... that having had more previous partners is beneficial for the survival of a long term relationship better since you know what you like better? Do you compare this with the idea of the negatives which come from it, like you now having more you compare them with, and so it's harder to stay happy with just one when not used to it?
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10/02/2012
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My life has been enriched by all of my experiences: past, present, and those yet to come. I think if I didn't have those experiences there would be a lot of unanswered questions and I would be more likely to seek answers with or without who I was with at the time.
10/02/2012
I have no idea if my life experience is 'better' - it's just mine and I live with it. I had a ton of experience before getting married at 35. I learned a lot about partners, relationships, what I like and what I don't. As Stormy said - I think my life is enhanced. However, since meeting the woman who became my wife, I have never had sex with anyone else - and I don't miss it.
10/02/2012
i think maybe my past relationships have helped me learn what i like and have picked up some tricks along the way for pleasing my man but i'm sure i would have figured all that out even if i'd only ever been with him so no i dont think it makes a REAL difference.... I'm completely happy with just him, dont even really think about being with anyone else ever .... i dont really regret my past (tho some of them were certainly poor choices LOL) i've come thru it all unscathed and ended up with love of my life
10/02/2012
I think every relationship you have is a good learning experience, no matter the outcome.
On a personal note, each relationship taught me new things emotionally, as well as physically, like certain sports and hobbies
On a personal note, each relationship taught me new things emotionally, as well as physically, like certain sports and hobbies
10/02/2012
I've only had one partner before my current one but it did teach me a lot of things.
10/02/2012
Interesting
10/02/2012
My only partner has been the man I'm married to. We have explored tons of things together, and there is still more out there. I don't think I've really missed anything.
10/02/2012
I think having more partners is harmful in the long run.
10/03/2012
I've only had one partner and I plan on marrying him, I do wonder about the things I'm missing but I'm the type of person that craves experience and there are some things I just can't experience with him, but that's okay I'm willing to sacrifice that for him
10/04/2012
Interesting question! I believe all experiences are learning experiences. The more experiences you have the more you know what pleases you and/or another partner. I know when I was younger, it made me want to go out and find these different experiences and I do not regret it at all. If I had not, I could not have been satisfied that I was being satisfied. I now know exactly what I want and need because of this.
10/04/2012
I think both my husband and I are better off having had other partners.
I was a virgin when I started dating My Man (easily corrected) and he was older and had experience with women. But we started an Open Relationship about a year into our relationship. He wanted to sow some wild oats, and we both thought I did not have enough experience with men and needed to get out there and see what other men were like. I didn't want to wake up one day in my 30s (or older) and say, "What the hell did I miss?"
I can say that after "sampling the goods" we have both come to the conclusion that we are the best partners for each other. We are both highly sexual, and we found out that we WERE the best for each other. After dating some guys who had a mortal fear of cunnilingus, and other hang ups, and my husband having similar experiences with sexually repressed women, we were GLAD we went out there and found out for sure that we were the best for each other.
There is no "wondering" in our relationship. We know what other people are like and it helps us appreciate each other more.
Like I said before, I wouldn't buy a car without a test drive or a house with a a walk through. Also, I wouldn't buy the first car or house I saw, without seeing others to make sure I know what's right for me.
I was a virgin when I started dating My Man (easily corrected) and he was older and had experience with women. But we started an Open Relationship about a year into our relationship. He wanted to sow some wild oats, and we both thought I did not have enough experience with men and needed to get out there and see what other men were like. I didn't want to wake up one day in my 30s (or older) and say, "What the hell did I miss?"
I can say that after "sampling the goods" we have both come to the conclusion that we are the best partners for each other. We are both highly sexual, and we found out that we WERE the best for each other. After dating some guys who had a mortal fear of cunnilingus, and other hang ups, and my husband having similar experiences with sexually repressed women, we were GLAD we went out there and found out for sure that we were the best for each other.
There is no "wondering" in our relationship. We know what other people are like and it helps us appreciate each other more.
Like I said before, I wouldn't buy a car without a test drive or a house with a a walk through. Also, I wouldn't buy the first car or house I saw, without seeing others to make sure I know what's right for me.
10/04/2012
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I had quite a few partners before meeting the wife, on the other hand she only had one...he was the 30 second variety and it only happened once.
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Kenneth Fort
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I never was able to compare her to others, we both started our sexual relationship from nothing and grew from there. I can say that finding out about each other and all the exploring was just as much fun as the sex itself.
Can't say I miss having different partners, knowing exactly what I need to do to please the wife has it's own rewards.
After 24 years I would not have it any other way.
10/04/2012
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