doing some expeditions in the back yard
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
It's a secret, nobody knows.
29  (16%)
I only share it with people online, behind incognito.
16  (9%)
I told it to a best friend.
7  (4%)
My love knows it.
68  (38%)
I'm not making a bigg fuss about it, some people know.
56  (32%)
I think it's best if everyone knows.
1  (1%)
Total votes: 177
Poll is closed
04/22/2011
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04/22/2011
Contributor: cujo467 cujo467
I dont try to keep it secret but I dont bring it up either.
04/22/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Most of my friends know and of course the wife. My dad knows as well, but prostate health is big deal in our family. Grandpa died from prostate cancer and dad has his removed.

If the subject comes up I will tell all I know. Do I tell everyone about my two inch stainless Eleven, no not really.
04/22/2011
Contributor: hornypoet69 hornypoet69
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Most of my friends know and of course the wife. My dad knows as well, but prostate health is big deal in our family. Grandpa died from prostate cancer and dad has his removed.



If the subject comes up I will tell all I know. Do I tell ... more
I'm a gay man, so its generally assumed that I like anal play. It is also generally assumed because I'm sexually active, that I'm having anal sex. Sorry everybody, my definition of sex is a bit broader than that. I don't make it a big secret that I own and use toys, though.
04/22/2011
Contributor: Willis2011 Willis2011
I am not open to everyone
04/22/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Howells
Have you ever told anyone? Are you afraid? Or do you have no problem sharing it with a friend? Mabye everyone knows?!

I'm talking about you doing some expeditions in the back yard
I am the female partner of one player who loves his prostate manipulated and another player who doesn't think he will ever want to try.
04/23/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Most of my friends know and of course the wife. My dad knows as well, but prostate health is big deal in our family. Grandpa died from prostate cancer and dad has his removed.



If the subject comes up I will tell all I know. Do I tell ... more
Probably just before you set the person on fire for a workshop...can't have these secrets getting out now can we?
OMG I am seeing a great Work Shop here....What to do when someone finds your stainless steel Eleven...
04/23/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by hornypoet69
I'm a gay man, so its generally assumed that I like anal play. It is also generally assumed because I'm sexually active, that I'm having anal sex. Sorry everybody, my definition of sex is a bit broader than that. I don't make it a big ... more
See? I wish we had more outspoken men here because I am so tired of guys thinking that being gay means only one thing....Anal Sex! For Crims sake there's more to loving than one sexual position. There's more to a relationship than sex.
It's like assuming that a lesbian would never allow herself to be penetrated. I have lesbian friends who eulogise fisting and a few who actually don't like penetration at all. I have some 'straight' female friends who don't like penetration either and get called 'lesbian' all the time...it's just insane.
04/23/2011
Contributor: Howells Howells
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
See? I wish we had more outspoken men here because I am so tired of guys thinking that being gay means only one thing....Anal Sex! For Crims sake there's more to loving than one sexual position. There's more to a relationship than ... more
It's like telling that gay men won't enjoy a fleshlight. Maybe if it looks like a pussy it's not really for them but the sensation is good. What matters that the other party is not a woman, it's not the feeling, it's the person. I have a gay friend who wouldn't mind having a pussy shaped fleshlight. But he's just not into girls, but the fleshlight would be ok for him.

Also the most stupid thing to assume that if some men like receiving anal via toys then they are automatically bi or gay. So not true They are after the feeling and toys give it to them. They don't want them coming from an other man however.
04/23/2011
Contributor: sexyk515 sexyk515
im open
04/23/2011
Contributor: hornypoet69 hornypoet69
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
See? I wish we had more outspoken men here because I am so tired of guys thinking that being gay means only one thing....Anal Sex! For Crims sake there's more to loving than one sexual position. There's more to a relationship than ... more
Exactly. Your orientation has nothing to do with the sex acts you enjoy. While I do enjoy anal play, I don't find the idea of anal sex to be arousing. Its not what I think about when I'm horny, and I don't really like watching it in porn. When I have told other gay men this, they sometimes say things like "are you sure you're gay?" Yes. I'm pretty damn sure, thank you.
04/23/2011
Contributor: cobiffle cobiffle
I have some peopel ill tell anything to and they know everything i have done.
04/24/2011
Contributor: Spilock Spilock
I'm very secretive about my expeditions, as only my wife knows. To be honest, I would rather not talk to any of my friends about my private life, as that just sounds weird to me. Similar to how I know my mother has sex, but really just don't want to even think about it.
04/29/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
have a few close people i share with
05/14/2011
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
If it's appropriate in a conversation I may mention this, but it isn't a topic I would usually openly discuss.
05/14/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
If it came up, I wouldn't have an issue.
05/20/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
See? I wish we had more outspoken men here because I am so tired of guys thinking that being gay means only one thing....Anal Sex! For Crims sake there's more to loving than one sexual position. There's more to a relationship than ... more
Exactly. Your sexual orientation is who you like to have sex with, not what you like to do.

I love anal sex, does that make me a "gay man?" LOL! Hardly. I know gay guys who engage in anal and some who simply do not (at least as far as what they are willing to share, and this is stuff they share willingly, I don't pry in any of my friends sex lives.)
05/20/2011
Contributor: csweatc csweatc
A few of the girls that I've dated know, but that's it. Some other people know because my gf has spilled the beans to some people, but they aren't really friends of mine, so I'm not really to bothered by that.
05/26/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Howells
Have you ever told anyone? Are you afraid? Or do you have no problem sharing it with a friend? Mabye everyone knows?!

I'm talking about you doing some expeditions in the back yard
That is between me and my wife.
06/01/2011
Contributor: That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
Quote:
Originally posted by Howells
It's like telling that gay men won't enjoy a fleshlight. Maybe if it looks like a pussy it's not really for them but the sensation is good. What matters that the other party is not a woman, it's not the feeling, it's the person. I ... more
I cannot describe how much I agree with you and Airen. I have been with a number of other males and some do not like to be penetrated at all.
06/04/2011
Contributor: Starrr Starrr
i don't find it embarrassing or anything, so if it comes up, people know I like it.
I don't go out and about talking about it though, I like to keep it to myself, unless I'm discussing it with a friend or something.
06/04/2011
Contributor: robertk2380 robertk2380
Only my spouse knows, but I'm not sure I'd shy away from the topic if it came up in conversation with someone I trust.
06/05/2011
Contributor: Mr. & Mrs. Peg Mr. & Mrs. Peg
Well, my wife knows. And we have a decent size audience online.
06/06/2011
Contributor: ToyBoy ToyBoy
One girl I dated knows, but that is it. I would have to really trust someone to tell them. I just grew up in a society that thinks anything anal is gay, so it is hard to tell people, even really understanding and open people.
06/19/2011
Contributor: salaciousrex salaciousrex
Quote:
Originally posted by Howells
It's like telling that gay men won't enjoy a fleshlight. Maybe if it looks like a pussy it's not really for them but the sensation is good. What matters that the other party is not a woman, it's not the feeling, it's the person. I ... more
I completely agree with all of this and with Airen.
I know way too many people that just assume stupid things about everybody like these things.


As for the question..
My guy knows, obviously. A couple past partners know. All my friends that I talk about sex with know. I think that's about it lol
06/23/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
My fiancee knows I like it, but I don't think anyone else knows.
06/23/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
Quote:
Originally posted by hornypoet69
Exactly. Your orientation has nothing to do with the sex acts you enjoy. While I do enjoy anal play, I don't find the idea of anal sex to be arousing. Its not what I think about when I'm horny, and I don't really like watching it in porn. ... more
Unfortunatly, very few people see it that way. 99% of the world sees men who like anal as being gay, hence one of the reasons I wil never let anyone find out.
06/24/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i like to tell people a lot of personal details so of course lots of them know lol
06/24/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
Quote:
Originally posted by Ms. Spice
i like to tell people a lot of personal details so of course lots of them know lol
I'm that way with everything but my receiving anal. I figure if they get such detailed info from me on my pocket pussies, cock rings and testicle vibs, they would assume I would have told them about my dildos.
06/27/2011