Dear SoEtX,
there is no problem whatsoever with misspelling some words, the main thing is that your message is clear.
And I must say that for me - there is no clear winner. Every single one of the practices entices me in a particular way, having its own perks and downfalls (of which there are few )

I think that your wide needs a confidence boost - a compliment now and then, maybe an erotic gift (something from our lingerie collection, perhaps). To revive her sexual drive you have to make her feel loved and desired - maybe, a new sex toy for her pleasure would work? For example, you can buy her a sex toy gift and tell her you would love to watch her use it. That would be a start on the way back to having a common sex life once again.

On the other hand, if you enjoy masturbation, you can keep yourself happy with just that - a happy marriage does not always include a busy sex life.

However, having a confident and happy wife is certainly a vital thing.