Got a g spot toy but having problems with comfort?

Contributor: eternallymused eternallymused
I recently got the Lelo Ella in attempt to hopefully have my first g spot orgasm. I've found that kneeling on the floor and resting my head on my bed feels the best for me and I feel like I've been getting pretty good stimulation; I get the 'need to pee feeling,' I ignore the feeling and keep going and then I get really wet and watery fluid starts coming out but soon after that I get dry and it becomes painful using Ella and then taking it out is painful as well, all of that without any orgasm. Is there something I'm doing wrong? I've read that there's debate as to whether all women have a g spot or not so is it possible I don't have one?
12/20/2010
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12/20/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
From what you described, it sounds like you have squirted, so first of all congrats!! Yes, you do have a g-spot and sometimes when you squirt (or ejaculate) the fluid can be of a consistency that is closer to water and it gets rid of your regular lubrication. This can be why it is uncomfortable when you remove the toy. I have squirted a few times and had this problem.
It may also be that you need to try removing it more slowly due to the lack of lubrication left.
Hope this helps
12/21/2010
Contributor: eternallymused eternallymused
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Originally posted by Waterfall
From what you described, it sounds like you have squirted, so first of all congrats!! Yes, you do have a g-spot and sometimes when you squirt (or ejaculate) the fluid can be of a consistency that is closer to water and it gets rid of your regular ... more
Thanks for the advice! I tried again and made sure I didn't use "big" in and out movements in case that was causing pain and stimulated with very short movements instead and I definitely "peed" myself several times lol. This time I didn't have as much issues with dryness but it almost seems like I get so swollen that any movement at all hurts. I took it out VERY carefully and slowly (which still hurt a lot) and I noticed there was blood on it and now my vagina feels like I tore it up I thought maybe dryness was causing pain but now I'm thinking it's something else? And still no orgasm haha.
12/21/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
That sounds scary, I am not sure what you could be doing to actually cause bleeding. I have never had this issue with this toy, especially when using slow movements. It could be something else, maybe you should have that checked out. Does this happen with any other toys or just Ella?
12/22/2010
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Are you using lubricant while using this toy?

And please take a few days off internal toys so your vagina can heal!
12/22/2010
Contributor: eternallymused eternallymused
Yeah, I'm using lubricant and definitely not going to try anything for a while. I've used other toys before and I would only bleed if I were being really rough (which I definitely wasn't rough at all with this toy) but even that didn't hurt as badly, if it weren't for red color I wouldn't have known I bled to be honest. I think I'm going to look for a different g spot toy with a different head shape and doesn't have that sort of a 'hook' shape to it. But I don't know, Ella's pretty small if you consider how big it is at its widest point and I've taken bigger without any pain. I feel like I need something firm to stimulate my g spot (like Ella) because I tried the Evolved Romantic G and that is way too flexible for what I need. Now I just have now idea what to look for in a toy.
12/22/2010