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Contributor: Solar Ray Solar Ray
Do you have any sexual secrets that you've never told your partner because you think it would hurt them and possibly even ruin the relationship?

Not asking for specifics or anything... just wondering how many of us have things they wouldn't want to say or reveal to their partners because they think it could compromise the relationship. Basically... are some things truly better left unsaid or should we always be completely open and honest with each other about everything?
02/15/2011
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Contributor: Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
I have things I haven't told my husband, but not because I think it would hurt our relationship. Rather, in my case, its more a "TMI".

On a less personal level, I don't think we are obligated to share everything with our partners. We do reserve the right to a past and some privacy. I think it would really depend on the circumstances if it is something that needs to be aired or if you can let the past lie.

Can you give some examples of the type of thing you might have in mind?
02/15/2011
Contributor: Lady Venus Lady Venus
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Originally posted by Pleasure Piratess
I have things I haven't told my husband, but not because I think it would hurt our relationship. Rather, in my case, its more a "TMI".

On a less personal level, I don't think we are obligated to share everything with our ... more
I totally agree here.
02/15/2011
Contributor: TeaganChase TeaganChase
There are things I do not tell my partner. More of a details thing he doesnt care to know. But if asked I am honest.
02/15/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
I had an ex who drunkenly forced me to tell him who of the guys I'd slept with had the biggest dicks and how big exactly they were and who was the best in bed. He wouldn't let me say that he was the best and then he held that information against me! Even after I was like, "This is irrelevant and all it's going to do is torment you." I agree that there are some things that don't need to be known and we should sometimes just ignore our curiosities.

But I wouldn't say that I have "sexual secrets" that I wouldn't reveal.
02/15/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
I have kept things from partners in the past but my current partner and I are much more open with each other. I'm pretty sure I've laid all my cards on the table. If there's something I haven't told him it's not because I'm keeping it from him but simply that it hasn't come up in conversation.
02/15/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
I have my secrets and so does he, but it's not about ruining the relationship. There are 8 years between us and a lot of time for him to be sexually active before I ever even thought about it. We are both entitled to our pasts and have never seen a point in digging too deep. Like Lucidity said, no need to torment or get hung up on the past.
02/15/2011