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Contributor: notjustinbieber notjustinbieber
Question for the experienced EF participants. My wife really enjoys when I stimulate her g spot. However, right before I feel like she's going to have a g spot orgams (her vaginal walls expand and she fills with lot's of warm liquid very quickly), she immediately stops me. Says it's "too intense" or "uncomfortable." I don't believe she's ever had a g spot orgasm before, although she had a huge orgasm and squirted on me after a lot of g spot stim with a glass toy followed by Magic Wand on her clit during intercourse.

Personally, I think she's just freaked out and overwhelmed by this new and foreign feeling. Heck, I remember my first orgasm and I almost stopped the girl mid-handjob, b/c it felt so strange. And if she would just hang in there and deal with this discomfort for a little bit longer, she'd have a huge O and not really have this problem going forward. Having said that, if I really am causing her discomfort and she's not close to having an orgasm, I don't want to push her to hang in there.

Sooooo..... what do you guys think based on your first-hand experience? Thanks!
01/06/2012
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01/06/2012
Contributor: notjustinbieber notjustinbieber
As a follow up, any suggestions on how to make the point where she feels the "too intense" or "uncomfortable" feeling to be more bearable? Certainly some clitoral stimulation would help, but think there's some benefit in her fully feeling an exclusive g spot orgasm and not having the clitoral stimulation mask it. This opinion is shared by Tom Leonardi in his book on how to experience a g spot orgasm. Thanks again.
01/06/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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Originally posted by notjustinbieber
Question for the experienced EF participants. My wife really enjoys when I stimulate her g spot. However, right before I feel like she's going to have a g spot orgams (her vaginal walls expand and she fills with lot's of warm liquid very ... more
This is often a problem with women, especially if they haven't had a pure g-spot orgasm before. Another complaint is the feeling of needing to urinate, which of course makes them want the stimulation to end.

I feel like you should sit down and talk to her about it, ask her what EXACTLY it feels like. I personally don't like POINTY stimulation on my g-spot because it really is too intense and a bit painful, but before I orgasm it is also uncomfortably intense. It's a bit hard to describe the difference! I would recommend asking her if you could maybe do it for a bit longer than usual each time and eventually work up to it. But ALWAYS stop if she says no!
01/06/2012
Contributor: notjustinbieber notjustinbieber
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Originally posted by Ryuson
This is often a problem with women, especially if they haven't had a pure g-spot orgasm before. Another complaint is the feeling of needing to urinate, which of course makes them want the stimulation to end.

I feel like you should sit down ... more
Thanks for the reply. I've really pushed her to better describe what's going on. However, the feeling doesn't come on until she's very worked up and at that point where she can't really tell exactly what's going on with her body. Either that or she just won't tell me

The idea of pushing further a little bit more each time is an interesting one. Might give that a shot. Thanks again.
01/07/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
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Originally posted by notjustinbieber
As a follow up, any suggestions on how to make the point where she feels the "too intense" or "uncomfortable" feeling to be more bearable? Certainly some clitoral stimulation would help, but think there's some benefit in her ... more
clitoral stimuli would probably help her
01/30/2012
Contributor: eeep eeep
I used to have that problem a lot, and still do occasionally with a partner. It does get to where it feels too intense sometimes, but I have found if I do both clitoral and g-spot stimulation at the same time I can ease the feeling of intensity by stopping clit stimulation when I get close and still have a g-spot orgasm.
Otherwise, I have had exes who would push me to the point of it being too intense then back off a lot, and bring me back to that point several times until it stopped being so 'uncomfortable'. This helped me get used to the sensation in the long run, and I think is partially why I do not have as many problems with it as I used to.
01/30/2012
Contributor: notjustinbieber notjustinbieber
Cool. Thanks for the input Badass and eeep. Question for eeep. Are you saying that the clitoral stimulation helps take away the feeling of it being too intense and then right before you feel like you are going to orgasm you stop the clitoral stimulation and just finish with g spot stimulation OR that stopping the clitoral stimulation near orgasm helps stop the feeling of it being too intense? I'm thinking you meant the former and not the latter, but just wanted to make sure. Thanks.
01/30/2012