Dear Croc, you've come to the right place. We can give you all the answers, about all the stages of pegging

I'm the Community Manager around here, so I can share our common knowledge and experience instead of my own, which might be not as extensive as I'd like. What I mean by that is I didn't peg my fiance yet, but we are building up to it.

First of all, let me assure you, that your body is a beautiful and very complex thing, designed to adapt to various conditions. We have some prolific peggers and butt plug fans who are staying plugged 24/7 and there is no evidence that your muscles get weaker. They come back to their normal size and state after about 4 hours since the session, given you really go to town with heavy pounding and super thick toys.

Secondly, I've never heard about any "leakage" problems. I suppose it might happen if you use a monstrous amount of lube - although, with anal, there's never enough lube - and if your muscles stay like really clenched after the session, but I don't see how that can happen.

What matters most, is pegging is a fantastic experience for both partners, and though there might be some mild inconveniences, it's all worth it. You will not suffer any long-lasting effects if you do everything right. less

I've read the information on the internet about a possible risk of gas or fecal incontinence and lube leaks after any kind of anal intercourse, but in real life, I personally don't know a single person actively practicing anal or pegging who would suffer from those inconveniences. That's why I think it is nothing more than scary stories.

Unless you have any health issues (hemorrhoids, skin irritation or injury, etc.) before pegging, with needed precautions as sufficient lubrication and attentiveness to feelings of each other the likelihood that there will be negative long-term consequences is minimal.

Stay safe, careful and healthy and don't deny yourself the pleasure of pegging! less

Community manager?
I couldn't find rules, please LMK, if I'm breaking any

Is it true that with time you have to switch to bigger toys?

some forum say that you can't enjoy one strapon too long. 1 year, maybe 2, and then you need something bigger, longer or thicker? less

Dear Croc, no worries, you're not breaking any rules by asking questions
However, if you do want to make yourself familiar with our rules of conduct, here they are.

I'd say that the size of your toy will always depend on your personal preference. No rules are saying that you "have to" switch to longer or girthier toys, but you may "want to" do so if you seek to intensify your sensations.

I see you are comparing sex toys to lifting weights - I don't know much on that topic , but I'm sure those two concepts are not as close as you make them seem. Let's picture a woman who's happily married to a man for a few years. First, let's imagine their sex life toy-less. Would she crave for a bigger penis on her partner after some time? No one knows, because it only depends on the kind of stimulation she prefers. Now, let's picture the same couple with toys in their life. Would they feel the urge to try some things bigger and girthier together, on each other and in each other? Most probably, they will, but again, there is no proof whatsoever that they won't be willing to come back to their old ways from time to time, or even if they'd like those bigger and girthier endeavors at all.

I believe that you can and should try anything that makes you tingle inside, or if you're just guessing you might like it, but it never means you wouldn't have a way out.

About calculating the right size of a strapon for the passage - the only way to do that is through trial and error. We always say on this forum that the best way to try anything anal is starting with your fingers and moving onwards. From one finger to two fingers, from two fingers to a slim plug or a strand of anal beads, to a slender soft dildo, etc. Most certainly you will end up sticking with something you really like right away, or you'd have to try a thing or two out of your comfort range to figure out what's your cup of tea. If we're talking about sex, there are so many variables it's impossible to set strict rules - all we can do is give general directions less

Thx, read and understood, ill try to follow

> I see you are comparing sex toys to lifting weights
I am comparing muscle work, GingerAnn, I'm not an expert myself. But muscles tend to get loose after being stretched

> Would she crave for a bigger penis on her partner after some time?
Apparently.Everyone knows 'saggy boobs' phrase, why, how they appear and so on. Vaginal walls also tend to stretch: ageing, giving birth, after treatment of female diseases, not necessarily STD, but not excluding too

> but you may "want to" do so if you seek to intensify your sensations.
That's a general rule, and yes, sex tends to be all about it. "try - hurts, return back, more practice - try - pleasure-keep going'

But I'm interested in common experience you mentioned. Is there a kind of relation here?
Like people, after pegging for 5 years see that a 1,5' toy is no longer enough, so they switched to 2' and 5 years later to 3'?
Doesn't have to be about pegging, or hetero. Like maybe 2 gays tried, i heard strapons are not strictly used by women only.

If you don't mind me asking, how old is your fiance? who brought the subject up? or maybe you are just considering like me? less

I don't mind at all! My fiance is 32. We are not fully on board with pegging yet, but other kinds of anal stimulation are definitely on the table for us. He was the one interested in the whole thing as a concept, and I was the one who introduced the idea of pegging. We are sort of "dancing around" a proper session right now, just because he can't handle that much stimulation yet, and thrusting would be way over his head.

Generally, yes, people tend to switch to bigger things over time, however, there are some limits that usually remain untackled. I mean extreme sizes that require heavy warm-up every time you play with them. And yes, this applies to all imaginable kinds of penetration, with any mix of genitals or shafted toys involved.

Sure, you are right, muscles can stretch, and that's why we're advocating for kegels for everyone - it's fun, it tones the pelvic floor and allows to stay tight and fit for much longer, even after giving birth or taking in extreme sizes.

Also, the upgrade maybe not only in the size vector - some people upgrade functions or layer other kinds of play (like kinky stuff) over their usual experiences. less

Thanks for sharing
> Do you still have vaginal sex with her?
Forums say with time can’t cum unless there is something in your ass, and if you do, you feel no pleasure. Stuff comes out, but you feel nothing, like when you are too drunk
> How long have you been doing this? less

Yes we still have vaginal sex - although she enjoys anal sex as much as I like to be pegged.

I have a hard time cumming due to age related issues - not the need for a butt plug. When I do have an orgasm it feels normal - I have no idea how you can have an orgasm and 'feel nothing'.

We have enjoyed pegging for about 5 years - maybe more, never counted. less

Does it feel different, when you are thrusted, from using a toy on you by yourself?
In the other topic you wrote women are not good at pounding. I thought it can be the same. I stuck the toy to the wall with its suction cup and kinda... 'used it alone'! less

Yes having my partner using a dildo or vibe on me feels different than when doing it solo. For one thing there's the geometry - when she's doing it, I'm much more comfortable than the considerable reach-around needed for solo play.

Aside from that there + and -. On the + side there's the surprise factor of her doing things I wouldn't think of, even be able to do. On the - side, I can respond immediately to what my body is telling me. All things considered, I'd much rather her be in charge. We don't have suction cup dildos - I prefer her to use the harness.

As for women and thrusting - in the beginning, thrusting was a bit awkward for her - but she has progressed nicely and at times goes at it pretty hard. However since I prefer larger diameter toys - I actually prefer a slower longer pace with periodic re-entry events. She's also getting the hang of that technique - it's very gratifying to have an attentive partner. less

I have anal sex with my wife at least 5-6x a month. If I had my way, the pegging would be 2x a week.

It seems to me that you are suggesting that somehow the body is damaged by engaging in anal sex/pegging. If that is the case, why would you do it at all?

My experience is that with adequate preparation and lubrication anal penetration is not just enjoyable - it is quite safe. less

There is a second reason that we peg less than I would like...

I thoroughly enjoy giving my wife multiple orgasms, It's kind of a hobby for me to see how many I get her to have in a session. I think our record is almost 20 orgasms over a 3-day weekend.

After inducing her to 4-6 orgasms - many with gushing, she's simply too tired to strap it on and bang me. But being the generous type, she'll let me put the harness on her and climb on top for a ride.

If she's really hot that night she may have an orgasm or two as I do my thing. I can tell when she's getting close, so I'll adjust my rhythm to take her over the top! less

Dear Croc!

Gunsmoke and GingerAnn gave so comprehensive answers, that I just have to agree with them

Frankly, in the past, I was scared very much about the idea of anal sex. I supposed it was something unnatural and unsafe. And it took a long time for me to make a decision to try it and realize it is an incredible experience. I've never counted how many times we have anal, I guess it is up to 5 times per month depending on mood. And I haven't faced any harm for my body

I have no pegging experience yet, but since it is sort of anal intercourse, I think the rules for anal sex works as well for pegging. I'm talking about starting small and slow with proper warming-up and lubrication. No one can tell you how many inches you should take for the 1st time and for how much time, how many for the 2nd time, etc. Your body is unique, and only you can say what is right for you. You should try a few options to find out what works for you the best.

And I think sex is about fun and pleasure. So if you are too concerned and intimidated with negative consequences, maybe this kind of sex just is not for you, or maybe you should give time to make this decision ripe less

I am that girlfriend who has up to 5 times of anal with no pegging experience And it's not necessarily 5 times, it is an approximate number. Could be less or more. I'm sorry I wasn't clear enough.

I meant I'd never been a giver. But I'd like to try it when we both are ready for this experience. My partner is less enthusiastic about pegging as I am, and I'm not pushing on him, just waiting for the right moment to come less

I am that girlfriend who has up to 5 times of anal with no pegging experience And it's not necessarily 5 times, it is an approximate number. Could be less or more. I'm sorry I wasn't clear enough.

I meant I'd never been a giver. But I'd like to try it when we both are ready for this experience. My partner is less enthusiastic about pegging as I am, and I'm not pushing on him, just waiting for the right moment to come less

Dear Croc, you've come to the right place. We can give you all the answers, about all the stages of pegging

I'm the Community Manager around here, so I can share our common knowledge and experience instead of my own, which might be not as extensive as I'd like. What I mean by that is I didn't peg my fiance yet, but we are building up to it.

First of all, let me assure you, that your body is a beautiful and very complex thing, designed to adapt to various conditions. We have some prolific peggers and butt plug fans who are staying plugged 24/7 and there is no evidence that your muscles get weaker. They come back to their normal size and state after about 4 hours since the session, given you really go to town with heavy pounding and super thick toys.

Secondly, I've never heard about any "leakage" problems. I suppose it might happen if you use a monstrous amount of lube - although, with anal, there's never enough lube - and if your muscles stay like really clenched after the session, but I don't see how that can happen.

What matters most, is pegging is a fantastic experience for both partners, and though there might be some mild inconveniences, it's all worth it. You will not suffer any long-lasting effects if you do everything right. less