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What is your dealbreaker fetish?

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Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
What would be the fetish of a new partner (or older partner that found a new fetish) that you just couldn't bring yourself to participate in? The thing(s) you just couldn't bring yourself to do, in love or not. Mind you I mean fetish in the literal sense that it would have to be incorporated into all or at least most of your sexual encounters with this person in order for them to enjoy it - not just an occasional interest.

I'm going to go ahead and state zoophilia and pedophilia don't have to be stated by every person - they're both illegal so I'm going to venture to say that they're on everyone's NO list.

Mine would have to be anything scat related, vomit related, or needle play - I'd be too paranoid of getting infections, etc.
11/30/2010
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Contributor: fghjkl fghjkl
Everything you mentioned is definitely on my no-no list as well. Except scat... What is scat??

I'm not really big into BDSM and only like light roughness if any. So I'd add anything that caused too much pain and heavy bondage. Also, anything that had to do with urination or feces....
11/30/2010
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
Eww agrees with everything on that first list and also anything intending violence. It's one thing to enjoy roughness and role playing but another to actually inflict harm. Can't be doing other bodily functions urin, scat (Emily it's sexual practices relating to shit) nothing like that eww
11/30/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
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Originally posted by fghjkl
Everything you mentioned is definitely on my no-no list as well. Except scat... What is scat??

I'm not really big into BDSM and only like light roughness if any. So I'd add anything that caused too much pain and heavy bondage. Also, ... more
Scat is feces.
11/30/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
No scat or vomit for me, thanks.
11/30/2010
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
What would be the fetish of a new partner (or older partner that found a new fetish) that you just couldn't bring yourself to participate in? The thing(s) you just couldn't bring yourself to do, in love or not. Mind you I mean fetish in the ... more
You forgot necrophilia in the "illegal so it's probably on everyone's no list".
11/30/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Scat is a big no for me. I wouldn't want to be urinated on, but I could handle urinating on someone else. I would draw the line personally at things that are illegal and something that might put me or my partner in physical danger.
11/30/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Annemarie
You forgot necrophilia in the "illegal so it's probably on everyone's no list".
Oops, you're right...I guess that one was so far on the big no list that I forgot all about it!
11/30/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
Definitely no shitting or peeing, no cutting, no extremely rough play, no foot fetishes, etc.
11/30/2010
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I'm lucky I dodged the bullet and my wife doesn't have a fetish. Even though I have a semi-fetish myself (voice), I don't think I'd be very willing to accommodate an unusual fetish (clowns) with a partner; a more conventional fetish (D/s) would be fine though...
11/30/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
What would be the fetish of a new partner (or older partner that found a new fetish) that you just couldn't bring yourself to participate in? The thing(s) you just couldn't bring yourself to do, in love or not. Mind you I mean fetish in the ... more
Scat, Water sport, adult baby play, blood play are all my deal breaker fetishes.
11/30/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Scat, Water sport, adult baby play, blood play are all my deal breaker fetishes.
Same for me as well as electric play. I have yet had anyone ask me for these.
12/01/2010
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Scarring/branding, scat, and needleplay are all deal breakers. Cutting/knife play is not quite a deal breaker, but it's a rock hard limit.
12/01/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
Urine, scat, and vomit are definite no nos.
If you touch my feet you had better be prepared to get kicked in the face.
Nothing that will leave permanent marks is allowed. Well, aside from pregnancy, that leaves marks but it's different. If they have a huge pregnancy fetish they had better prepared with the fact that I'm not having a zillion more kids, only one or two more.
12/01/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
Urethral Sounding. And that's honestly about it. I'm pretty okay with everything.
12/01/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Kayla
Urethral Sounding. And that's honestly about it. I'm pretty okay with everything.
That's one I'm not sure if I could deal with or not. I've never had any real exposure to it to know.
12/01/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
What would be the fetish of a new partner (or older partner that found a new fetish) that you just couldn't bring yourself to participate in? The thing(s) you just couldn't bring yourself to do, in love or not. Mind you I mean fetish in the ... more
Scat, watersports (pee) and vomit. Needle play doesn't appeal to me, either. Neither does any form of cutting or scarification.

And of course the illegal stuff. I mean non-consensual illegal stuff. Pedophilia, bestiality, necrophilia etc. Up until a few years ago "Sodomy" meaning everything from oral sex to anal sex was illegal in many states. Those laws have been removed from the states (most where this was illegal was in the South, but I know "Sodomy" was illegal in Michigan and I think also Utah.)
12/01/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
All the negatives mentioned plus any activity that could cause injury such as choking.
12/01/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
What would be the fetish of a new partner (or older partner that found a new fetish) that you just couldn't bring yourself to participate in? The thing(s) you just couldn't bring yourself to do, in love or not. Mind you I mean fetish in the ... more
Same
12/01/2010
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
Scat, vomit, torture play, blood play, menstrual fantasies...


I'll do just about and have done just about anything but I draw the line quite clearly when it comes to the above.
12/01/2010
Contributor: fghjkl fghjkl
Thanks for clearing that up for me guys!
12/01/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
So far, everything you've said.. .lol
12/01/2010
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Everything mentioned so far lol
12/04/2010
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
Vomit, scat, watersports, bloodplay -- basically anything that involves putting down a tarp. Things that could be dangerous in various ways, like choking or sounding. Furries are out for me, too. I'd probably be game to try most other things, if I was really in love, but if it's too complicated and has to be done every time, well, that could be a problem. Sometimes I'm just too darn tired to put on clown makeup and ballet shoes, and then play the accordion while hanging upsidedown in a sex swing while covered in spaghetti, ya know?
12/04/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
What would be the fetish of a new partner (or older partner that found a new fetish) that you just couldn't bring yourself to participate in? The thing(s) you just couldn't bring yourself to do, in love or not. Mind you I mean fetish in the ... more
Yeap - definitely agree with everything you said and I'll add incest. Just the mention of it even as a joke instantly turns me off!
No blood either!
12/04/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
Vomit, scat, watersports, bloodplay -- basically anything that involves putting down a tarp. Things that could be dangerous in various ways, like choking or sounding. Furries are out for me, too. I'd probably be game to try most other things, ... more
LOL, that does sound exhausting!
12/04/2010
Contributor: dhig dhig
Scat definitely, along with blood play. Pretty open otherwise.
12/04/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
I'm along the same lines as most folks here; scat, watersports, vomit. I also can't stand intentional spitting on/in body parts, especially spitting into someone else's mouth!!! Eeeeeew no.

I think I would be up for trying needles and maybe a bit of bloodplay, and I actually love breathplay
12/05/2010
Contributor: dv8 dv8
Unsafe group sex.
12/16/2010
Contributor: CharlieBrown CharlieBrown
Watersports is a definite "no" Also, urethral sounding sounds way too rough for me.
06/22/2011