When I have sex it feels good but a lot of times it doesn't. Like there's nothing in there being pleasured. I have been having sex for about 6 years and have never had an orgasm during sex. Is there anything to do to make me more stimulated? Do you ever feel like this? I feel like I'm at the age where I should be at my prime but sometimes sex doesn't do ANYTHING for me. I feel depressed about it.
Why doesn't sex feel good sometimes?
01/18/2012
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Don't feel depressed about it. Traditional sex often doesn't "do it" for me, and I have never had a vaginal orgasm. It took me a long time to figure it out, but the discomfort is usually caused by not being turned on enough and insufficient lubrication. When the body is not turned on enough, often it does not produce as much lubrication and also the vaginal canal is much shorter (it stretched when aroused), often causing things to bump strait into the cervix. As far as not being able to orgasm, I need clitoral stimulation and my clitoris is too far away from my vaginal opening to receive much stimulation during traditional sex.
01/19/2012
What does it for me (I have the same problem) is lots of lube and a clitoral bullet vibe like Bnaughty Deluxe. Now I orgasm 90% of the time with intercourse!
01/19/2012
For me, sex is either great or it hurts. I would second the suggestion to use lube and some vibration, i.e a cock ring. I was never one for vibration, believe it or not, but once I got used to it-WOWZA! Anyway, hope that helps.
01/19/2012
I'm really really hesitant to share this - its kinda embarrassing but if it helps you - then it will be worth it.
My husband can use his finger and literally hit my G-spot everytime - almost immediately. He says that he can actually feel a difference in me right at that spot and he can feel it with both his finger and his penis, especially now that we have changed our position.
You may want to get your So to use their finger and try to find your G-spot for you and stimulate it to make sure they know where it is.
Another thing that we've done and want to do more of - is to use our harness with a different (aka "bigger") dildo and have my husband's penis in the top hole and using it to stimulate my clitoris while the dildo is inside me stimulating my G-spot at the same time. My husband actually enjoys using his penis to stimulate my clit and lips and it is a turn-on for him...so that is part of why this works for us.
But I'd encourage you to check out different positions, etc. and see if that makes a difference.
This book also helped us get ideas.
My husband can use his finger and literally hit my G-spot everytime - almost immediately. He says that he can actually feel a difference in me right at that spot and he can feel it with both his finger and his penis, especially now that we have changed our position.
You may want to get your So to use their finger and try to find your G-spot for you and stimulate it to make sure they know where it is.
Another thing that we've done and want to do more of - is to use our harness with a different (aka "bigger") dildo and have my husband's penis in the top hole and using it to stimulate my clitoris while the dildo is inside me stimulating my G-spot at the same time. My husband actually enjoys using his penis to stimulate my clit and lips and it is a turn-on for him...so that is part of why this works for us.
But I'd encourage you to check out different positions, etc. and see if that makes a difference.
This book also helped us get ideas.
01/19/2012
I dont know how old you are, but I think it is highly unlikely you are at your sexual prime. I think it is nature's little joke, but women don't reach their sexual peak until much latter in life. So when your kids are grown and your body is going to pot that's about when it happens. When I look back at my 20's I thought I was smart and well educated about my own body, but from where I am now, I didn't have a clue of what it could be. I know our culture tells us it is when we are young and beautiful, but this is wrong!
01/19/2012
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Don't feel depressed about it. Traditional sex often doesn't "do it" for me, and I have never had a vaginal orgasm. It took me a long time to figure it out, but the discomfort is usually caused by not being turned on enough and
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Don't feel depressed about it. Traditional sex often doesn't "do it" for me, and I have never had a vaginal orgasm. It took me a long time to figure it out, but the discomfort is usually caused by not being turned on enough and insufficient lubrication. When the body is not turned on enough, often it does not produce as much lubrication and also the vaginal canal is much shorter (it stretched when aroused), often causing things to bump strait into the cervix. As far as not being able to orgasm, I need clitoral stimulation and my clitoris is too far away from my vaginal opening to receive much stimulation during traditional sex.
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