It's about as offensive as what they say "women want".

I hate the whole "what men/women want" mentality. Everyone's an individual, with different tastes and preferences. I really wish people would come around and start thinking, "What does THIS man/woman want?" instead.

I dated a guy who would always ask, "Do girls like ___?" I always told him that every girl is different before giving my own answer, but he never caught on. Drove me up the wall!

Any book that tries to generalize a whole demographic cannot be trusted.

Where are the men? Why aren't they contributing their opinions?

I think it's true that it definitely simplifies "what men want" and generalizes too much, as not all men want the same things.

However, in terms of sex, those ARE the most frequent things that at least my guy friends say they want. Though great head is usually more of a sarcastic/joking kind of thing. They may like it, but it's also not like they're saying "god the blowjobs im getting are just so boring!" it's more of a "more is always welcome *wink*" sort of thing.

The enthusiasm is probably the biggest one, and I find it the most agreeable as well. It's not just that he needs his ego stroked or whatever. I mean really, would you enjoy having sex with someone who didn't act like they cared or enjoyed what was going on? It may seem silly as this is EF, so there probably aren't too many people around these parts who can really relate to the level of disinterest MANY women show for sex. It just doesn't feel good and isn't that fun. It might seem silly to us, but trust me, there are many many many women out there who need to be beaten over the head with something telling them to enjoy themselves more.

Or maybe they're all just unknowingly asexual. No idea. Either way, it's no fun to be with someone like that if you, you know, want to enjoy sex with your partner. Overall, I don't find it that offensive.

This is a good start! Thanks.

i don't think a book can tell us everything a man or women want. while some of those things may be true each person is different and wants different things. so i mean you can look at those books but its better to find out what your partner wants in the relationship rather than reading a book which is making a general statement

I'm not a fan of any overgeneralizations like this. People are all very, very different and it's just so hard to pin down shared desires like this.