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Contributor: captainsgirl captainsgirl
ok, this is kind of a rant, but any advice would be appreciated. So my husband and I usually have sex at least 5 times a week. We try to when it's easiest because we have 2 small children. However, I want to jump on him at any chance I get. He is happy with once a day. He always refuses more than once a day because he says his penis gets sore. Is this normal?
Also, after he ejaculates he doesnt want me to touch his penis or continue having sex. He says, it is too sensitive. I have heard of this before, but is there anything to help with it?
And finally, besides prolonging cream what can we use to make it last longer before he cums. The cream we got does not really work. So any cream recommendations and is there anything else we can do?

Help, from one horny mama lol
02/04/2013
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Contributor: captainsgirl captainsgirl
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Originally posted by captainsgirl
ok, this is kind of a rant, but any advice would be appreciated. So my husband and I usually have sex at least 5 times a week. We try to when it's easiest because we have 2 small children. However, I want to jump on him at any chance I get. He is ... more
HELP PLEASE!
02/04/2013
Contributor: shorejen9 shorejen9
The sta hard cherry cream works well for my husband and it doesn't rub off and affect me. Just let it absorb completely. I did a review on it if you want to check it out.
As far as post-ejaculation sensitivity, it is normal. If you aren't getting enough fun prior try to prolong the foreplay and add some toys so you have more orgasms up front before his.
I hope this helps if you want me advice let me know. We have a two year old so its not easy!
02/04/2013
Contributor: minstrel69 minstrel69
I think a lot of men, myself included, are sensitive immediately after orgasm. I can still be touched after orgasm but your husband may be more sensitive and yes, it is normal. As for lasting longer, this really has to be something your husband ( and you) are willing to work at. From experience, I know it isn't easy. But with time and practice it can be done. You should be willing to be supportive and help him in every way you can. Some men are just more sensitive and more easily aroused and they have to learn to control what is going on with their bodies. This article link has a lot of good ideas. I personally used the "start-stop method" many years ago and have much better control now. I also agree with shorejen9 that more foreplay may help.
02/04/2013
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
Being sensitive after orgasm is completely normal, and having sex too many times a day can make him sore.

To last longer, you can try using some signals. For instance, if my husband is getting close, he will tell me so that I can make the decision to either reign it in or let it go. You can also utilize different positions where you are in control, like the cowgirl (woman-on-top). You can even start with longer foreplay which would make the love making sensation in its entirety last longer. I would, however, caution you about long-lasting creams unless you know what's in them.

And I get you about the 2 small kids. Sex happens when it happens. Been there. Heck, still there.
02/04/2013
Contributor: captainsgirl captainsgirl
thanks everyone. we havea a prolonging cream, but it doesnt really work. we usually have sex everyday. even if he ejaculates like 2 hours prior to sex and even if we use signals it usually doesnt last more than 15 minutes of straight intercourse before he goes.
02/05/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
It can be downright painful to be touched after orgasm.


As far as 15 minutes of straight sex before he cums... you do realize that's fairly long right?

"Men typically reach orgasm 5–10 minutes after the start of penile-vaginal intercourse, taking into account their desires and those of their partners."
-Wikipedia article on Ejaculation


If he isn't lasting long enough for you still, he could always speak to the doctor about it. I don't think a doctor would prescribe anything to last longer for a man that is already lasting an average of 15 minutes though...
02/05/2013