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Contributor: Dusk Dusk
So, I've checked a lot of the other 'virginity' threads and couldn't find quite what I was looking for. You all have posted about your first time, your regrets and mistakes, your opinions about what being a virgin means.

What I want to know is, what advice would you give someone who is preparing to have their first dose of sexual intercourse? M and I are planning for sometime after my birthday, but it's too awkward to ask my mother for advice and I'm not really sure what to expect or how to make sex for the first time more fun and less awkward.

What tips, tricks, and suggestions do you all have? And thank you
12/21/2010
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Useful topic breakdown on First Time:

My first time.
I have never used a vibrator before and I just wanted to know what should I go with first. Are there vibrators for first timers or should I just jump.

First time luxury toy for a bachelorette party
I am thinking of buying a friend of mine her first luxury toy for her bachelorette party. She and her fiance have experimented minimally with toys but

For your first time
For your first time, would you rather have(or have had) a partner who was more experienced than yourself, or someone who was as inexperienced as you?

Frst toy?
When did you get your first toy? What was it? How old were you? Did anyone know about it?

If you could only ever use "toys" or "gear" again, which would you use?
self explanatory.
12/21/2010
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
There aren't really any tricks to losing your virginity. Just a warning, I don't know what your partner's history is like but HPV (genital warts) can spread with or without the use of condoms. If you haven't done so at this point, I highly recommend waiting until you have the Guardisil vaccine series. It will seriously save your life and prevent major headaches. (Yes, I do speak from experience.)

Sober. Don't get drunk and then get down and dirty. Stupid mistakes happen and again you could regret for the rest of your life.

The more you plan it, the more pressure you're going to put on yourself and him/her to perform in a manner you associate with hot steamy sex.

Just relax. Protect yourself. Have a good time.
12/21/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
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Originally posted by PussyGalore
There aren't really any tricks to losing your virginity. Just a warning, I don't know what your partner's history is like but HPV (genital warts) can spread with or without the use of condoms. If you haven't done so at this point, I ... more
Thank you! I hadn't thought about the HPV issue but luckily, I got my Guardasil series upon coming to college. I know I need to stop planning, but I'm really nervous :/
12/21/2010
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
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Originally posted by Dusk
Thank you! I hadn't thought about the HPV issue but luckily, I got my Guardasil series upon coming to college. I know I need to stop planning, but I'm really nervous :/
Aww, sweetie! Don't be nervous! If it was really such a huge deal, people wouldn't keep doing it.

It's going to be an extremely surreal experience and it's going to be something you're going to remember for a very long time. If it doesn't go quite the way you envisioned, that's ok. It'll be something to laugh and joke about with your partner for many years to come. And trust me, once the initial time is over and the nervousness subsides, the second time will be even better.

What worked for me the first time, was a lot of foreplay. A lot of heavy petting, and kissing and I was ready to go! I actually orgasmed the first time and after that you would have sworn somebody pulled a ripcord somewhere.

Does the person have experience?
12/21/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
Haha no. I'm his first sexual partner of any kind so I actually came in with more experience already. We're both n00bs.
12/21/2010
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
Quote:
Originally posted by Dusk
Haha no. I'm his first sexual partner of any kind so I actually came in with more experience already. We're both n00bs.
Good to go then! You'll be fine. I promise! Do things that are already natural for you both. If you dig cuddling on the couch and watching a movie, then that's what you should do. Let the make out session you normally would have when the pretense of sex was off the table be the catalyst for your first time.
12/21/2010
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
Take it slow, remember protection, no means no, relax and enjoy. And if it doesn't seem at all worth it, don't sweat it! Next time will be better.
12/21/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Don't go into it with expectations of amazing life altering sex. Relax, have fun, don't worry if it's awkward or if something embarrassing happens, that stuff happens to everybody even the most experienced of us. Sex is weird, wonderful and full of surprises.
12/21/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Don't read anymore romance novels, this will piss you off. LOL

The first time is usually difficult and awkward.
But if you two care for each other, you guys can learn with each other and it'll progressively get better!
12/21/2010
Contributor: Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
I agree with Girl With Fire.

However you think it's going to be: it'll be way different! Especially since he's also a virgin expect false starts, maybe someone cumming really quickly, things like that. Make sure to communicate and use lube!

And remember: you get "smoother" in time with practice so you can always think of it as your first practice run
12/21/2010
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Also, don't expect to orgasm your first time. He'll probably cum in about 30 seconds, though, if it's his first time as well.
12/22/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by UnknownGirl
Also, don't expect to orgasm your first time. He'll probably cum in about 30 seconds, though, if it's his first time as well.
That's why you need foreplay, and plenty of it.
12/22/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
Just don't get fallen on like my bf did with me when he dug in, ouch. D: And we were both newbs, too.

Take it slow, lots of lube, and communicate! And don't push and don't be pushed! Go at a comfortable pace, do lots of foreplay, kissing, touching, etc. Get to know each others body, and take your time.

And sex is nothing like when you see in porn. It's going to be awkward, clumsy, etc. But just have fun with it.

Good luck!
12/22/2010
Contributor: The Awesome Penguin The Awesome Penguin
Foreplay is defiantly key to begin with. It will help to relax both of you as you start. Also, communication is SO important! Let each other know what's working and what's not! Don't be shy!

Good luck, and HAVE FUN!
12/23/2010
Contributor: Technine Technine
+1 on the lube. don't be afraid to laugh and have fun
12/28/2010
Contributor: moonch1ld moonch1ld
Make sure to get very worked up (sexually) or use lube before actually inserting it in. If just jump right into trying to have intercourse it'll probably hurt or have trouble getting in and could cause a less than stellar experience
12/28/2010
Contributor: Hockeytown9 Hockeytown9
Just make sure it is with someone special. I know that is the dorky old school answer, but trust me, its and oldie but goodie. After that, just try to relax, have fun, and make it memorable. Make it romantic, and a real event that you can always look back upon with fond memories.
12/30/2010