Where did you lose your virginity? Would you have picked somewhere different if you could?

Contributor: Dusk Dusk
I'm wondering (for you women out there), where did you lose your virginity? Would you have picked somewhere different if you could? I'm still a virgin (in my book anyway) but I haven't decided where I want the first night. My dorm, a fancy-shmancy hotel room...I have no idea!

Just looking for some shared stories and opinions
09/06/2010
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Contributor: deadpoet deadpoet
My ex best friend's boyfriend's room with him. I am not proud of what I did and why. If I could I would change everything from the year that this happened.

The only thing I can say, is don't be in a hurry to lose it. It is not that great, I guess. As long as it is with someone you love, then it is different.
09/06/2010
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
In my partners room at his house. Honestly, I don't think it's important where you are. As long as it's comfortable and private that's all that matters. I wouldn't bother getting a fancy hotel room, but that's just my opinion.
09/06/2010
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
My ex's bedroom in bumfuck Arkansas. I remember being on my cycle and he insisting that we do it. It hurt so goddamn bad. I had sworn off of sex...and now I actually enjoy it.

Would I change it? Nah. Losing my virginity is done and over with and I can now enjoy sex
09/06/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I was dating My Man and I was a Jr. in High School. He was crashing with his parents while finishing school, so we'd been messing around in the car a lot. I made it clear to him I would NOT have sex for the first time EVER in a car. EVER.

He had experience, he had had sex with several girls before. He knew what he was doing in bed. But aside from kissing and light petting, he was the only man I had done anything sexual with so far at this point in my life. He had done a very good job of preparing me for sex. A lot of fingering and playing with me, getting me excited gradually, so I wouldn't be scared and so I would not only learn how to get wet, but be so turned on that I really wanted him to make love to me badly.

His parents rarely went out, but thankfully one day they did. We had it planned out like a bank robbery or a military mission! "They're leaving at 0 15 hundred. I'll get in the car and pick you up at 0 15 15 then we'll traverse the 3 clicks to my house and....." LOL!

Anyway, we made love in his childhood bedroom on a twin bed. I had spent too long in the bathroom. I was putting in the spermicide, which I had never done before, and I was scared and excited. We made love and it was absolutely beautiful. I didn't come. I was too freaked out and we hadn't started having oral sex yet (he wanted to go down on me and I was too scared to let him. What was wrong with me?) I don't remember pain at all. I didn't bleed. I didn't cry. I was just glad we were finally making love and I was rid of that pesky "virginity."

The first time I had an orgasm with him was in the car. (It was probably no more than a week or two after the first time we had PIV sex.) He had talked me into trying oral sex (I gave to him for a while before I let him go down on me, again, What was wrong with me? The first time he went down, I was like, "OMG. I thought I didn't WANT THIS? This is the most amazing thing, ever.") I had been practicing on my own, learning to have an orgasm. I KNEW I needed to figure out what worked for me on my own. So, one night we were having sex (in the car, of course) and he went down and I finally had my first orgasm with him. It was so beautiful, I didn't care where it had happened. For about a month after that, I came every time and I kept saying after every time we had sex. "That was the best time EVER!" He used to say, "You said that last time." He thought it was really cute, but when you are learning to have sex and it keeps getting better and better, it IS the "best time" every time.



I would change nothing.
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09/06/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I was eighteen, two weeks shy of graduating high school, and it was in my own room while my parents were out of the house. Mulder and I spent the day off-roading and getting stuck, so we came back to my house, showered, talked in my room, and it sorta happened. I had wanted it to, and I was still running on adrenaline enough to ask without being shy about it.

Wouldn't change it for the world.

Ended up having an affair with him fourteen years later - I was a neo-virgin (after almost 12 years of no sex that included a 10 year celibate marriage) and it happened again - this time at his apartment in his bedroom while one of our mutual friends was cheering us on from the living room. (Only once did Mulder have to yell "Shut up, asshole! She's nervous enough without your big mouth going off!")

At this rate, I'll be a neo-virgin again. *eyeroll*
09/06/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
At my boyfriend of the time's house when his mom was at work. If I had it to do all over again I wouldn't do it with him again that's for sure. That relationship was a joke and I was just in a hurry because I had wanted my first time to be with my ex who I had just broken up with before I got my liscense and we had a way to be alone..so I rushed into it with the next guy and it just wasn't all it was cracked up to be.
09/06/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Dusk
I'm wondering (for you women out there), where did you lose your virginity? Would you have picked somewhere different if you could? I'm still a virgin (in my book anyway) but I haven't decided where I want the first night. My dorm, a ... more
We have a thread on this already I believe.
09/06/2010
Contributor: twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
I was 16, it was on Thanksgiving in the very bedroom I'm sitting in, on a twin bed. We definitely weren't planning on it. I remember I was wearing my favorite pink monkey pj's from Aeropostale and he slid his hand up my pants. One things lead to another and it happened. I definitely do not regret it, but then again I got lucky and I'm still with him 4 years later
09/06/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
I lost my virginity on my wedding night in "our" bed in our first apartment type home. No pain, no blood, no issues. I wouldn't change it ever.
09/06/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
In my own bed in my mom's house just after I turned 17. It was her 40th bday and her boyfriend had taken her to the Poconos for the weekend so we had the house to ourselves for the weekend. It wasn't planned but it just kind of happened, and although I don't regret the act, if I could go back and pick a different guy, I probably would. He turned out to be a major ass. Oh, and I would go back and make my hymen thinner too!
09/06/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
In the guys bedroom at his moms place(I was 18). It doesn't matter too much where you are as long as your comfortable, its not ilegal to do it there, and its with someone you really care about.

I really like how P'Gell's partner prepared her. I wish I had such and understanding partner.

I wouldn't have picked a different place, rather a different person!

I think a lot of girls/women have their perfect first time idea in their head, I know I did before I talked with my mom about it and she disillusioned me.

I think people shouldn't decide to lose their virginity on a whim (with some person they just hooked up with) but just make sure that if you are making that choice to engage in sexual intercourse with someone that both people are sober, consenting and you have talked about it before. Also, communicate with each other alot during the experience to make sure that you and that person are always good and feel respected.
09/06/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
In the guys bedroom at his moms place(I was 18). It doesn't matter too much where you are as long as your comfortable, its not ilegal to do it there, and its with someone you really care about.

I really like how P'Gell's partner ... more
Thanks, Naughty. He did the same thing (preparing and training me) before we started having anal sex, many many years after we first had PIV sex. I think he knows if I'm happy and comfortable and aroused things go so much better. I know too many women who had their first PIV or first anal just rammed in with no preparation and it was a nightmare for them.

He IS a very giving lover, but he gets a lot in return, too.
09/06/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
On a bed in our bedroom. The familiarity was nice - while we hadn't slept there yet, we had set it up together. It was "ours" and we knew that we were alone and weren't rushed or anything. I kind of had it planned (as much as we could) and went down on her and made sure she was ready.

If I could change one thing I would have made us less tired. The wedding before took a lot out of us. I was thinking about waiting, but it was important to her to make love that night.
09/06/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
At my bf's house in his bed. I totally regretted it only because I found out he cheated on me the NIGHT before! What a jerk!
09/06/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
We have a thread on this already I believe.
Ooh, sorry! I couldn't find it on the first few pages.
09/06/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by ScottA
On a bed in our bedroom. The familiarity was nice - while we hadn't slept there yet, we had set it up together. It was "ours" and we knew that we were alone and weren't rushed or anything. I kind of had it planned (as much as we ... more
Yeah I was definitely tired my wedding night too, but we made it happen! Of course we fell right asleep after only ONE time! That's one thing I would change, is that we would do it more than once and not be so tired.
09/06/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
On the pull out sofa in my ex's basement. I really wouldn't change anything about it if I could, why bother, it's done and over with, lol
09/06/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by sexysweetieshan
Yeah I was definitely tired my wedding night too, but we made it happen! Of course we fell right asleep after only ONE time! That's one thing I would change, is that we would do it more than once and not be so tired.
My Man and I were SO tired on our wedding night. We'd been having sex for about 7 years, already. But we were exhausted, from the drama of the wedding and people came over to our house after the reception and one drunk guy wouldn't leave, and I was pregnant. We were leaving on a little honeymoon the next morning and had to get up early. We almost skipped it, but he said, "It's our wedding night. I'm not really in the mood either, but we have to do it." So we did. I think it was a quickie, but a really sweet one.

I was naive when I was young. I like the word "fuck" I like to say it when we do it. For some stupid reason, I was under the impression that it stood for For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge. So, I thought, "Oh, no, I won't be able to say that anymore, because now it's not illegal." (I am one was one of those "Book smart, otherwise naive" kind of girls when I was younger.) He assured me, we could and would still "fuck" and I felt better.

I learned later, the word is from the German "Frikken" which means "to strike repeatedly" as least that's what I think it means.
09/06/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
Lost my virginity in my own bedroom, so it was comfortable. I lost it kind of young, and if I were going to do it again, I would want some where nice and a bit more romantic.
09/06/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
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Originally posted by ScottA
On a bed in our bedroom. The familiarity was nice - while we hadn't slept there yet, we had set it up together. It was "ours" and we knew that we were alone and weren't rushed or anything. I kind of had it planned (as much as we ... more
Sounds like a really nice time
09/06/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
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Originally posted by P'Gell
My Man and I were SO tired on our wedding night. We'd been having sex for about 7 years, already. But we were exhausted, from the drama of the wedding and people came over to our house after the reception and one drunk guy wouldn't leave, and ... more
My ex's mom told us it meant Fornucate Under Control of the King. I forget the whole story that she had behind it...but I remember what she said the letters stood for.
09/06/2010
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
It was in my bedroom in my childhood home. It was sweet and shy and lovely.
09/06/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by P'Gell
My Man and I were SO tired on our wedding night. We'd been having sex for about 7 years, already. But we were exhausted, from the drama of the wedding and people came over to our house after the reception and one drunk guy wouldn't leave, and ... more
Well I don't know about you, but I would think that you would have regretted it later on if you didn't even make time for a "quickie" on your wedding night. Haha. So I'm glad you did.
09/06/2010
Contributor: Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
I lost my virginity on November 20th, 2000, in my bedroom, to my then-boyfriend, now-husband. At the time I was 16 and he was 18. It was embarrassing and awkward and sweet and fun, and is definitely included in my list of "memorable events"! It was the first time for both of us, and while it was short-lived, we definitely made up for it later that same night -- in the backseat of his car, haha!
09/07/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
I lost it at my bf's house all the way in AL, in the back room on the futon. It hurt sooooo bad tho... because my bf accidentally fell on me and kinda harpooned me. x.x; We had to stop I was almost gushing blood and no, i wasn't on my period. I bled for 2 days straight like period blood, then stopped for 4 days and THEN had my period.

I don't regret it, but I sure as hell wish it was planned better. It was spur of the moment, but we didn't even take the time to grab the lube or anything. Grah.

I think the only good (and cute) thing about it was how caring my bf was, he was almost crying after falling on me and seeing me in so much pain. Even walked me to the bathroom and helped me clean up in the shower. But then his dad came home and he had to run butt naked to his bedroom to hide and throw clothes on, hahahaha.
09/07/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by Envy
I lost it at my bf's house all the way in AL, in the back room on the futon. It hurt sooooo bad tho... because my bf accidentally fell on me and kinda harpooned me. x.x; We had to stop I was almost gushing blood and no, i wasn't on my period. ... more
That sounds like a bad first experience, but at least your bf was really nice and sweet and caring about it! That's always a definite plus!
09/07/2010