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How much are you comfortable sharing about your sex life with your close friends?

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Contributor: snowyslut snowyslut
I mean, I have a few close friends and we frequently talk about sex... oral, anal, PIV, masturbation, etc. But nothing that I would really consider all that "edgy". I was mortified when one of my friends found a craigslist posting of mine... we laughed it off but it was awkward.

(For context, we're all pretty liberal LGBTQ students in a rural area.)

My partners (my primary romantic partner and my occassional casual sexual partners) enjoy a robust, pretty kinky sex life. But even though my friends and I talk about sex all the time, and I consider myself pretty sex positive, I just don't think I could tell my friends "Hey, my partner and I just realized that we both really enjoy rimming!" or "Yeah, we both love bondage and domination."

Is that just a product of me growing up in a VERY conservative and prudish environment, or do you not feel comfortable sharing certain sex stuff with your friends either?
09/12/2012
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Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
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Originally posted by snowyslut
I mean, I have a few close friends and we frequently talk about sex... oral, anal, PIV, masturbation, etc. But nothing that I would really consider all that "edgy". I was mortified when one of my friends found a craigslist posting of ... more
I don't know I pretty much share it all with a few friends of mine we talk about anything an everything from what we have done or what we want to try. Then we compare experiences and share techniques.
09/12/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
I'm very comfortable, I tell all if asked
09/12/2012
Contributor: G&L G&L
I really don't see it being any of their business what I do in the bedroom.
09/12/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
I'm fairly comfortable. All of my friends know that I'm kinky.
09/12/2012
Contributor: misty82 misty82
I don't have a problem with telling if they really want to know
09/12/2012
Contributor: Sera26 Sera26
I'm somewhere in the middle. It also depends on the partner. If I did something crazy with a stranger I was much more likely to share that with close friends. Now that I'm engaged I definitely feel that our sex life is more private.
09/12/2012
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
We're both very comfortable with it-- if they ask, we'll tell. BUT it wasn't always that way. I think I was in my early 30s before I could even listen to a friend talking about their sexcapades without blushing, let alone tell them about mine!

~M
09/13/2012
Contributor: StasyRavish StasyRavish
I'm fairly notorious for not having a brain-to-mouth sex filter. Around non-authorities anyways. I don't go around talking about who I've slept with, but still find myself being rather explicit without dropping names. I don't believe I should be uncomfortable with being a sexual being.
09/13/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
I talk a bit, but mostly if people ask me for advice. Otherwise, we have to much else to talk about to get to sex stuff
09/14/2012
Contributor: subwayrailings subwayrailings
Quote:
Originally posted by snowyslut
I mean, I have a few close friends and we frequently talk about sex... oral, anal, PIV, masturbation, etc. But nothing that I would really consider all that "edgy". I was mortified when one of my friends found a craigslist posting of ... more
very little. i think if i was less inhibited sexually i'd be more comfortable sharing more. or if i had a better sex life.

eeep sorry didnt mean to post this as a reply to another comment, just a reply to the thread.
09/29/2012
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
I don't kiss & tell, but I do talk about sex.
03/05/2013
Contributor: hillys hillys
I tell my friends TMI almost all the time...
03/05/2013
Contributor: Msmueller Msmueller
There are certain things I dont discuss with anyone other than my husband for fear that they would be like WTF!? lol
03/24/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
I can share anything w/ my close friends.
03/24/2013
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I'm very comfortable with the friends that are also into kink and it's great because we can talk about everything. When it comes to friends not in the kink scene I usually censor myself somewhat.
03/24/2013
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I'm pretty open with my friends, but how open depends on exactly who I'm talking to. For example, I don't share fine details with my sex-positive work friends, but my best friend and I will share every last little thing if we feel like it.
03/26/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
Not comfortable talking about it with most of them. Most of my friends are prudish and I doubt they've had sex or used toys. I wouldn't want to make them uncomfortable by talking about it.
05/02/2013
Contributor: friendswithfangs friendswithfangs
I guess it is pretty common to talk about all o' that, but I'm just not comfortable with it, it seems unnecessarily awkward to talk about. A lot of my friends have had pretty open discussions about it while I was there, though, so I think I may be the odd one out here.
05/03/2013
Contributor: lillmiss5054 lillmiss5054
I have very open conversations with my best friend, we both tell all to each other, it helps we realize that we are not abnormal as we both enjoy sex very much. It did take some time to build the trust. But hey she is also my attorney so being open and honest is also essential. Lol
05/06/2013
Contributor: .kaycat .kaycat
I'm comfortable. But when my BFF talks about her sex life... I'm kinda grossed out
05/06/2013
Contributor: sunflower sunflower
It really depends on the person I'm talking to. I'll usually be pretty open though.
And then I have the friends where we talk about gay porn. Those are the best people. Some of my friends are more guarded with their sex lives as well so I would talk to them but they're the ones not comfortable with it.
05/06/2013
Contributor: Pastafariette Pastafariette
Nobody asks me about my sex life, but I would honestly answer my friends if they ask me. I have the tendency of telling them certain things even before they ask, so that's probably why they don't ask.
05/16/2013
Contributor: JADE76 JADE76
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Originally posted by snowyslut
I mean, I have a few close friends and we frequently talk about sex... oral, anal, PIV, masturbation, etc. But nothing that I would really consider all that "edgy". I was mortified when one of my friends found a craigslist posting of ... more
i tell my best freinds EVERYTHING
05/23/2013
Contributor: lslsls92 lslsls92
I have a few I tell everything and a few who know absolutely nothing.
05/27/2013
Contributor: GingerSpice GingerSpice
Be not afraid....i love sharing and people love hearing, well some people...i don't keep it up if one is uncomfortable, but will tell all if one's asking for advice...
05/27/2013
Contributor: Nezzie13 Nezzie13
At this point my partner prefers that I not discuss details, so I don't. I'll share if asked, but only from an instructional viewpoint. For example, a buddy asked me how I prepare for anal. TMI to some, but perfectly fine by me
05/27/2013
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I have one friend that I share everything with and she shares everything with me. Sometimes I wish she didn't share as much, though. I really don't like hearing about how she cheats all the time.
05/30/2013
Contributor: LuvMyMan LuvMyMan
I'll tell anyone anything but only if they ask. I would never blurt it out in a conversation. I'd love for us to have more friends to talk sex with, I love it with my husband.
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