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What activities are "regular and normal" to the folks who hang out here at EF?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
I have to assume that anyone here is a bit more open and "sensual-sexual" then perhaps the general public, but let's see what constitutes "vanilla" normal sex to those who are here.

This is private response, so please be HONEST.

Please check all those activities, below, that are part of your regular, "normal" sex life. Not something you fantasize about or have tried just "once", but something you actually DO now and again.

Forgive me if I left things off...I am sure there are a MILLION things we could list..... (for instance, I just realized I left off PEGGING...and darn it all, you cannot add to the LIST and ANSWERS, once posted).
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Having more then one partner at a time...
7
Having large group sex (orgy)....
Partner swapping outside a group...(you go home with my wife/husband, and I go home with yours)
Oral to genital contact
61
Oral to Anal contact
25
Anal penetration give
25
Anal penetration recieve
38
Bondage
34
Pain play (whipping/spanking)
32
Master/Slave relationship
13
Pony play
2
Urine play, giving
5
Urine play, recieving
5
Scatological play, giving
Scatological play, reciving
Using standard toys (the kind sold here)
59
Using "sex machines" (the kind powered by large motors/or made from power tools)...
8
ATM (putting into mouth something just put in anus)
3
VTM (putting in mouth something that was just in vagina)
40
Watch porn
47
Make your own "home movies"
22
Make movies you would show/sell to others outside your lover/lovers
6
Go out of home with vaginal sex toys on or in (vibrating panties/remote bullets).
21
Go out of home with anal sex toys in (anal plugs...etc).
13
Wear anal plugs at home, without anyone knowing.
17
Wear anal plugs at home with lover knowing.
15
Enema play giving
3
Enema play, recieving
3
If into enema play, allowing partner to watch as enema is expelled.
2
Tickling
12
Infantile play (wearing diapers, etc)
Cross dressing.
10
Online live sexual acts or nudity with loved one
13
Online or nudity with strangers.
12
Sexting on phone.
34
Using food for sex play.
10
Having sex in public (where no one can see)
20
Having sex in public in a way where others CAN see.
3
Using ICE in sex play.
18
Having double penetration by toys
26
Having double penetration by people and toys
23
Having double penetration by people only (more then one, of course)
2
OTHERS...please add, there must be millions I have left off...
15
Total votes: 704 (63 voters)
Poll is closed
05/06/2012
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Contributor: Vegan Silk Vegan Silk
I think being open to sexuality in general, doesn't mean individuals actually want to try something for themselves. So while people here are more open, and likely the site draws more people into unconventional play, there are probably many who don't mind what others do, but are still mainly vanilla.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
I kind of cheated a bit because some of the stuff I "give" is over the Internet. I am a cam model who works primarily as a Mistress and I make my slaves do a number of different things. Unfortunately, my own sex life is a bit "normal". My boyfriend will indulge me in the things I like that he doesn't every once in a while (biting, slapping, hair-pulling, etc.) but beyond that, we're pretty "basic". I've been hoping to expand but I'm not going to push the issue since these days, I'm just happy to even have sex. Lol. But anyway, I guess that makes me part of the small "Online or nudity with strangers" group. I actually almost never show any nudity and if I do, it's just breasts or the like, because I'm the Mistress and I'll be damned if they tell me what I have to show.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Vegan Silk
I think being open to sexuality in general, doesn't mean individuals actually want to try something for themselves. So while people here are more open, and likely the site draws more people into unconventional play, there are probably many who ... more
Good point, but let's see what the numbers show!!!!
05/06/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Nazaress
I kind of cheated a bit because some of the stuff I "give" is over the Internet. I am a cam model who works primarily as a Mistress and I make my slaves do a number of different things. Unfortunately, my own sex life is a bit ... more
Well thanks for that honest response. The fact is, I knew there would be a million permutations of different things not listed, and different ways to say it.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
there's so much more I'd love to try but at the moment I'm pretty vanilla
05/06/2012
Contributor: RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
I'm a very sensual/sexual person and am very open about it. I'm willing to try anything once, but my guy is very vanilla. I'm lucky if I can talk him into anal sex.

I'm thinking about trying to be a cam girl. I think it sounds interesting.
05/06/2012
Contributor: dragonn dragonn
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Good point, but let's see what the numbers show!!!!
I'm really curious about the results too!
05/07/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
Interesting poll
05/07/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I was confused about two questions. You said "you guys" I assumed that meant "my partner and I." So, although anal sex only goes one way with us (he penetrates and I receive) I put both, as I was answering for both of us.



Of course, we do a lot of other things, too.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
I'm glad to know that all 43 of us regularly have oral sex!
05/07/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I have to assume that anyone here is a bit more open and "sensual-sexual" then perhaps the general public, but let's see what constitutes "vanilla" normal sex to those who are here.

This is private response, so please ... more
Jeez...my hand hurts from checking boxes! LOL.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
Jeez...my hand hurts from checking boxes! LOL.
Me too!And I thought I was a little more conservative then most.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Llahsram Llahsram
I just checked a metric butt ton of boxes.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bex1331
there's so much more I'd love to try but at the moment I'm pretty vanilla
Hey...no way to TRY it, except to JUMP ON IN and TRY IT. I am sure your partner will be thrilled. They usually are.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I was confused about two questions. You said "you guys" I assumed that meant "my partner and I." So, although anal sex only goes one way with us (he penetrates and I receive) I put both, as I was answering for both of us.

... more
Good point. Hard to word some of these things, sometimes.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Llahsram
I just checked a metric butt ton of boxes.
Hey...the couple that PLAYS together, STAYS together.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by dragonn
I'm really curious about the results too!
A little bit of everything so far.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by RomanticGoth
I'm a very sensual/sexual person and am very open about it. I'm willing to try anything once, but my guy is very vanilla. I'm lucky if I can talk him into anal sex.

I'm thinking about trying to be a cam girl. I think it sounds interesting.
...you have to talk your guy into anal? Not the usual situation at all, sounds like.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Interesting poll
Getting great response numbers so far.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by RomanticGoth
I'm a very sensual/sexual person and am very open about it. I'm willing to try anything once, but my guy is very vanilla. I'm lucky if I can talk him into anal sex.

I'm thinking about trying to be a cam girl. I think it sounds interesting.
Have you checked out Myfreecams.com? Seems pretty amazing.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
Wow! I feel like a tramp!

I feel that everyone is inherently sexual, it's just our environment that determines how open we are.
05/08/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Have you checked out Myfreecams.com? Seems pretty amazing.
From a semi-experienced cam girl to an interested woman, do NOT use MyFreeCams. No offense, Bignuf. Lol. I can understand someone not knowing the inner workings unless they've researched it when it pertains to themselves. MyFreeCams IS amazing...to the viewers. And it DOES get tons of traffic but a lot of that is unpaid traffic. The girls on those sites almost never get private shows (where they get paid by the minute). A lot of them get their money exclusively in free video chat by earning tips. What this means is that girls will strip for tips in FREE video chat (meaning all income is tips) where ANYONE can pop in and see. For some girls who are really popular (and who plan on working exclusively in purely sexual-based cam work), this can really work out for them. But others, it is a sentence to making little money and degrading yourself to showing nude parts and shows to non-paying strangers.

I don't know if I'd recommend the site I work on because it's known to have some of the lowest prices on the net (I'm looking to try out other sites, though I am doing not bad at it and making more every time) but it's a decent site for Mistresses, submissives, and fetish-lovers because there's a big audience there for it AND it has categories where you can have a full nude show, a little nudity (only if you want), or absolutely no nudity or even sexual talk at all. So it's not a bad site and you get some of the best pay-out rates there (50% as opposed to the usual 30% or less). It may take some time to get some regulars (especially if you refuse to degrade yourself to under $1 a minute) but in the end, it may be worth it to you. AND there is NO free video chat. If they want to see you, they have to pay. And if they want you all to themselves, they'll have to pay even more. Good luck!
05/09/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I do some of the things listed, but I don't think of them all as my "vanilla" sex. I very much think of myself as a kinky person.
07/30/2012