And please keep in mind that I'm a plus size woman.

Why not surprise him at work with sexy calls, texts or e-mails? A note in his lunchbox or briefcase? Or maybe not a note. Slip in a blindfold or feather tickler or something similar and small

You could try setting the scene.. I know guys don't usually go "Awww" at seeing a room full of candles (placed safely away from flammable stuff!), but it would definitely be a sexy surprise.

That, or food! The way to a man's heart is through his stomach, right? Cook a nice special meal, and get some wine or champagne and strawberries and chocolate for dessert

I'd suggest letting him know something is going on, though. Just a quick text or call to make sure he's not bringing home a business contact or telling the guys to meet up at your place!

1. Rent a movie he really wants to see that you can tolerate. Something with a lot of adrenaline if he's into that. I've found that guys who like fast-paced action movies are often turned on at the end of them.

2. Watch the movie with him, while wearing a silky nightgown or robe with only hints of sexy exposed: like cleavage but no nipples. Let him paw at you during the movie, but don't let his hands under the gown anywhere. If and when his hands start to go under the gown, just go get a drink, use the bathroom - anything to walk away and stop him without being too obvious.

This works pretty good for me - I think it's just the element of the action movie plus a woman dressed in a sexy gown together that really gets to them. I know you said you are plus sized - there are actually some pretty nice silky feeling gowns and robes at Target and Kmart for plus sized women.

Well I can't send anything with him. He's a cook in the Navy and he's currently only in the office or going down to the boat.

He doesn't like massages, dunno why. And I'm more than sure he wouldn't want a cock ring, and he doesn't like for me to mess with his perineum....

As a woman who is also plus size with a husband who works on a different schedule than I do, I go to bed in a sexy outfit (chamber maid, open bust baby doll, just a thong) so that when he crawls into bed he's like "oooo hot". Sometimes I'll wake up early before he gets home and do the whole sexy outfit thing and wait in a room I know he'll enter standing in a nice position.

While watching TV or something, get down in front of him and give him oral. Don't expect anything in return though. Sometimes it just helps turn him on for later. At least in my experience.

You might also want to check out the sex fantasy's here on Eden, you might find something that you like or that will inspire you.

I did find something I liked, hopefully I can do it really soon. He's going out to sea next month some time for a month or two.