I like the clitoral stimulation before g-spot as well. And, great way of putting it Dwtim, it does engorge the g-spot!

Muffles, my hubby and I have been having sex together for 27 years and we just recently discovered my g-spot. It kind of freaked me out at first because I thought I was going to pee. Go slow and easy with your gf, it can be a frightening experience at first.

I read that after the G-spot is engorged that it needs firmer pressure usually, so you just use a light touch the whole time?

I haven't gone straight for the G-spot, she usually has a clitoral orgasm beforehand - she cums quick (although not much after that usually ). I also wait a bit before going for the G-spot - do you wait long or not so much? And you have clitoral stimulation simultaneously the whole time your G-spot is being stimulated?


Thank you all for your input so far

I definitely still have the "have-to-pee" feeling. But to me, by now, it indicates that I'm close. I usually need more diffuse pressure. One thing that helped me was a Hitachi or even firm palm pressure right above my pubic bone (slightly to my right, because I'm built differently I guess).

That sort of pressure makes it more diffuse, if that makes any sense? So it helps me build slowly to orgasm, rather than the intensity of direct, internal finger/dildo pressure.

Has she tried an item like Lelo Pleasure System Beads? Those or Gyneflex (the Lelo ones are sexier and ... ahem ... $25 on Amazon). Helped me feel more in control of whether I'd pee or come. I have both, and the Lelo work quickly, as in...a week or two. Without trying very hard!

I've peed once before and was mortified. Towels suck. Giving the Liberator blankie a shot. I dunno. I'll see if it works for me and report back.

Good luck, I think most women have to go through this song and dance before they become comfortable with female ejaculation. Society? Maybe. Either way, I hope things work out.

The mental pressure can be rough on me, so I used to have a glass of wine prior (plus, red wine seems to flush my body and make me frisky) as well as a niacin tablet. Relaxed me and got the blood flowing.

With fingers, most of the time yes, even with toys. She does not like hard/firm toys. So applying firm pressure with those is somewhat hard. Now during PIV sex, she likes to have more pressure. That is accomplished through position.

Usually, we start playing again within ten minutes and I have constant clitoral stimulation during.

But, hey man if she doesn't like it she doesn't like it. I doubt you would like her pressing an issue like this with you if it was something you didn't enjoy.

she might just be extra sensitive. it hurts me too :/

Thanks, I'll keep that in mind when we try next. I don't pressure her, although it can't hurt to talk about it a bit more. I know it might take time but I want her to have the option of having a G-spot orgasm - supposedly some women like anal sex better than vaginal(?), and that is another topic which we are not going to try anytime soon.