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Okay, about unprotected sex.(n00b.)

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Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I'm new to unprotected sex (my birth control package just finished so I started to try it recently) but I have had it twice. Though I feel like it's better without lube, as the clean up is MUCH less extensive... I found it was very difficult to get him 'in' even though I was very wet and aroused. He tried licking it and such, but it just kept drying up too quickly for him to put it in.

So is lube my only option here? If so, can I get some good, non sticky, but non expensive brands?

Once he got it in both times, it was fantastic, by the way!

Still afraid to let him cum inside, we've been pulling out, LMAO.
09/04/2011
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Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Hmmm, I know it sounds weird but.. even if I'm superwet or something, if the room is really chilly to me or something, he can't push it in, even if I'm wet and squishy.
Keep your core body temperature warm and it should help some.

Sidenote, what birth control do you use?
I use depo, and since we've been together for so long, he does cum inside.
I love it when he does, it's part of the experience I really love.
09/04/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Sliquid products are amazing. I like the Sassy and the Sea.
09/04/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
Well I NEED the fan on during sex, that's probably what it is. Also, I should note we did eventually get it in without lube yesterday; that was just great. <3 I'm on Loestrin FE.

I hope we work up the nerve. I've been fantasizing about him cumming inside. Mahaha.

And thanks Stormy for the advice on lube ^_^ Are any of those flavored? XD I like flavored, but I figure that's what makes it sticky.
09/04/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by emiliaa
Well I NEED the fan on during sex, that's probably what it is. Also, I should note we did eventually get it in without lube yesterday; that was just great. <3 I'm on Loestrin FE.

I hope we work up the nerve. I've been ... more
Glycerin is what makes it sticky, so yes there is a higher chance of getting a sticky lube. ID makes a strawberry-kiwi that was delightful (they have a sample pack if you want to try a variety of their lubes), but I don't get down with all of the chemicals they use so I only tasted it, I didn't actually use it on my bits.

Sliquid does have a flavored lube, I think it's strawberry. link

Well, ok it's strawberry pomegranate. They're committed to making vegan-friendly, chemical free lubes so it might be a great start.
09/04/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I'm not vegan but I do try to use vegan-friendly type things and feed my babies all natural pet food. <3 So that'd be a good way for me to contribute, though a bit expensive! Meh, what else am I gonna do with all the extra money 2 jobs is getting me. LOL
09/04/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm not vegan but I do try to use vegan-friendly type things and feed my babies all natural pet food. <3 So that'd be a good way for me to contribute, though a bit expensive! Meh, what else am I gonna do with all the extra money 2 jobs is ... more
That lube is worth its weight in gold. And the one thing I stress is to keep a small water bottle near the bedside table and use that to re-wet the lube instead of using more lube. I actually use a very small (travel-size) misting bottle (for perfumes and stuff) to re-wet it.
09/04/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
lube is your friend. always have a bottle sitting by the bed ready to go.
09/06/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
I'm wondering why you stopped using birth control any why no one else is finding that aspect odd.
09/06/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Istanbull
I'm wondering why you stopped using birth control any why no one else is finding that aspect odd.
The way I understood it is she just now got on the pill and they have stopped using (lubricated) condoms during sex and she's still apprehensive about the effectiveness of the pill and that it is a separate issue from her question.

And on second thought, her use or lack there of in regards to birth control is her own business. Maybe she's trying to have a baby...I don't see a problem there.
09/06/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I did NOT stop using birth control. You must have misread something!! LOL I only stopped using condoms, though I don't even think I mentioned that.
09/07/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Lol, I was a little confused myself.
09/07/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I realize which part was confusing now. LOL. I finished my first month's pack. I am still taking the pills! I was just told that after one complete pack it was okay to start having unprotected sex and NOT get pregnant.
09/10/2011
Contributor: cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
If you're afraid of mess, maybe stick with condoms? It's easier that way, I think. Feels slightly better without. I'm pretty sure that lube is the only way to fix the issue you're having - I generally stick with cheap stuff like Astroglide for my wallet's sake, but there's plenty of lube out there that's better. Try to get your hand on some Pjur samples (the actual bottles are really expensive, but the lube is nice).
07/08/2012