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To what extent was your body hair maintenance affected when you first started dating? (General body hair discussion!)

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Contributor: spiceboy spiceboy
I'm interested in seeing how closely body hair maintenance is linked to sexuality. Is your choice to tend to your pit hair, leg hair, stomach hair/happy trail, pubic hair, et cetera affected by your partner or your views on finding/keeping a partner? Do you feel that at least a minimal level of body hair maintenance is mandatory in a relationship—and do you assume that someone who doesn't so much as trim their pubes every now and then is lazy, or worse? Are your body hair standards gendered? Are you surprised to see a girl with hairy legs in heels and sexy attire out on the town? Do you manage your body hair in a way that is most practical and comfortable for you or a way that you think is most acceptable or appropriate?

Share your stories about what sparked your initial foray into body hair maintenance, how it currently relates to your sexuality, and what you are attracted to on others!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I started shaving/maintaining my body hair before I dated or became interested in dating; I was pressured by friends and/or family.
2  (7%)
I started shaving/maintaining my body hair before I dated or became interested in dating; it was a rite of passage.
4  (13%)
I started shaving/maintaining my body hair before I dated or became interested in dating; I preferred the look/feel for myself.
15  (50%)
I started shaving/maintaining my body hair when I became interested in dating but before I'd been in a relationship.
2  (7%)
I started shaving/maintaining my body hair when I entered a relationship at my partners request.
I started shaving/maintaining my body hair when I entered a relationship as a personal preference.
3  (10%)
I started shaving/maintaining my body hair after I'd been dating a while due to complaints from my partners.
I started shaving/maintaining my body hair after I'd been dating a while as a personal preference.
I don't regularly shave or otherwise maintain my body hair despite complaints from my partners.
I don't regularly shave or otherwise maintain my body hair; my partners are neutral to this fact or prefer it.
4  (13%)
Other. (Please explain!)
Total votes: 30
Poll is closed
01/12/2012
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Contributor: K101 K101
I started shaving my legs when I was in the 4th or 5th grade I think? I wanted to start sooner because it seemed sooo cool. LOL. My mom didn't want me to so my pretty pink sparkly razor sat in it's package in the bathroom for a year before she agreed to let me! Lol. I started shaving my crotch only months later!
01/12/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
The only thing affected by 'dating' in my shaving habits was finally taking the razor down there when Master stated that he preferred smooth. I posted about my first attempt link - but it got me some great advice on what really is involved with genital shaving!
01/12/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I started shaving everything before dating/relationships only because I liked the way it looked and felt. I couldn't stand the feel of having pubic hair, it drove me crazy.
01/12/2012
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I started shaving when I was 11, basically as soon as the hair started showing up. I wasn't really interested in boys yet, I just didn't like being hairy. My mom wanted me to wait til I was older, but I didn't listen.
01/12/2012
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
I started shaving/maintaining my body hair before I dated or became interested in dating; I preferred the look/feel for myself. I shaved everything right away. I'm not really sure exactly when, but probably in 6th grade.
01/12/2012
Contributor: spiceboy spiceboy
Why did so many people dislike being hairy at such a young age?? I didn't even recognize shaving as an option until much later in life.
01/12/2012
Contributor: ellejay ellejay
I still shave/maintain as much now as I did when I first started dating my boyfriend.
01/12/2012
Contributor: Cherrylane Cherrylane
All before.

And my hair removal preferences may not be the most practical, but they are absolutely the most comfortable for me. I hate how it feels to have scratchy hair on my legs pussy or underarms. Hate it. It makes me feel sweatier and less clean.
01/12/2012
Contributor: Greenleaf Greenleaf
I really, really, REALLY dislike body hair on myself. I don't have much of it to begin with, but keeping it well groomed (or removed entirely) makes me feel clean and comfortable. Cool, clean sheets on freshly shaved legs is one of my top 10 sensual(non-sexual) pleasures.

I could not care less what kind of body hair my partner has as long as they are CLEAN.

I would definitely not change how I manage my personal grooming for my partner, and I would not expect or ask them to do so for my sake.
01/12/2012
Contributor: Daemonin Daemonin
My shaving started before I started dating because I preferred it, though my family told me I should. I used to shave all the time just because I preferred the feel of being smooth, but my partner's preferences actually have me shaving less.
01/12/2012
Contributor: jc123 jc123
When we started dating I was already waxing my pubic hair, but I did start shaving my legs daily vs. once every week or so.

My shaving habits have admittedly declined since I have been married, despite his requests to the contrary.
01/12/2012
Contributor: ninja250 ninja250
Started before a relationship because i preferred it, not because anyone told me to.
01/15/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
Sometimes I shave, other times I don't. My partner doesn't give a flying flip either way and I don't give a flip if they're shaved or cleaned. Though I do like pubic hair to be trimmed for ease of oral stimulation.
06/12/2012
Contributor: liten liten
I started shaving my legs and underarms when I was 12. It wasn't really out of a personal preference, more that I was just "supposed to" and I would feel embarrassed otherwise. I don't usually shave them now because I'm too lazy, and no one sees it anyway because I live in Scotland now and it's usually too cold for bare legs and sleeveless tops. But if I'm planning on sleeping with someone then I do.

I would periodically shave or trim my pubic hair throughout high school, but never really kept it up because it wasn't like I was having sex anyway. Again, it wasn't out of personal preference, really just that I felt like it was expected of me and that people would think I was disgusting otherwise. I finally realized that I don't want to sleep with someone who would judge me for having pubic hair anyway, so now I just leave it alone for the most part.
06/18/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
I started shaving my underarms and legs when I was 10, due to teasing. I started shaving my pubic area at 16 due to personal preference. I didn't start dating until I was 17. My current boyfriend doesn't care whether I shave or not. I still do, but slightly less often, because I feel more confident about myself and my body now.
08/06/2012