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Do you believe "Misinformation" rules sex education?

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Contributor: Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
I can remember middle school pretty well. I alos remember a thing called "Project Know" which was a sex ed class ran by a married couple. Now, in this class they taught us all kinds of things, and a few stuck with me. Now that I'm older, I have realized just how damaging there misinformation could have been in a pre-teen's sexual growth. I ask myself..."How in the hell did these people get away with this?!"
Now here are some examples of what they said, keep in mind the class was split, girls and boys.
Q-"Is it okay to touch yourself in the bath tub."
A-"No. Because if you do you will not be able to climax as an adult."

Q-"What do I do if i get a bonner during class?"
A-"Excuse your self and go to the bathroom and run cold water over it until it goes away"
Now, thats a good idea, only if the door was able to be locked behind you. Otherwise your class mates would walk in and see you with your junk hovering over the sink.
This list goes on and on. I remember talking to a girlfriend of mine years later about this project and she told me that her teaher told her if a boy keeps demanding sex from you, just give him a blowjob and he'll be satisfied and stop asking, that way you keep your virginty. No shit!
Needless to say these people were cracked.
I was just wondering if other's believed that misinformation ruled sex ed, not only in schools but in general?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I do. I belive the system needs to be changed and revamped
71  (93%)
No, I think it's just fine.
1  (1%)
Other. Explain.
4  (5%)
Total votes: 76
Poll is closed
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Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I kinda feel like sex ed should be pretty basic in school. "This is a penis. This is a vagina. You get pregnant from sex. STDs are easy to get and bad."

Above and beyond that needs to be on the PARENTS. Why we trust the school system to give proper sex education is beyond me. My son will learn about sex from me, not a teacher that knows about math and science. I know my sex.

And seriously? Give him a blow job to get him off your back? As if he won't ask for more after that? Yeeeaahhhh....
10/20/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
I blame the moral majority
10/21/2012
Contributor: Pink Lily Pink Lily
I had a friend who said that Plan B was only 30% effective because that's what she was taught. It's actually around 90% for the first 24 hours. I have no patience for people who spread lies to young children about their health options.
11/13/2012
Contributor: rosythorn rosythorn
I think better self esteem training with better Sex Ed is severely needed.
11/14/2012
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
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Originally posted by - Kira -
I kinda feel like sex ed should be pretty basic in school. "This is a penis. This is a vagina. You get pregnant from sex. STDs are easy to get and bad."

Above and beyond that needs to be on the PARENTS. Why we trust the school ... more
Totally agree!!
11/14/2012
Contributor: Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
I remember sex ed! It was all about abstinence.
11/14/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yes, I'd say that although some programs are excellent, there is too much misinformation out there
11/14/2012
Contributor: anonkitty anonkitty
Oh wow. Those were bad. Ours was pretty standard-ish. "Abstinence is the best way to go, but if you really want to do it, here's how you put on a condom. Also, just to gross you guys out, here are diagrams of all the working bits. Memorize the names. There will be a quiz on Monday."
11/15/2012
Contributor: kdlt kdlt
I'm not surprised to see that everyone thinks most programs need to be reworked. In middle school, we only ever learned about STDs and abstinence. Nothing about masturbation was mentioned.
11/26/2012
Contributor: burtnuh burtnuh
I went to a Christian school during the years I should have been taught sex ed.. And basically it was like the sex ed class scene on mean girls. "Don't have sex you'll get pregnant and die" The school was totally fucked anyways. They always told me how I was going to hell because my parents did drugs and how I didn't dress like a girl so I was going to jail. The school closed and a few years later I saw two of my former female teachers at a gay club. I just found it overly amusing.
11/28/2012
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
i think it needs to be changed. Never really helped me at all
11/28/2012
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
It's obviously not fine. Sex ed around here is basically "Sex will get you pregnant or kill you and condoms don't work."

They actually gave out comic books/Bibles at my husband's school that said condoms don't protect against HIV/AIDS and most people that use them get pregnant.......WTF.... ...so when kids get all frustrated and decide to have sex anyway, they won't see the point in using condoms
11/28/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I'm wondering how many tried putting the condom on two fingers to prevent pregnancy like the teacher did at my school?

Anyway, for the most part in my sex ed (Florida, 1990), it was "omission" more than "misinformation". There were HUGE chunks of information missing - quite literally, because about half of our sex ed book pages were cut out. It took until almost 1995 for me to figure out how STD's and accidental pregnancies can happen because they made sex sound so dry, clinical, and boring.
11/28/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I think it depends on the school. Some are definitely better than others. I think no matter what one's opinion on birth control, teen sex, and even abortion are, the FACTS should be presented. It is irritating how they lie about basic facts such as the efficacy of birth control methods with the hope that teens won't have sex. How does THAT make sense? The parents who make a big deal out of it are a big part of the problem. Do they honestly think that if birth control is lied about or completely glossed over, it will deter kids from having sex? I am sickened by the idea of any 15 year old having sex, but it's none of MY business and I'd much rather have them knowledgeable about how to prevent pregnancy and STD's than to pretend I or anyone else has any say in their decision to have sex.

Now, the details of sex acts, and so forth...completely uncalled for. I don't think schools need to go into that with kids of any age.
11/29/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
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Originally posted by - Kira -
I kinda feel like sex ed should be pretty basic in school. "This is a penis. This is a vagina. You get pregnant from sex. STDs are easy to get and bad."

Above and beyond that needs to be on the PARENTS. Why we trust the school ... more
I totally agree with this. Sex education should be about the "this is how it works" portion of sex, not the "this is what you should do" part. Parents can sometimes give their kids misinformation, but hey, as a parent, it's your right to teach your kids what you see fit. I don't like the idea of home schooled kids getting creationism as science, but parents can raise their kids however they feel is right, whether I like it or not.

I never got such AWFUL information in my sex ed days as the kind that Rod is describing, but maybe I was lucky. I got the more basic side of sex ed. We NEVER discussed masturbation. That was apparently taboo. We never encouraged blow jobs to get a guy to stop pressuring us into sex (whoever taught that needs to never teach a child another thing, ever again), and we never were told to go to the public bathrooms and run water over our genitals (what the hell?!)

We did have a program called STARS, which stood for Students Today Aren't Ready for Sex. This was 8th grade or so. I didn't like it. Even at that age, I didn't like that we were being told what to do with our bodies, and I felt like we were being pressured to preserve our virginity until marriage. I don't think that the public school system has any place doing something like that. Not at all.
11/29/2012
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by Rod Ronald
I can remember middle school pretty well. I alos remember a thing called "Project Know" which was a sex ed class ran by a married couple. Now, in this class they taught us all kinds of things, and a few stuck with me. Now that I'm ... more
My mom was open with us so i just talked to her.
12/05/2012
Contributor: No-nita No-nita
I am absolutely thrilled that no one replied to this poll saying the current sex education system is fine. Perhaps some areas are more liberal and accurate with it, but I know where I grew up, it was absolutely atrocious... there was no actual "education" involved. I don't expect kids to be taught positions and what companies make the best buttplugs or whatever, but safety is an absolute must. I had classmates who, at 20, still thought that having sex standing up would keep them from getting pregnant. Teenagers are teenagers and safety is paramount. Attitudes about sex formed during those years can be the foundation for their sex lives as adults so I think it's very important to pay proper attention to sex ed and make sure it's accurate and comprehensive.
12/06/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
The sex education programs at my school were fairly accurate, if somewhat lacking. For instance, the clitoris and female masturbation got no mention whatsoever, which I think is a pretty gross oversight. On the other hand, we were taught that, while there's no 100% guaranteed way to avoid pregnancy and STD's aside from abstinence (which is true, obviously), we weren't taught that condoms were completely useless like some programs do.

My own experiences aside, I think that, overall, sex education programs are in a pretty sad state. We need to completely eliminate abstinence-only teachings, to start. They don't work (I've heard several times that areas with this kind of sex education have the highest rates of teen pregnancy), and seem to have the highest amount of misinformation. I also don't think that it should be completely left to the parents. Some folks make excellent teachers for their children, but many parents themselves are grossly misinformed (going back to the clitoris, there are grown women who don't know it exists, and that is extremely sad).

What I would love to see is a sex-positive sex-ed program, possibly put together by well-informed, non-judgmental sexologist or sexual therapists. Sex toys should be more widely available in drugstores or other places young people would have easy access to, so that they can see that there are options available if they're not ready for the real thing yet, and condoms should be available in every school nurse's office. Better that teens - and everyone, really - be as well-informed and prepared as possible, as opposed to being denied information and tools that could make all the difference.
12/07/2012
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
If I'd known then what I know now, I'd have gotten in a lot of trouble during class for speaking out against all the misinformation.
12/07/2012
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Overall, I do feel the current system is lacking and needs reworking.

I will say that my school came dangerously close to getting it right, though. Our biggest problems with sex ed were outdated films (yes, films not videos) about getting your period and changes you should make to your hygiene routine through puberty. In the early 90s they were still telling us about pads with belts!

As far as the high school sex ed was concerned, we didn't by any means get the whole picture but anatomical diagrams were labeled accurately (including the clitoris) and stats on the failure of different birth control methods were correct. It pretty much boiled down to the only way to be completely safe is to abstain, but if not wear a condom.
12/07/2012
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I was fortunate to receive excellent, accurate information in middle and high school, but many kids are not so lucky. Abstinence based programs are probably the worst offenders when it comes to disseminating misinformation. As some have mentioned, these programs often exaggerate condom and birth control failure rates in order to scare kids into not having sex. Of course, what happens is that these young people have sex anyway, but they skip using protection, because they don't think it will make a difference or they have no idea how to acquire and use it properly.
12/07/2012
Contributor: null null
The extent of my high school health class's sex curriculum was 'You kids know about sex, right?' ... 'Okay, we'll have a test over that this Friday, the test won't count against you.'
We were given NO information at all, and quickly went back to learning about meth.
12/09/2012
Contributor: Geography Geography
I think it depends on the school. But being comfortable with sex is reaaaaally a parent's responsibility I believe. My parents gave me several books about healthy sex and said, "If you have questions you are too embarrassed to ask us, reference the book." And even that was SO helpful. I could talk to them about most things, but anything I thought was too "embarrassing" to talk about I could read about in the book. Schools can only do so much. There are so many differing opinions on this topic that I am not sure how you could come up with a comprehensive curriculum that made everyone happy!
12/14/2012
Contributor: xcapricax xcapricax
Lol I remember this class. It desperately needs to change.
12/20/2012
Contributor: ghalik ghalik
I had abstinence only sex-ed. I had to learn everything on my own. So I can't really speak to accuracy of sex-ed, but I can say it desperately needs to be improved.
12/20/2012
Contributor: quinceykay quinceykay
My "sex education" consisted of a video about "renewed virginity", a discussion about how people are different than animals because we have self control so we need to keep it in our pants, and a bunch of ways to say no. I don't think they even explicitly mentioned "sex" or "penis" or "vagina". And we had like, five pregnant girls at the time in our small school.

Then my brother, who is currently in high school, said that in his class, they talked about how condoms have like a 70% failure rate, so yeah - complete lies. It desperately needs to be changed.
12/23/2012
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
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Originally posted by Geography
I think it depends on the school. But being comfortable with sex is reaaaaally a parent's responsibility I believe. My parents gave me several books about healthy sex and said, "If you have questions you are too embarrassed to ask us, ... more
I don't think that schools necessarily need a comprehensive curriculum, but they I think there is some responsibility to touch on safer sex in health education classes. At the very least, they need to stop giving out blatantly incorrect information.
12/23/2012
Contributor: souviet souviet
Quote:
Originally posted by Rod Ronald
I can remember middle school pretty well. I alos remember a thing called "Project Know" which was a sex ed class ran by a married couple. Now, in this class they taught us all kinds of things, and a few stuck with me. Now that I'm ... more
yeah, changes need to be made. a girl at my girlfriend's work was convinced that I, another girl, was going to get her pregnant???
01/14/2013
Contributor: Eugler Eugler
What time did you attend school? Sounds really strange what the couple is telling.

BTW: I heared Sweden has a very good sex ed now.

A short time ago I saw in Germany's kid's television what you should do when you have a boner at school: Put your hands in your trouser pockets, make a fist and move it upwards so nobody can see it.
01/14/2013