Just a quick question...if the average guy is about 5.75 inches long and about 4.75 inches in circumference, from the responses in this survey, the average female wants larger than what the average guy has??? If that is the case, then how is sex with an "average guy" ever ideal? less

Just a quick question...if the average guy is about 5.75 inches long and about 4.75 inches in circumference, from the responses in this survey, the average female wants larger than what the average guy has??? If that is the case, then how is sex with an "average guy" ever ideal? less

Interesting results so far...and I must say I'm stunned.

Averaging all the votes, the average preferred length is 7.5 inches, average preferred girth is 6.7 inches. For length, that's 30% longer than the average guy at 5.75 inches; for girth, that's 41% thicker than the average guy at 4.75 inches. Regarding percentiles, fewer than 1% of all guys would be that large.

So please explain to me (like I'm stoopid or something) why such a disparity between reality and preferred? It seems to me that the average female prefers much more than what their average guy has...and that the typical comment, "honey, your size is perfect for me" is a complete crock... less

Interesting results so far...and I must say I'm stunned.

Averaging all the votes, the average preferred length is 7.5 inches, average preferred girth is 6.7 inches. For length, that's 30% longer than the average guy at 5.75 inches; for girth, that's 41% thicker than the average guy at 4.75 inches. Regarding percentiles, fewer than 1% of all guys would be that large.

So please explain to me (like I'm stoopid or something) why such a disparity between reality and preferred? It seems to me that the average female prefers much more than what their average guy has...and that the typical comment, "honey, your size is perfect for me" is a complete crock... less

I would agree with all you said there, except it appears using the word "most" would be more accurate than using the word "some"...at least that's what this survey implies.

Just curious...what length n girth did you vote for vs. what is your husband's sizing? less

My take on this is that most women dutifully claim that 'size doesn't matter'. The reality is size does matter (to a point). I think it's safe to say that most men don't measure up to the 'preferred' size of their SO. It's certainly true for me.

That doesn't mean my wife goes out looking for a bigger dick - although some women choose this option - many more than would ever admit it.

My anecdotal proof here is that we have a wide array of toys - especially dildos and every one of her 'favorites' is substantially bigger than me.

But flip the coin - how many women have the breast size that their SO 'prefers'? Again if you love a woman, you don't abandon her to looking for bigger (or smaller) breasts that you may prefer.

We're all flawed - the most successful relationships happen when people just don't accept their partner's shortcomings - but embrace them - do what they can to help their partner feel good. This is why women say size doesn't matter - it's just a lie they tell to preserve a quality relationship. less

Well said. Words of wisdom.

I would add that guys CAN choose women based on breast size, as breast size is fairly easy to discern, especially if/when you first meet at a function where she is dressed accordingly. If a guy likes a certain breast size, he is more likely to be attracted to a women with that size and, thus, he is more likely to eventually find a wife with such a size.

Women don't normally have the ability to discern a guy's erect penis size in advance (through clothing), they have to wait until they see it live - and in action. By that time, its too late to turn back if she really likes/loves the guy (at least that's what this survey implies). less

The breast size issue can lead to pre-selection as you say. However if penis size is important, a woman can find that out long before it's too late to opt-out.

IMO the bigger problem is that the 'ideal' as seen by many women is quite a bit larger than average. So does a woman accept what an interesting guy has - your shop for dick size? I'm guessing not too many do that, but it's an option. less

I think these "preferred" figures may be skewed on the high side for a few reasons. Let me explain.

44-yr old married gal here. Have had 2 kids vaginally. Even though I routinely do yoga, keep fit, use Kegel balls, etc., I know I'm not quite as tight as I was when I first met my husband. Both age and kids cause the vagina to loose some elasticity and elongate somewhat. You asked this survey question to married ladies, many of whom have had kids. So it makes sense that many of these women would prefer a larger size on their men. I bet if this survey included more women in their 20s, with no kids, the results would be more in line with average guy sizes, or slightly higher - but not substantially higher as shown here so far.

Also, this forum is on an adult website that sells dildos - plenty of them. The women (and some guys) responding to this survey generally know what size they prefer and its not surprising these sizes are much larger than your average Joe. I think I can speak for many married women - if I'm shopping for a dildo, I'm likely going to get one larger than my husband because I already have my husband's size, so why repeat? And let's face it, ladies, do we really want one smaller than our guys (ok, maybe not if he is already 9 inches long)? But some women don't buy dildos, some don't know what sizes they really do prefer, and some don't even care. The ones answering this survey generally do know what they like. To make this survey more accurate, it probably would be better to post it on a site that does not sell adult toys - that way you get ALL the votes, because I suspect some women prefer average sizes, some prefer slightly higher than average, and some (like many from this forum) prefer much above average.

So, from this survey the average length is like 7.4 inches and girth is like 6.6 inches. That does seem too high to be representative of all women. Seriously, how many guys are THAT big??? There have to be more who prefer average or slightly above that. But most of these ladies have not responded to this survey for reasons I stated above. Well, I am one of them!!!

My husband is about 6 inches long by about 5.75 inches average girth. His girth is interesting because he is "tapered" (about 5 inches around the head base but almost 6.5 inches around the shaft base). So a decent size, yes? There are plenty of times his size completely suffices. But, I must admit, there are times when I would "prefer" to have a bit more size - but not a great amount more. So for me, I vote 6-7 inches length and 5-6 inches girth (assuming this girth is AVERAGE and not the maximum). For me, any length under about 5.5 inches and girth under 5 inches average probably would not consistently work - sorry if that offends some guys (I guess spoiled by my current husband???)

As a woman, I do find this survey fascinating and hope we get more votes from those ladies who do truly prefer average or slightly higher than that. Would like to see what an accurate result shows. However, it is fair to say that size does indeed matter to most married gals. Even if not a "size queen", there is still a minimum amount we would prefer. Unfortunately for many guys, that minimum is about average male size. I can't imagine any woman (especially those married) preferring a 5 inch long by 4.5 inch girth cock.

So there you have it...open for comments less

I think these "preferred" figures may be skewed on the high side for a few reasons. Let me explain.

44-yr old married gal here. Have had 2 kids vaginally. Even though I routinely do yoga, keep fit, use Kegel balls, etc., I know I'm not quite as tight as I was when I first met my husband. Both age and kids cause the vagina to loose some elasticity and elongate somewhat. You asked this survey question to married ladies, many of whom have had kids. So it makes sense that many of these women would prefer a larger size on their men. I bet if this survey included more women in their 20s, with no kids, the results would be more in line with average guy sizes, or slightly higher - but not substantially higher as shown here so far.

Also, this forum is on an adult website that sells dildos - plenty of them. The women (and some guys) responding to this survey generally know what size they prefer and its not surprising these sizes are much larger than your average Joe. I think I can speak for many married women - if I'm shopping for a dildo, I'm likely going to get one larger than my husband because I already have my husband's size, so why repeat? And let's face it, ladies, do we really want one smaller than our guys (ok, maybe not if he is already 9 inches long)? But some women don't buy dildos, some don't know what sizes they really do prefer, and some don't even care. The ones answering this survey generally do know what they like. To make this survey more accurate, it probably would be better to post it on a site that does not sell adult toys - that way you get ALL the votes, because I suspect some women prefer average sizes, some prefer slightly higher than average, and some (like many from this forum) prefer much above average.

So, from this survey the average length is like 7.4 inches and girth is like 6.6 inches. That does seem too high to be representative of all women. Seriously, how many guys are THAT big??? There have to be more who prefer average or slightly above that. But most of these ladies have not responded to this survey for reasons I stated above. Well, I am one of them!!!

My husband is about 6 inches long by about 5.75 inches average girth. His girth is interesting because he is "tapered" (about 5 inches around the head base but almost 6.5 inches around the shaft base). So a decent size, yes? There are plenty of times his size completely suffices. But, I must admit, there are times when I would "prefer" to have a bit more size - but not a great amount more. So for me, I vote 6-7 inches length and 5-6 inches girth (assuming this girth is AVERAGE and not the maximum). For me, any length under about 5.5 inches and girth under 5 inches average probably would not consistently work - sorry if that offends some guys (I guess spoiled by my current husband???)

As a woman, I do find this survey fascinating and hope we get more votes from those ladies who do truly prefer average or slightly higher than that. Would like to see what an accurate result shows. However, it is fair to say that size does indeed matter to most married gals. Even if not a "size queen", there is still a minimum amount we would prefer. Unfortunately for many guys, that minimum is about average male size. I can't imagine any woman (especially those married) preferring a 5 inch long by 4.5 inch girth cock.

So there you have it...open for comments less

The interesting take away is that the votes seem on average to be for penis sizes that are statistically large. I need to track down the few research papers where the average male penis sizes are actually surveyed... as I'd gather they're at least a standard deviation, if not 2 beyond the mean.

I'm significantly above average and I'd only just fall above average on the poll results, that said... in some cases I'm too big for my partner. I know I crash into my SOs cervix if I fully insert, so I make sure not to insert completely if I'm thrusting rapidly to prevent hurting my partner. My ex-gf actually didn't want me to fully insert for this reason, as the hitting her cervix would take away from her enjoyment and make it harder for her to climax.

So doesn't matter how large you are... if you aren't using what you've got correctly it is not enjoyable for your partner. But depends on if your partner needs g-spot engagement to climax, if so... then length/girth might be necessary, but thankfully sites like this one sell toys that can help with that. If your partner gets off from excitement of their clitoris, then you can adjust your angle such that you rub on the clit more when you are thrusting. less

I'd like to agree with you but in the end we can't "sugar-coat" the results so far. Bottom line is the ladies prefer sizes larger than what the average guy has. Yes, of course they want a guy who "knows how to use it". But they want that plus a larger size. Remember, this poll is all about PREFERRED... less